Sex With Emily

In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was qui...

In this episode, I'm covering the fifth pillar of Sexual Intelligence: self-acceptance. This is the pillar that ties everything else together, because no matter how embodied, healthy, collaborative, or self-aware you are, none of it lands if you can't accept yourself as you are right now. I'm talking about the "pleasure thieves" that steal our self-acceptance, like comparison, judgment, and perfec...

In this episode, I'm breaking down everything I learned about sex and relationships in my 30s… because this decade taught me lessons my 20s never could. I used to think if the chemistry faded, the relationship was over, but I discovered that real intimacy is something you build, not something you stumble into. I'm talking about why stress crushes desire more than attraction ever could, why respons...

Are you and your partner really collaborating in bed, or just going through the motions? In this episode, I'm diving deep into the third pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Collaboration. I break down why two people can be having sex without truly connecting, how sexual polarity creates that magnetic charge we all crave, and why desire mismatches don't have to drive a wedge between you and your partner...

In this episode, I'm diving deep into the second pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Health. I’ll be breaking down exactly how your physical and mental wellbeing are directly shaping your desire, arousal, and pleasure. I'm walking you through everything from movement, hydration, and hormonal balance to pelvic floor health, stress, trauma, and the negative self-talk that quietly steals your pleasure. If...

In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to explor...

Disclaimer: Today's episode is a recording from a live class I taught for my community on Embodiment: the first pillar of the Sex IQ Framework. You might hear some audience questions throughout, and the audio isn't our usual quality. Thanks for your patience! If you've ever found yourself distracted, disconnected, or just going through the motions during sex, this episode is for you. Today, I talk...

In this episode,  I'm breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you've ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn't know how to bring it up — or didn't even know what was "on the menu" — this episode is for you. I'll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how...

What if you've been measuring your sex life all wrong? In this episode, I explore why sexual satisfaction is about so much more than orgasms, performance, or how often you have sex. Together, we'll discuss how mindfulness, self-awareness, emotional connection, and open communication can help you create deeper pleasure and more fulfilling intimacy. I'll also share ways to let go of shame, strengthe...

What if the key to more pleasure isn't doing more… it's slowing down? In this workshop, I walk you through a practice that can help you become more present in your body, reduce stress, deepen self-awareness, and discover what truly feels good to you. We talk about why mindfulness and pleasure go hand in hand, how to create a self-pleasure ritual focused on exploration rather than performance, and...

What if the key to a better sex life has nothing to do with sex itself? In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Jennifer Cohen to explore the powerful connection between wellness, confidence, fitness, and sexual health. We talk about overcoming performance anxiety, why exercise can improve desire and arousal, the role honesty plays in intimacy, and whether chemistry can actually grow over time. P...

In this workshop, I'm answering your questions about desire, attraction, turn-ons, fantasies, and sexual connection. We explore why we're attracted to certain people and experiences, how to talk about sex with a partner without creating pressure, what to do when desire changes over time, and why feeling a spark for someone else doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with your relationship. Wh...

In this live episode recorded on May 21, 2026, I’m diving into how technology is reshaping our sex lives, relationships, dating habits, and emotional connection. From dating apps to social media, doomscrolling, and phone addiction, I unpack why so many of us feel more disconnected, overstimulated, anxious, and lonely despite being more digitally connected than ever. I also answer listener question...

In this livestream recorded on April 23, 2026, I’m diving into one of the most common and confusing issues in relationships: what happens when your sex life changes over time. We’re talking about desire mismatch, low libido, and why the “honeymoon phase” passion doesn’t stay the same forever(it’s completely normal). I also break down the real factors that impact sex drive, from stress and body ima...

In this livestream recorded on May 14, 2026, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about pelvic floor health, orgasms, bladder leaks, Kegels, pelvic pain, and why this part of your body affects way more than most people realize. I answer live listener questions about sneezing and peeing, period pain, pelvic floor tension, stronger orgasms, and the biggest mistakes people make when trying K...

In this live episode of Sex With Emily recorded on April 16, 2026, I answer your biggest questions about sex, attraction, intimacy, libido, dating, communication, and the orgasm gap. In this livestream, we talk about what actually helps women orgasm, why slowing down and communication matter so much in relationships, how medications can impact libido, signs someone is sexually attracted to you, da...

In this live episode of Sex With Emily recorded on May 7, 2026, I talk about what’s really going on in our sex lives right now, from low libido and mismatched desire to shame, porn expectations, dating struggles, and why so many couples feel disconnected. I answer your real questions about intimacy, kink, ethical non-monogamy, and how modern life (stress, phones, and social media) is impacting our...

On Today’s live podcast recording from April 9, 2026, I answer your real questions about masturbation, insecurity, kink, communication, and how to improve your sex life with curiosity and openness. We talk about why masturbation is a healthy part of a thriving relationship, how to overcome insecurities about sexual experience, and the importance of communication and exploration. I also dive into h...

In this episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about long-term relationships, desire, pleasure, communication, and what it actually takes to keep intimacy alive over time. We get into why so many couples feel disconnected after years together, how shame and stress impact our ability to receive pleasure, and why better sex starts with curiosity instead of pressure or performance. ...

In this episode live recording of Sex With Emily, I break down what’s really getting in the way of your pleasure, from the way most of us were taught about sex to why so many people feel disconnected, pressured, or stuck in their heads during intimacy. I explain how performance-based thinking replaces sensation, why desire changes over time, and what it actually takes to build trust with your body...

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I answer your real questions about sex, desire, and relationships while breaking down some of the biggest myths we’ve been taught, from porn shaping unrealistic expectations to the truth about size, pleasure, and communication. I also dive into why so many people feel blocked or “not normal” in their sex lives, how fantasies actually form, what really leads...

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they’re not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, ju...

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m answering your real, unfiltered questions, covering everything from casual sex and whether it’s actually right for you, to performance anxiety and what really happens to your sex life after the honeymoon phase ends. We get into how to talk to your partner about things like blood flow and stress playing a bigger role in arousal than you think, and how to...

I know what you're thinking. Missionary? Really? But hear me out,  because I genuinely believe missionary might be the most underrated position in existence, and the reason most people are bored by it has nothing to do with the position itself. It has everything to do with what they're not doing in it. In this episode, I'm breaking down every missionary myth, sharing the techniques that actually w...

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns sha...