Sacred by Design

The most brutal part of betrayal isn’t only what happened, it’s what it convinces you to believe about you. When you’re staring at timelines, screenshots, and credit card receipts, “I was replaced” can feel like the only honest conclusion. We slow that moment down and challenge the belief underneath it: that your being, your worth, and your value are replaceable.  We talk through the sneaky if/the...

Shame has a way of hijacking your identity. It doesn’t stop at “I made a mistake,” it goes straight for “I am the mistake,” and it can feel so true that you start organizing your whole life around hiding. We sit with how heavy shame feels, why it shows up in our bodies, and why it can be especially intense for women navigating unwanted sexual behavior or betrayal trauma. We break down a framework...

Betrayal doesn’t end after the “earthquake” moment of discovery. For many women, the next stage is worse in a different way: an emotional rollercoaster that can flip from rage to numbness to grief in a single day. If you’ve been thinking, “I don’t feel like myself,” we want you to hear this clearly: that whiplash can be a normal trauma response, not a personal failure. We break down the psychoeduc...

The fastest way to lose yourself is to live under a label you didn’t choose. We talk about why “what it means to be a woman” can feel so heavy, and how disqualifying messages from family of origin, culture, school, and church can quietly shape your choices, your relationships, and even your private coping strategies. We get personal about the molds we grew up with: pressure to be tough and take up...

Your personality might not be your personality. Sometimes it’s a survival strategy you perfected in an unsafe home, the version of you that kept the peace, stayed small, made everyone laugh, or never needed anything. Andrea and Kyle pull apart the idea of the "false self and true self," starting with a blunt reality: every child needs to be themselves and to be loved, and when those need...

A hidden struggle doesn’t just hurt you; it quietly rewrites your marriage. James Craig sits down with spiritual coaches Ann Donahue and Aaron Tagert to talk about one of the most loaded questions in sexual addiction recovery and marriage healing: what if my spouse doesn’t want to hear confession, or I’m convinced they’ll reject me if they really know me? We walk through practical recovery steps f...

What if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by‑play, and how to...

Betrayal doesn’t just break trust, it breaks your inner compass. One day you’re functioning, the next you’re asking, “Am I healing or am I stuck?” and you can’t even tell which way is up. We sit down with Tammy Gustafson, therapist and betrayed partner, to get painfully clear about the predictable places women get stuck after infidelity, pornography use, and other sexual integrity breaches, and wh...

Redeeming Desire: Listening to the Ache and Meeting God There In this episode, we discuss how desire has been distorted by both a culture that says to gratify it and religious voices that say to shut it down, and invite a more careful, redeemed view.  Desire is described as a deep ache that tells the truth about what the heart longs for, not simply a problem to manage with pornography, fantasy, er...

Ever notice how fantasy shows up right when you feel most alone? We get honest about why sexual fantasy feels comforting, why it keeps you stuck, and how to turn your mind from a private escape hatch into a place of healing and creativity. Without shaming or quick fixes, we walk through a simple “gift box” framework—unwrap, look inside, reach in—that helps you name the storyline, locate the deeper...

If betrayal made you feel small, doubtful, or invisible, this conversation offers language, tools, and hope. We sit down with Kat Etherington, Director for Recovery at the Naked Truth Project, to unpack what shame actually is, why it often predates a relationship crisis, and how to begin healing without rushing yourself into more pain. Kat brings rare clarity from both sides of the work—as a betra...

Intimacy shouldn’t feel like a test you can fail. We open a gentler way to relate to Jesus—one built on safety, honesty, and trust—so that even those carrying unwanted sexual desires, betrayal, trauma, or unanswered prayers can step toward connection without pressure or performance. Rather than chasing a perfect quiet time, we explore how everyday moments become holy ground: the clink of dishes, a...

What if the thing you fear—letting people in—is the very thing that heals you fastest? We open up about why isolation intensifies shame, why “being right” without being known leaves you empty, and how a few safe relationships can anchor recovery, restore trust after betrayal, and steady your identity when everything feels uncertain. We get practical about building community that actually helps. Yo...

Memory can feel like a trap… until it becomes a path back to wholeness. We chose remember as our word for the year, not to force a walk through old pain, but to gently re-member the parts of ourselves that splintered under grief, betrayal, and shame. Together we ask better questions, listen to what our bodies are telling us, and trust that God is already meeting us in the details we often overlook...

Singleness often exists in the shadows of our cultural conversation, especially in faith communities where marriage is frequently celebrated as the ultimate destination. But what if your life's unexpected path includes long-term singleness? How do you navigate sexuality, loneliness, and purpose when the "happily ever after" narrative hasn't materialized as planned? Connelly Gil...

“Sometimes Sunday is the loneliest hour of my week.”  That confession lit a fuse.  We open up about singleness, sexual desire, and belonging in the church, and why treating marriage as the finish line keeps too many people stuck on the fringes. In this episode, we explore the quiet messages singles hear, the subtle social silos that form, and the deeper invitation God offers to all of us: a life o...

Join us for the final week of our special mini-series on Advent. If you missed the previous episodes, we explored the intersections of Mary's yes and our sexual struggle, and the importance of finding connection and community. Today, we dive into Mary's song, reading Luke 1:46-55, and reflecting on how it speaks to us in this season. Listen as we personalize these lyrics to find our own...

Amidst life's challenges, where do we find the strength and support to navigate our most vulnerable moments? Join us as we reflect on the  story of Mary and Elizabeth in this special Advent mini-series on Sacred by Design. With  Executive director Josh Glaser and Kyle, we explore the parallels between Mary's path to motherhood and our own pursuit of sexual wholeness. Discover how Mary&ap...

In today's episode, Host Andrea and Josh (host of Becoming Whole podcast) discuss the advent season's significance and how it relates to many of the personal struggles addressed at Regenertion. We invite you to reflect on how the Christmas story, particularly the incarnation, intersects with issues like sexual struggles and personal wounds.  The discussion centers on Mary's experien...

In this episode of Sacred by Design, we meet Kristen Miele, a sex educator passionate about equipping families with the language and tools to discuss sex and sexuality. Kristen shares insights on her curriculum, Sex Ed Reclaimed, which aims to provide a biblically based education for children and teens. The conversation covers the importance of addressing topics like dating, puberty, and identity...

This episode of Sacred by Design delves into the often-overlooked issue of pornography addiction among women. We highlight the nature of pornography, the shame it brings, and the silence women maintain around this struggle. We want to break this silence by offering the three C’s: (Content, Coaching, and Community) showing the importance of integrating knowledge through resources, personal coaching...

What happens when the world you trusted comes crashing down with betrayal? Join us on Sacred by Design as we welcome back Anne, a dedicated voice in the realm of betrayal trauma recovery. Together, we unpack the whirlwind of emotions that accompany the discovery of infidelity and shine a light on the path to healing. Anne shares some essential steps for reclaiming one's identity and emotional...

Have you ever wondered about your own sacredness and intentional design by God? This episode of "Sacred by Design" promises to reshape your understanding of self-worth and sexuality. In this episode we aim to uplift and inspire, revealing how the persistent and loving pursuit of God can transform our perception of being precious and purposefully created. We'll also explore the vital...

In this episode of Sacred by Design, Kyle addresses the common misconceptions around the word 'sacred.' She explains that many people feel unworthy of being called sacred due to their flaws, sins, or life experiences. However, she emphasizes that sacredness is a status granted by God, not something earned by human effort. By understanding that they are created by God, we can begin to emb...

Feeling disqualified or unworthy? Today's episode of Sacred by Design is here to remind you that you are profoundly loved and inherently sacred. Have you ever savored a cup of coffee or felt the warmth of the sun on your face during a walk in the woods? These moments of joy are reflections of God's delight in you. Join us as we explore "Sacredness" and reassure you that you are...