Road Least Travelled - A journey of the Soul

People who tell you to be grateful when you’re unhappy are more harmful than helpful. They are making you even more unhappy, and making you feel guilty for feeling ungrateful. Don't listen to people who have no idea what you are going through. Don't force yourself to be grateful. Instead, feel your pain, feel your suffering, feel your sadness. Don't skip that and go straight to feeling...

Have you been told to be the “bigger person”? Have you been told that you’re selfish for refusing to be the punching bag? And do you feel guilty for walking away? Scapegoats have been trained to be everyone's punching bag and trashcan since childhood. Of course you would feel guilty for refusing to continue. You need to recalibrate your thinking. Wanting to be heard, wanting respect for how yo...

Website YouTube If you'd like to support my channel Letters to my goddaughter I've been asked many times, how do we love ourselves? What does self love feel like? I went through a very long and hard journey, a lot of self reflection and deep questioning. And I want to tell you that you don't have to re-tramatize yourself over and over or go through the same abuse from different people...

Have you been gaslighted and manipulated to confusion? Do you have contradictory thoughts about who you are? Do you struggle with decision making and knowing what you want? Do you fee guilty for being happy? Are there always voices in your head ridiculing you and condemning every move you make? Website If you'd like to support my channel Letters to my goddaughter Stop all that now. Here's...

Covert narcissism, narcissistic abuse and scapegoating are under-researched. Many therapists, psychologists and mental health clinicians don't know much about covert narcissism and scapegoat abuse. As a result they re-traumatize the client over and over. They do not understand the insidious nature of scapegoat abuse, especially from a covert narcissist. Scapegoating can happen in any dysfuncti...

Beware of scams. Meditation is simple. Meditation is about clarity of mind. It's about clearing past baggage and thoughts of the future so we can receive messages from our higher self. Here I give you a 2-step tutorial on how to do it. When we don't complicate the concept of meditation, and when we don't put gurus and spiritual "experts" on the pedestal, simple meditation cle...

When you love someone, nothing you do for them feels like a sacrifice. Sacrifice is one of the most barren, self-pitying and self-aggrandising words. And when said, it puts a huge burden on the other person, and guilt-trips them. Plus, it makes the person saying it sound like a dumbass. A sacrifice is when you’re forced to sit on top of your husband’s funeral pyre so his soul can be cleansed. Jesu...

Website Letters to my goddaughter If you'd like to buy me a coffee You’ve suffered for most of your life as a scapegoat. You stuck with them, you were loyal, you tried so hard to help them, tried so hard to have a healthy relationship with them. Tried so hard to protect them from each other. Don’t you deserve at least some financial compensation? Some considerations of staying in a toxic and d...

If you'd like to support my channel Website Substack Reconciliation or even trying to explain to a Golden Child your reality as a Scapegoat is challenging. They have been brainwashed and manipulated for too long. Narcissistic or dysfunctional parents triangulate their children and pit them against each other, making them compete for the parents' love and attention. The Scapegoat is targete...

This is a true story of 2 people I knew who died from scapegoat abuse. The purpose of this podcast is to create awareness of the dangers of this invisible abuse. So if you think you're a scapegoat, please seek help from a professional therapist who is knowledgable and experienced in this type of abuse. This is also to educate those that are unaware of how insidious and horrific this type of ab...

Forgiveness is over-rated. Everyone tells you to forgive. That's BS. It's spiritual bypassing. Forgiveness is not an act, it's not something you do. Forgiveness comes naturally and effortlessly when you take care of yourself. When you make the effort to heal yourself. For yourself. So stop trying to forgive.

They have lived the lives they wanted at your expense. It’s now time to live yours. Create a dream life for yourself. Scapegoating need not be a life-sentence. Your life is worth living. The injustices of being given the role of the scapegoat are hideous and cruel. But you remain strong, compassionate and kind. At the core, you are intelligent and wise. Those are the traits of a scapegoat. Break t...

Scapegoats, you’ve spent most of your life wondering if your dysfunctional family and extended family members know what’s going on. You’ve done your best to please them to no avail. You start to believe that you’re the toxic, mean spirited, selfish, narcissistic and shameful failure that they see you as.  So you set out to heal yourself. To become a better person. You search online, you go into fo...

Today I want to tell you a story that will stay in my mind for the rest of my life. I was on my way to the Taj Mahal, walking along the busy streets of Agra. The distinct smell of India, hot masala chai, golden deep-fried puri, cloves, aniseed, curry leaves, jasmine, sandalwood, the smell of decay and rotting garbage. Dogs, pigs, donkeys, peacocks adding to the already crowded streets. Cows lying...

We all knew as very young children, what our purpose in life is. So it’s not about searching for your purpose. Rather, discovering it by peeling off all of society’s conditioning, peer pressure, family expectations, of all words that limit the inner knowing of your purpose. Our programming and conditioning are the shackles that bind us to small ideas, small concepts, small understandings of this b...

Here are some headlines on my feed the other day: "Why highly successful people are prone to depression." "Highly successful people are at higher risk for depression." "Why the super-successful get depressed." Doesn't this sound ludicrous to you? Senseless, weird, odd, strange? Or is it just me? What nonsense is this? We need to re-define what success means in tod...

Some of us will continue to perpetuate the cycle of anger, hate, fear and destruction. And the cycle will continue. But for some the time has come for us to turn those emotions into something more powerful. When all external avenues have been exhausted I hope we turn inwards to fight our internal battles and cleanse ourselves spiritually. To heal the world all we have to do is heal ourselves. I kn...

You start with emotional fasting. There's no point in making new year resolutions when we don't flush out the underlying issues. 1. Minimise the time you spend on watching and reading the news. By all means get an overview of what’s going on but don’t indulge. To know what’s going on in the world and to have an objective view of it, we can be more effective in deciding what we can do, or a...

What if I said you can overcome this without having to change yourself? Because being trusting, generous and kind, are good qualities you don’t want to lose. And yet those are the very qualities that create one disappointment after another. People who are naïve and trusting have 3 choices. The path you take will either make you a lifelong doormat, a cynic with a miserable life, or a balanced perso...

Here are 8 types of people to avoid when you’re going though spiritual awakening. This depends on which stage of the spiritual journey you’re at. If you’re at the beginning, then you should most definitely avoid them, until you’re strong enough to take them on. If you’re not strong enough, you will be pulled down by them. Stay away from them if you want your journey to be a bit smoother.  Spiritua...

To know if you’re getting messages from your intuition, you need to know what else is talking to you. What are the voices in your head. If you’re not sure, then go through a process of elimination. It’ll help you identify which messages are from your intuition and for you highest good. And which voices are noise from other people. The thoughts that are not from your intuition are these: 1. Thinkin...

Naming your emotions makes it easier to process them. My sadness is called Tinkerbell. When I’m sad, I say, now now, Tinkerbell, your mascara’s running down your face. Tell you what, let’s get you something waterproof from Amazon ok? My anger is called Agnes. When she’s angry, I tell her it’s ok, Agnes, go on, be angry… then I watch her punch holes in the wall. I named my anxiety Alex. When anxiou...

How many do you have? 1. They know that putting up a front kills their spirit slowly. 2. They have a clear sense of self. Through honest introspection they’re proud of their strengths and they own their weaknesses. They’re not ashamed to show their flaws. 3. They don’t have to remember anything they say, because only liars have to. 4. They know when they’re in the wrong and they apologize. They do...

Very often the black sheep is the one with integrity and compassion. They’re never the ones that badmouth their abusers. It’s the other way around. They’re also the ones with tremendous capacity to absorb all the blows for themselves as well as for other family members. So if you encounter someone who’s difficult and hard to like, please consider being kind to them. They’re not the office politici...

Scapegoats are isolated because they’re truth see’ers. That makes them a threat. They see too much. In a dysfunctional family nobody wants to see what’s happening. Instead they toe the line, keep quiet, and remain in fear and survival mode. Not the scapegoat. The scapegoat is persistent in seeking the truth. At first, the scapegoat was isolated by family, then they carry those vibes with them, and...