Remembering You

Many of us were told to "Calm down", "Don't get so emotional", or "Keep yourself under control!" We assume having a regulated nervous system means we should be calm and relaxed all the time. This is not what nervous system regulation is about. Let's explore this wonderful, visceral world that is integral to the experience of being a human. Given the fast pace...

In 1995, Ken Wilber published Sex, Ecology, and Spirituality —an enormous text that attempted to combine the latest in Western science and psychology with ancient Eastern wisdom traditions. Aliceanne recently found herself reading an email from Ken's organization Integral Life that revisited the 20 tenants he laid out in that book. https://integrallife.com/experience/holons As she read, she wa...

Most personality frameworks look at external traits to determine what makes us different. This is a valid way to understand personality, but it leaves us with lots of unanswered questions. If you've ever wondered WHY you and the people in your life do what you do, this episode is for you! Two types can, for example, look confident and forward-thinking on the outside but have completely differe...

The Enneagram is usually presented as a personality typing framework—and it is, at one level. But it is so much more than that! What even IS a personality, really? (And what is it not?) Can it tell us anything helpful for our everyday life? Could it help us see the deeper truths of reality itself? Aliceanne ( type 7 ) and Ryan (type 9 ) talk about the history of the Enneagram, what makes an assess...

Last episode we felt we barely scratched the surface of what it means to be a human in a body. For decades, psychologists, physical therapists, and other researchers have asked the question, "How does the mind show up in the body?" This episode we walk through one of Aliceanne's favorite models for how our early life development shapes our physical body and our psychological response...

Aliceanne discovered last year she has something called aphantasia: she cannot "see" anything behind her mind's eye. An estimated 1% to 5% of people experience no visual imagery when they close their eyes. But that does not mean they do not have a rich, vibrant inner world! It's simply experienced through different "channels" of human perception: narrative / storytellin...

Living in a scarcity mindset reduces your cognitive capacity by the equivalent of 13 to 14 IQ points, according to Harvard economist Sendhil Mullainathan and Princeton psychologist Eldar Shafir. An abundance mindset is so much more than wishful thinking! It’s an upgrade that changes the grey matter of your brain. You are literally building a bigger, stronger mind capable of spotting opportunities...

Most people have heard of the 10 Commandments from the Christian Bible. But did you know the Buddhists have a nearly identical teaching? And how is ANY of this relevant or interesting for a secular, modern human dealing with the complexities of our world today? Surely if God is all-knowing and powerful, He could have created a better list than what He delivered to Moses on Mount Sinai?! We also ta...

In the second half of our exploration of how humans react to discomfort, we unpack the good news! The same powerful laws of cause and effect can be harnessed for our increasing freedom, insight, and ultimate liberation from suffering . Pulling from Dr. Joe Loizzo's forty years’ experience studying the beneficial effects of contemplative practices on healing, learning and development, we reveal...

This episode is a 2-part series on a how humans respond to discomfort. Do we react, and like struggling in quicksand, further ensure ourselves in yet more suffering? Or, can we learn to relate to the moment in a way that frees our mind, body, and heart? In this first part, we unpack the "reactive" movements of this universal pattern in each human's life. Learning to relate to it with...

Aliceanne recently read a big 'ol paper titled Knowing and Unknowing Reality by Dr. Tom Murray. The paper is a masterclass of the 4th Person Perspective--the developmental level that welcomes uncertainty and ambiguity. This is a humble party where curiosity and not-knowing are the primary mode. For some, uncertainty evokes nihilism or cynicism--for others, excitement and wonder. There is not a...

From Sunday school songs about David and Goliath to Superhero movies to politics on the world stage, archetypes are under it all. But, what the heck is an archetype? And why should any of us who are not philosophers care at all? Join us as we talk about where this term originated, how it's been understood through human history, and how we can engage with it in our everyday lives. Website | www...

We probably attempted to bite off more than we could chew with this episode. (But when has that ever stopped us?!) Life is an experience of opposites. Light, dark; good, bad; right, wrong. Every one of us instinctively fights this substrate of life itself. We don't like things that feel bad. We see an enemy out in the world. There seems to be more than ever of that these days. How can we hold...

Are the objects we perceive as "real" as they seem to be? And what could that possibly have to do with everyday human life? For thousands of years, humans have been noticing something interesting about the nature of their minds. Modern science has been discovering the same thing, but about the physical world around us. Emptiness simultaneously points to a void as well as an ocean of poss...

This week, we are stepping into a conversation about the deep current of our  values and desires . Many of us have gone through those abstract corporate values exercises, but values are far more central than a list on a wall. They are the "North Star" that helps us decide whether to move right or left in any given moment. But what happens when the values you’re living by aren't actua...

"...knowledge is limited...while imagination embraces the entire world..." When Albert Einstein dropped that truth bomb, he wasn't just talking about physics—he was pointing toward a vital, often forgotten part of our human operating system. In a world that prizes the "rational" to the point of burnout, have we accidentally divorced ourselves from the very capacity that makes life feel meaningful?...

Is aging a problem to be solved, or an initiation to be entered? In a culture obsessed with "age-defying" creams, AI-smoothed wrinkles, and the frantic pursuit of perpetual youth, we often lose the map to our own elderhood. This week on  Remembering You , we explore the profound transition from the "first half of life"—focused on building identity and ego—into the spacious, oft...

Everyone has heard about  “the soul.” But what the heck does that really mean? Is it a religious concept? A psychological one? Something mystical? Or just a word we inherited from antiquity? In this episode we unpack the strange, slippery idea of the  soul —and what people might mean when they talk about  “doing soul work.” Ryan shares the framework he grew up with inside the Christian tradition (...

Join us for a wide‑open journey into the heart of Big Bend National Park. In this special road‑trip episode, we take you with us—Jeep noise, canyon echoes, desert silence and all—as we wander through rugged mountains, river‑carved canyons, star‑strewn skies, and the inner landscapes that mirror them. Across long stretches of highway and high‑desert trails, we explore the art of slowing down, liste...

Content note / Trigger Warning: In this episode, we touch on the topics of rape and sexual assault. While the discussion is not graphic in nature, we recognize that these experiences are deeply personal and can be activating for some listeners. Please take care of yourself as you listen, or skip this episode. Ever feel like you're either absorbing everyone else's emotions until you're completely d...

Forgiveness is one of those words we think we understand… until life asks something harder of us. In this episode, we step beneath the surface of the word itself—into its roots, its texture, its demand. Not as a moral rule. Not as a spiritual bypass. But as a lived, relational, moment-to-moment practice that becomes most real when we are hurt, triggered, or disoriented. We open a personal window i...

This week we chase the current that runs through everything alive: Polarity. The delicious ache of tension begging for release. The magnet that repels until it flips and slams together. The childhood fight that ends in tears and then inseparable play. The first-date silence that crackles louder than words. We talk about how trying not to think about the pink elephant only makes it stomp louder. Ho...

Now that you CAN talk, let's talk about Power! Ever wonder why Power feels like a sneaky puppet master pulling your strings without you even noticing? Turns out, your baby brain was basically in zombie mode 24/7 (for two whole years!)—deep, slow waves designed to absorb every vibe around you like a cosmic sponge, wiring you for lifelong control quirks. Join us as we unpack the secrets of Power: fr...

What  are  emotions—and why do they feel so overwhelming sometimes? In this episode, we slow things down and return to the basics. We explore what emotions actually are, where they come from, and how they show up in the body  before  we ever put words or stories to them. Rather than treating emotions as problems to fix or manage away, we look at them as meaningful signals—messengers pointing towar...

What happens when you spring a “light Saturday morning topic” like  the nature of consciousness  on your partner… with zero warning? Apparently: a little groaning, a lot of laughter, some Sanskrit (attempted), and a surprisingly practical path back to the body. In this episode, we wander through a few verses from a 14th Century Buddhist text titled  Dṛg-Dṛśya-Viveka  (discernment between the seer...