Relationships Let's Talk About It!

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I discuss the pattern. of prioritizing people who cannot or will not fully show up for you – emotionally, consistently or mutually – while neglecting yo...

In this solocast  I talk about it is often easier to give love, kindness, support, etc., than to receive them for a mix of psychological, emotional, and cultural reasons. Giving seems to feel more natural and rewarding for many people, while receiving requires vulnerability that can feel uncomfortable or evening threatening. And yet both giving and receiving are essential for healthy relationships...

Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny. In this episode, Derek and I di...

Aaron Froehlich moved to North Carolina in 2022 seeking a more intimate connection to the nature along with a deeper experience of belonging through community. He is a lifelong spiritual seeker and meditation practitioner, an avid student and teacher of Compassionate Communication as well as an active volunteer with Emberlight, the Center for Conscious Living and Dying. He works for Cornell Univer...

Neil Taylor is the Founder and CEO of Me & My Old Man, a family storytelling project and podcast designed to help families preserve the life stories, voices, and memories of their parents and grandparents. In this episode, Neil and I discuss the importance of not putting off asking our parents' stories. What kind of questions are meaningful to ask and to not avoid asking what you really want to kn...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I continue our conversation about the challenges in talking about hard topics and ways we avoid doing it. We share personal stories as well as understan...

In this solocast   I answer two listeners' questions.   How do I know this is the right person for me and if not how to know when to break up? How do i express my needs with the conversation not turning into a fight? Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationship...

Aaron Froehlich moved to North Carolina in 2022 seeking a more intimate connection to the nature along with a deeper experience of belonging through community. He is a lifelong spiritual seeker and meditation practitioner, an avid student and teacher of Compassionate Communication as well as an active volunteer with Emberlight, the Center for Conscious Living and Dying. He works for Cornell Univer...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about the challenges in talking about hard topics and ways we avoid doing it. We share personal stories as well as understandings...

In this solocast   I talk about probably the most important decision you will make in your life, choosing a partner. A strong match can amplify happiness, health and success for decades; where a poor one can drain energy, create chaos and affect children adversely. In the beginning when dating, date with intention rather than desperation or just entertainment. Know yourself well so you are clearer...

Phoebe Klaus, L.Ac, MTOM is a practitioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine specializing in pediatric and teen wellness. A joyful devotee of Mother Earth, she explores the deep relationships between people, plants, and the spirit that connects all living things. From her off-grid home in the Appalachian forest, Phoebe spends her days growing and processing herbs, tending her homestead, and learning...

Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny. In this episode, Derek and I ha...

In this solocast   I talk about how love is a verb, it is in our actions. Possessiveness is usually guised in what people believe love is or in their ways they love. So we need to choose loving action over control. The idea that love is a verb emphasizes that love isn't primarily a passive feeling, emotion, or static "thing" you fall into or possess. Instead it's an active practice; a series of de...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about a common but damaging pattern blame shifting and deflection. This repeated pattern creates a "blame game" or a criticize-def...

Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, attorney, and author who helps individuals heal from infidelity and relationship betrayal on emotional, legal, and spiritual levels. A former attorney turned coach, she blends trauma-informed guidance, somatic attachment therapy, hypnotherapy, and intuitive insight to support both betrayed and betraying partners in rebuilding self-trust, rep...

Dan Hadley is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with over 36 years of clinical experience. Throughout his career, he has worked with a variety of therapeutic approaches, including Gestalt, psychodynamic, and systems-based therapies. He has practiced in diverse settings and worked with clients ranging from adolescents to adults. Dan's primary focus has always been on relationships—how...

Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice-empowering workshops,...

When was the last time you said 'I'm sorry' and truly meant it? It is often easy to say the words, but to truly feel sorry - to be vulnerable, take accountability, and try to change a bad behavior or habit - it can often prove more difficult. We tend to say 'I am sorry' when we feel embarrassed about mistakes or trying to appease another person. The art of apologizing is a critical skill we must l...

In this solocast   I talk about allowing and accepting influence from your partner is one of the most powerful yet underappreciated ingredients in building a strong, lasting committed relationship. Couples who practice accepting influence experience; less gridlock, fewer escalating conflicts, greater emotional safety and trust, better co-parenting, and higher overall happiness and relationship sat...

Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestal...

In this episode, Chris Ehardt and I discuss his experience of going through a home remodel for 4 years with his wife. Chris discusses the many factors that enabled he and his wife to navigate through trial and error to stay connected, respectful and loving through their home remodel. We identify and discuss such areas as communication, shared goals, negotiating and compromising skills, patience, c...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about the fear of confrontation. Most people aren't comfortable confronting others. That's normal. But if you avoid speaking up about your own...

In this solocast I talk about the desire to change our partner and how well that works (tongue and cheek). It is reasonable to expect personal growth and evolution within a relationship, but this should be a shared journey of self-reflection and mutual support, not a one-sided demand. People can change, and that is when they truly want to! Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes Managing Expectati...

Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny. In this episode, Derek and I di...

Phoebe Klaus, L.Ac, MTOM is a practitioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine specializing in pediatric and teen wellness. A joyful devotee of Mother Earth, she explores the deep relationships between people, plants, and the spirit that connects all living things. From her off-grid home in the Appalachian forest, Phoebe spends her days growing and processing herbs, tending her homestead, and learning...