Relationship Dish

This week as a special "side dish", we air part 1 of our "Love Through The Ages" interview with Sandra and Laird, a couple that have been together for 37 years and are still wonderfully happy.   The road was not easy. It was a second marriage for both (divorce stats for second marriages are even worse than for first marriages), Laird had children and most of the "honeymoon" period of this relation...

This week the therapists dish and dive about grief. Not the grief we feel from the death of a person, but rather the death of a fantasy. When we realize that our partner is not exactly what we want or cannot meet certain expectations or longings, we go through a similar process to the grief process. We feel angry, we bargain, we deny and ultimately if we can accept what is, then we can fully griev...

Happy Valentine's Day! This week listen in as the therapists dish and dive about what it truly means to love your partner. Sometimes we have to do away with the image we create  of our partner, so we can meet and fall in love with who this person really is. They learn that this is not a selfish thing, that another person is not out on this earth to fill all of our fantasies, but rather to be loved...

This week the therapists continue with part 2 of Yours, Mine and Ours.   They continue to delve into issues and feelings that are hard to separate out and try to get to the bottom of whose responsibility they are.  They learn that it is clarity that helps us to  name and own our own feelings and teach the listeners how to get this clarity that we all need to untangle the mess and have better relat...

This week the therapists work hard to figure out what's yours, mine and ours regarding feelings and responsibility for action in relationships. It can be really tricky to pull that knot apart and really understand what we ourselves are responsible for in our relationships. Typically we are responsible for our own feelings, and for communicating those feelings to our partners, but faulty messages f...

This week the therapists dish and dive on the dilemma they have being big complainers about their partners, yet still wanting to be supportive of them and wanting them to feel like they have their backs.    Knowing their partners emotional state is helpful to increase compassion and understanding when they are also triggered by their behaviours. Of course they know that its important to avoid the...

Welcome to season 3 everyone!   This week listen in as the therapists open the new season with a dish and a dive about the difference between surviving and thriving. Iona talks about being stuck in survival mode for so long that she doesn't even notice that some of her responses in her marriage are still coming from that place, even though there is no evidence that she is in any emotional danger....

Hey dishers, we're back with Season 3! We have some exciting new episodes for you, so please listen in on Jan 16 for our season 3 debut! and as always Happy coupling!   Iona & Pam