Relational Rants

A comment telling me to "turn the Wi-Fi off" turned into a much bigger reflection. In this episode of Relational Rants, I'm looking beyond the headlines and hot takes to examine the rhetoric surrounding sex, masculinity, femininity, and the way we relate to one another. We talk about emotions, pleasure, contradictions, value systems and the stories we keep repeating, often without re...

In this episode, I’m discussing the recent discourse surrounding , professional credibility, licensure, and the growing blur between influence, expertise, perception, and public trust. I explore the importance of credentialing, the liability and responsibility attached to mental health work, and how language, presentation, and proximity to expertise can shape public perception. I also challenge so...

In this episode, I explore the emotional complexity of parental estrangement, family roles, boundaries, accountability, and the discomfort many people have with relational distance. I reflect on my current estrangement from my father, the failed attempts at repair that preceded it, and the backlash that often comes when adult children stop maintaining relationships at the expense of themselves. We...

We have more access than ever...passwords, locations, Ring cameras, notifications for everything...and somehow, we feel less secure. In this episode, I unpack how surveillance has quietly become a stand-in for trust. From checking your partner’s location to watching every movement on your front door camera, we’re constantly “tuned in”… but at what cost? I explore how this level of access is impact...

In this episode, I’m talking about the obsession with shaming and ridiculing fat people on the internet and why it’s not really about health. Because when people say they’re “concerned about health,” but lead with shame, criticism, and disrespect… we have to ask: what is actually going on here? I get into projection, control, Ozempic, fitness, and how much of this conversation is rooted in fear, e...

Are people really taking advantage of us… or are we overextending ourselves and calling it generosity? In this off-the-cuff episode, I’m unpacking what we actually mean when we say “I feel taken advantage of.” Because sometimes… it’s not about them taking. It’s about what we keep giving. We loan out our stability. Our regulation. Our capacity. And yes—that’s human. That’s relational. But when we f...

Everybody’s quick to point out the red flags in dating — the love bombing, the $200 dates, the “good morning” texts. But what if the real question is: What are you bringing into the pool? Sometimes the biggest issue isn’t the other person’s behavior. It’s emotional regulation, perception, and the things we refuse to see about ourselves. Because everybody can spot the poop…just not their own.  J. M...

Gifts are nice…but being remembered? That hits different.

"Playtonic," a word born from a Cam Newton clip — becomes the doorway into a larger question: How much of our lives are governed by the identities we cling to? In this episode, J. Marie explores identity as performance, discussing the roles we maintain, protect, and sometimes hide inside. From Peter Pan archetypes to North West’s self-expression, from desirability to self-concept, this c...

This episode begins with cultural fatigue with the same arguments, the same justifications, the same talking points, and asks a simple question: Can we actually think this through? This isn’t an argument for or against monogamy or polyrelationships. It’s a conversation about capacity, responsibility, and inadequacy — historically, relationally, and emotionally. If someone can’t fully show up for o...

This episode is a gentle year-end reflection. I talk about where I’ve been, my health flare-up, grief, dissociation, autopilot, and the quiet courage of just continuing. I share what I’m leaving behind, what I’m bringing with me, and what this year unearthed in me. If you’ve been in a season of survival, fatigue, or slow rebuilding — you’re not alone.

Meet Maddie the Baddie-My Mad Scientist #JMarie #UnMuted #RelationalRants #WisdomInMadness

In this episode, I introduce you to a part of myself I call Maddie the Baddie, my internal mad scientist who sees patterns, analyzes everything, and protects me with psychological precision. This conversation was sparked by Gucci Mane’s latest Breakfast Club interview, where he speaks openly about mental health, healing, and the “mad man” who still lives inside him. We dig into:• The gift and curs...

The scent of clean closets, bacon with notes of bleach—always meant safety in my grandmother’s house. She lived by structure, discipline, and routine. In this episode, I talk about how my grandmother held our world together after crisis. We didn’t always see eye to eye, but she’s been one of the most consistent people in my life. This is a tribute to her, to the generations of women who parented t...

In this intimate and layered reflection, J. Marie unpacks what it means to be called — not just as a therapist, but as a soul who entered this world with a knowing. A knowing of what others need. A knowing of how to hold pain. A knowing she didn’t ask for but was born carrying. Drawing a bold parallel between herself and Jesus, she explores the weight of being deeply devoted to the healing of othe...

🚨 Mercury Retrograde EditionHe spun the block. Again. With defamation in the subject line. This surprise drop is not a regular episode. It’s an anniversary. A ritual. A remembering. I’m telling the whole story—restraint, rage, receipts, and spam folder emails. Because the truth is, some people only know how to lose. And if you keep entertaining them? You’ll lose too. From Shonda Rhimes references...

Whew! Where do I begin? In this episode of Unmuted: Relational Rants and Real Talk, I unpack a “promising” connection that unraveled faster than he could plan a proper date. From the passive pursuit to the confession that he was married (yep, MARRIED), we’re walking through all the red flags—from subtle to scorching. This ain’t bitterness. This is discernment. And if you’ve ever been left reeling...

This episode wasn’t planned. A tragic story out of Chicago shook me—and I pressed record. What followed was a raw unraveling: grief, memory, defense, self-reflection, and the parts of me that show up when the world feels unsafe. I talk about the tragedy, about my own past, about what it means to hold space for someone you want to side-eye and cry for. I speak about PTSD, protection, and how I’m st...

In this episode of Unmuted, J. Marie, a licensed therapist, shares her journey of authenticity, vulnerability, and the challenges of emotional labor in her profession, as well as in her personal life. She discusses the importance of being seen and heard, the struggles with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, and the creative outlets that help her express herself. J. Marie emphasizes the significa...