Relational Alchemy

What if the grief you've been carrying in your head could only be released through your body? What if the relationship that collapsed was actually the thing that brought you back to yourself? What if reinvention isn't something you plan, but something your body leads you toward when you finally stop running from the pain? In this episode I'm joined by Helen Phelan, founder of Helen...

What if the very thing you want to fix about your partner is actually the thing you're meant to heal in yourself? What if the urge to control, fix, or chase reassurance from your partner isn't about them at all? What if your partner isn't the problem, and isn't the solution either, but the mirror? In this follow-up solo episode, I'm picking up where last week's power...

What if the fighting, the triggering, and the distance you're feeling in your relationship aren't signs that something is wrong, but signs that something important is trying to surface? In this solo episode, I'm diving deep into one of the most misunderstood phases of relationships: the power struggle. It's the phase that follows the honeymoon, and it's the one that ends m...

What if astrology wasn’t about predicting your future… but about understanding how you relate ? In this episode, I’m joined by astrologer and one of my closest friends, Isa Nakazawa, to explore astrology as a deeply relational language. Together, we unpack how your birth chart can reveal the patterns, defenses, and inner dynamics that shape your relationships. We talk about the overlap between ast...

In this episode we explore: What the shame triangle is and how it shapes the way people experience themselves and their relationships  The difference between the inner critic, the shame part, and the protective escape strategies that follow  Why shame is often one of the biggest obstacles to healing, accountability, and repair  How perfectionism, people-pleasing, shutdown, projection, and conflict...

In this episode we explore: The difference between regulating your nervous system and actually healing it  How attachment wounds drive anxiety, control, and conflict in relationships  Why triggers are invitations to tend to your own body instead of reacting outward  The hidden ways control shows up in dating, communication, and expectations  How the “not enough” wound shapes rejection, abandonment...

In this episode we explore: • Why your relationship patterns don’t disappear when you walk into work  • The difference between internal authority and outsourcing validation  • How triggers at work mirror childhood and attachment wounds  • The hidden cost of perfectionism, people pleasing, and over-functioning  • Why your nervous system recreates familiar stress and rejection  • The link between se...

In this episode we explore: • Why surface conflicts are never the real issue • The shared wound underneath couples fights • How survival mode shapes attraction patterns • Projection and inner child triggers in relationships • A practical way to spot and shift your relational cycles About Rachel Kelly: Rachel helps people to rewire their nervous systems out of survival mode and build secure attachm...

Have you ever felt frustrated, or even hopeless, about the patterns you see playing out in your life or relationships? Have you wondered why the same dynamics keep repeating, even when you’re doing the work or desire change? Relational Alchemy is a podcast about the patterns we live out in love and connection. It explores how our relationships with ourselves and with others reveal the deeper force...