Recovering from Everything

Here is my abridged, short-list of people who have shaped my soul, my life, my perspective, the way I move through the world, and in honour of black history month, they’re all black people.

First episode of Season 2! If you were to accept your partner exactly the way they are and make the assumption that the way things are today in your relationship are the way they’ll be forever, would you stay?

Here’s what you need to know about raising the child of the person you’re dating!

Merry Christmas! How do we know when we’re trapped in an abusive cycle? How do we change that? Isn’t the never-ending healing process so much fun?

Addictive tendencies don’t just stop because I’ve stopped using drugs and alcohol. I will let 9 seasons of Forensic Files ruin my life, too.

Recovering from… an ear infection.

I’ve always felt like an outsider. I never fit in, and I rarely find people with whom I have things in common. Can you relate? But I’m finally in a place where I celebrate that! I’m super proud of being an immigrant and the various things that make me unique, and the ways that helps me connect with other people. 🎼“Fam Jam” — Shad

My god-loving friend Candice and I talk about her evolving relationship with Christianity and how making adjustments to her relationship with God has helped her mental health. I am super spiritual and it’s interesting to see how our different languages have helped us get to the same place of self-acceptance.

I’ve changed like 12 billion times in the last 10 years. So, how do I handle the people who still see me as the version of myself from 10+ years ago? Or is it that *I* can’t let go of that version of myself… I’ve got some shadow work to do. Oh, goodie.

Are our parents ok? Are we ok? My friend CJ and I examine the effects of generational trauma, and the burden of breaking the cycles. Also, people-pleasers, fixers, and heroes! You can register for the Self-Reliance workshop here: www. Kingarecoverysupport.com.

A quick introspection as to why my birthday week made me feel so guilty. My brain tells me I need to work for love, so sitting back and receiving it when I haven’t *earned* it makes me very uncomfortable.

More of your stories! The ebb and flow of these relationships can be brutal, so painful. But I also have a few great stories of bizarre starts to friendships — I love these!

My daughter Tennessee and I get to ask each other 10 questions! I learned a *LOT*. And a surprising secondary character: the goddamn Jolly Ranchers.

How being parented many moons ago has influenced my current parenting. Also includes anonymous thoughts from my Instagram followers! Cover stolen from: Glenn Boozan and Priscilla Witte.

You spot it, you got it. The irritating qualities we see in others are just reflections of what we loathe about ourselves. Yay.

If you want a reminder of how awesome you are, spend some quality time with yourself.

My beloved guest Felisha Hunter and I discuss the annoying things people have said to us that ruined our lives in the best way. Grab Felisha’s books here: http://a.co/d/fxgjJOa

Ok but why is the ending of a friendship so incredibly painful?

Can you drink and do drugs and still be in recovery? What if you’ve recovered from a million other things? Tamara and I discuss the reintroduction of alcohol into her life after 7 years of abstinence. Can she still say she’s in recovery? Spoiler: fuck, yes she can.

People-pleasing is manipulative and I don’t care what you think.

It’s not me, it’s you! No, wait. It’s me. My enlightenment about being more compassionate, feeling guilty, realizing my triggers, and gaining more tolerance for others… especially myself.

When we’re forced to let go of who we are, to become what we need to be. Gross, painful, not fun, but bring it on!

Are you a self-described fixer or hero? Because, same. I love you but please stop. No one likes it. Also, you’re probably frustrated and exhausted and that’s not fun for you.

In these situations, there are no winners… but there are a TON of losers. Special guest Lauren and I exchange horror stories, and talk about why the actual F we entertained these psychos for longer than 2 seconds. Lauren went through something unbelievable and if I could put a bounty on that dude’s head, I would (for legal reasons, I am joking). Also, can we pump the brakes on feeling embarrassed...

…and strong notes of co-dependency in so many relationships. Learning how to have my own back, finally!