Recovering from Everything

In this feisty episode of Recovering from Everything, Kinga talks about one of the biggest themes inside her women’s programs: What happens when alcohol stops being the main character… and you’re left alone with yourself? This episode explores: • why so many high-functioning women struggle to answer “how are you feeling?” • emotional disconnection and performance exhaustion • why women often feel...

In this episode, I walk you through my relationship with alcohol — from my first drunk at 14… to drinking alone after work… to the moment a complete stranger called me out and everything changed. I talk about: Why alcohol  worked  for me (and why that matters) The shift from social drinking to something more isolating The gap between how my life looked … and how I actually felt Why I never thought...

You’ve thought about cutting back on drinking. You’ve Googled it. You’ve maybe even said, “I should probably do something about this…” But nothing changes. This episode is about  why. Because there’s a version of “wanting to change” that isn’t real yet. And most high-functioning women live there -- thinking about change -- for  years. In this episode, I break down the subtle (and socially acceptab...

Flaky friends. Ghosting. Slow replies. Cancelled plans. Why does it affect us so much? In this episode, I break down the psychology of  integrity in friendships and relationships  — and why consistency between words and actions is one of the most important (and overlooked) foundations of emotional safety. This isn’t just about other people. It’s also about the moments where  we  avoid, delay, over...

In this episode, I share where that belief started — as a little girl who felt different, outside the room, and unable to connect — and how that story followed me into school, family roles, relationships, and eventually alcohol. We talk about: Being labeled the “problem child” Why high-functioning women drink to simulate belonging Square peg / round hole syndrome The difference between validation...

Many high-functioning women feel unexpected guilt when life starts to feel calm, enjoyable, or easy. In this episode, I explore hedonic guilt , nervous system conditioning, and why pleasure can feel unsafe after years of survival, self-abandonment, or changing your relationship with alcohol. This is not a mindset problem, it’s a biological and emotional recalibration. If you’ve ever struggled to r...

The way that women treat themselves with alcohol is often reflected in their relationships, too! Evidence shows that some men rely on us having low-self-esteem so we can take the blame for everything wrong with them and their lives. So what happens when we start our healing?? We've got years of reprogramming to sort through, and how are we supposed to act around people who prefer us to be slightly...

In this episode, Kinga breaks down a truth that high-functioning women  feel  but rarely say out loud: You’re not going to change your drinking in a room where you don’t belong. If you’ve ever walked into AA, treatment, or a mixed-support group and instantly felt like: “These aren’t my people…” “I’m too privileged to talk here…” “I don’t relate to any of this…” “I feel like I have to tone myself d...

Why is it so hard for women to change their relationships with alcohol? Could be the dopamine! Many of us -- especially if we have ADHD symptoms -- have a painful time changing various behaviours, not just with alcohol, but with relationships, too. Let's deep dive into why, and what to do about it so it's not so painful for you! If you are ready to make some changes and possible work toget...

Midlife hormones, old family patterns, and a wine-o’clock culture—no wonder so many smart women feel like they’re fighting on three fronts. In this episode, I break down the biopsychosocial model the way Gabor Maté teaches it: how your biology, psychology, and social world team up to create (and heal) alcohol habits. I pull back the curtain on my own story—grief, over-functioning, 3 a.m. wake-ups,...

This one is messy, friends. 🫠 I ran into  that  ex at a festival—yes, the five-year, break-up-make-up disaster—and guess who he was with? Let’s just say my intuition has been screaming for years, and this weekend it brought the receipts. In this episode, I unpack the difference between paranoia and intuition, how denial gaslights us harder than any toxic man ever could, and why your gut is always...

In this special milestone episode, I’m celebrating 13 years sober by sharing  13 things I’ve learned along the way  — the gritty, funny, sometimes painful truths about life without alcohol. From learning that willpower was never the answer, to discovering that real joy doesn’t come in a wine glass, these are the lessons that changed everything for me. If you're ready to make these changes to y...

You’ve been told you have a drinking problem. But what if the problem isn’t the drinking at all? In this episode of Recovering from Everything, I break down why self-control and willpower aren’t the issue—and why the real culprit is the story you’ve been telling yourself. As always, if you're ready for some beautiful changes, start with the Free Masterclass, get to know who I work with and how...

Breaking down the real reasons many women can't break free from "wine o'clock." If you're ready to make changes to your drinking and possibly join us in the community of women who are transforming their second half of life, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

High-functioning women work so hard to maintain the illusion that everything is fine, great, dandy, and won't look at their problem with alcohol. But what are some of the costs to our lives? In this episode, I share a bit more of my own story, and the impact that protecting my drinking secret had on my daily life and mental and physical health. If you're ready to make changes and possibly...

Have I learned nothing?! Anxious relics from my past -- things I had thought were long buried -- have returned in the form of a situationship! I thought I was too old for this sh!t... But we have learned more, and have become wiser (and hotter?) in the process! As always, if you are a woman who is ready to change her relationship with alcohol, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/reg...

For the first time since I was 12, I am not making room, allowances, or considerations for the male species. If you're ready to change your relationship with alcohol (and then change your relationship with yourself and everything else), start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

Ringing in my birthday and No-vember with a comprehensive list for accountability. Would love it if you shared a few of your No's in the comments!

In this episode, I reveal more of my story, but also the two past clients who blew up my own stereotype of what a woman with a problem with alcohol could look like... which is why I now ONLY work with the "picture-perfect" woman. If this sounds like you, and you think you're ready to move away from that way of living, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

When a couch is NOT JUST A COUCH. What to do when you are straddling your past and your future, and how to let go of everything. Also, how the Universe became the boss of me. If you are a motivated woman in mid-life, and you are ready to move away from alcohol, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

Guys, we are 12 years old in sobriety and recovery today! Here is a reflection on the last 12 years of my life, and 12 moments where I should have gotten very, very drunk... but didn't. If you are a woman who wants to change her relationship with alcohol, and you want my help doing it, start by watching this Masterclass and I hope to see you on the other side.

Sometimes, we revert back to old behaviours... with alcohol, anger, anxiety... This can leave people feeling hopeless about their potential for change. Not a great feeling! What is YOUR definition of relapse? Figuring this out might save you some self-imposed punishment! If you're a woman who is READY to change your relationsip with alcohol, start here: https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/r...

We all know that alcohol fuels a lot of our shame... but how does SHAME fuel our alcohol use?

Your answer to this question says so much about whether you are in self-care mode or self-harm mode! If you are ready to change your relationship with alcohol, please visit https://www.theselfcontrolsolution.com/register

Are you keeping yourself trapped in a box that’s maybe too small for you? What would you consider to be “too” something… successful, rich, happy, confident… how afraid are you to grow out of your comfort zone??