Probing In The Sheets

In this episode, Jamie and Miel dive into the nuances of consent, focusing on the FRIES acronym to help understand its components: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. The conversation emphasizes the importance of ongoing consent and how it applies in various kink contexts.  Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com Takeaways Consent must be ongoing and reversible. Infor...

On this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie explore the concept of 'frenzy' within the kink community, discussing its implications for both submissives and dominants. They delve into the emotional and psychological aspects of frenzy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and communication. The hosts share personal experiences and grounding techniques to hel...

Right on the heels of the Climax Conference, Jamie and Miel dive into a very important topic that was brought forward during the inaugural conference.  This episode delves into the art of negotiation, emphasizing its dynamic nature and how it can be adapted to various situations. The discussion highlights the importance of planning and thinking strategically, with insights into somatics and the ro...

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the complexities of breakups within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the emotional depth of relationships, the concept of intensity bonding, and the importance of self-care and healing. The conversation touches on the societal norms of relationships, the beauty of evolving connections, and the courage to choose on...

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate dynamics of trust within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the importance of self-trust, the role of communication in building trust with partners, and how it can transform personal relationships. The conversation also touches on the concept of self-abandonment, the impact of trauma, and the journey t...

HAPPY HALLOWEEN 🎃 In this episode, hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intriguing concept of embracing one's villains within the context of kink and BDSM. They discuss the power and liberation found in acknowledging and integrating darker aspects of you, and how this can lead to a more authentic and whole human experience. The conversation touches on manipulation, consent, and the balance between...

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate world of boundaries within BDSM and relationships. They explore the importance of understanding and setting personal boundaries, the difference between boundaries and rules, and how clear communication can enhance trust and intimacy. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, they emphasize the si...

In this episode of "Probing in the Sheets," hosts Miel and Jamie explore spicing up one's life, both in relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of self-discovery, embracing desires, and the impact of stepping out of comfort zones. The conversation touches on the significance of negotiation, the role of emotions in personal exploration, and the ripple effect of pursuing one's...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concept of 'drop' in the kink community, exploring its emotional and physical impacts. They discuss personal experiences, the importance of communication, and the role of rest and self-care in navigating drop. The conversation highlights the human experience of emotions and the transformative power of vulnerability and connection. Takeaways It's easie...

In the latest episode of Probing In The Sheets, Miel and Jamie are on location at a kink event in Southern Ontario. In this discussion they cover the camp's vibrant atmosphere, the importance of discernment in the kink community, and how to find and navigate events like Camp. Sharing personal experiences and insights into the kink lifestyle, emphasizing the value of learning from mistakes and the...

This week, Jamie and Miel dive into the complexities of attachment styles within kink relationships, discussing personal experiences and insights into how these dynamics play out in BDSM and alternative lifestyles. The conversation delves into the challenges and healing potential of non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. Further Reading: Polysecure: Attachm...

In this first episode of Probing In The Sheets, Miel and Jamie explore the heart of why they built this podcast, rooted in pleasure activism and the pivotal work done by Adrienne Maree Brown. Celebrate with our hosts as they discuss themes of pleasure is rebellious and rest is resistance, woven into the topics of kink and BDSM.  Follow Adreinne Maree Brown on Instagram @adriennemareebrown   Contin...