Probing In The Sheets

Martin Fransham, co-producer of the Iron Cabaret and Cabaret Nova, joins us to share how his team built a home for after-dark entertainment in Ottawa. He talks about creating stages where sex workers, pole dancers, over-forty burlesque performers and first-timers all have full creative freedom. He also explains why running a transparent, team-first business has changed the way performers and crew...

Becky joins us to share her journey of navigating disability, chronic illness, intimacy, and sexuality while building a life and career rooted in self-advocacy and representation. She talks openly about living with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, and how understanding her body and health has changed the way she thinks about relationships, desirability, pleasure, and connection.  Becky, Jamie and Miel expl...

In this conversation, Meghan talks about pleasure activism, mindfulness, and the ways that patriarchy, colonialism, capitalism, and racism shape our experiences of ourselves, our bodies, and our relationships. Meghan, Jamie, and Miel also explore how mindfulness can influence our relationships, our experiences of pleasure and conflict. This raw and real episode explores how taking the time to conn...

Lisa Flanders discusses the importance of pelvic health physiotherapy, breaking down the stigma surrounding pelvic health issues, and the need for education on these topics. Lisa shares her journey into pelvic health, the common misconceptions about who can benefit from pelvic floor therapy, and the various issues that can arise for all genders.  Lisa, Jamie and Miel speak candidly about the value...

Dr. Keiko Chan discusses various aspects of sexual health for people with vulvas and vaginas, particularly focusing on perimenopause, menopause, hormone treatments, and misconceptions surrounding testosterone therapy. The conversation explores the complexities of desire, intimacy, and sexual health. Delving into relationship dynamics, the importance of emotional connection, and the impact of socie...

Natalia shares how her personal sexual reawakening evolved into Kinks and Coffee, House of Kink, Climax, and a larger role in Ottawa’s sex-positive community. This candid episode explores moving beyond shame, discovering pleasure, building safer spaces, and turning personal pain into purpose. Natalia also discusses creating inclusive events, making kink more approachable, and why collaboration is...

For this episode, Miel and Jamie got together to chat about the joys of being alone and the many ways solo play can be explored in kink.  TW/CW: This episode mentions eating disorders. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel share their experiences with dirty talk and their thoughts on how to get past the awkward stage where we don’t know what to say for fear of being cringey, offensive or downright triggering.  About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible communit...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the intricacies of public exhibitions of kink and D/s dynamics. What is appropriate in public and what constitutes a violation of consent for those who bear witness. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in re...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their chat with Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor). In Part Two, they discuss boundaries and triggers in ENM partner dynamics, a radical solution to the male loneliness epidemic, and healing trauma through kink https://www.sharewithrae.com/kinkandtrauma About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel are taking their show on the road and welcoming someone new into their hotel room bed. Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor) is a certified sexual health educator and relationship coach with a background in latex fetish wear design. In Part One of their chat, they learn about Rae’s history with the kink community and navigating ENM dynamics. About...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie dominate the conversation, converse about dominance and ask themselves: What are the main types of dominants? What makes a good dom/domme? What green flags should you look out for when vetting a dom/domme? What questions should you ask them?  About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with...

In Manifesting, Part Two, Miel and Jamie go deeper on the steps required to bring dreams and ideas into reality. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply p...

Jamie and Miel have manifested another wonderful two-part episode. In Part One, they open up about what manifesting means to them and share examples of how to put it into practice in kink and in the real world. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in...

In this episode, our very first guest jumps into bed with Jamie and Miel. Maddy wears many tantalizing hats, from sex educator (@sexedwithmadds) to sex shop owner (@wickedwandas) and event manager (@events.houseofkink & @climax.conference). She talks about being raised by a domme and sex shop owner, finding her own space in the kink community and shares some insights on the culture and busines...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer more questions from listeners. How did they meet their partners? How do they feel about how kink and BDSM are portrayed in the media? What spicy books do they recommend?…and more!  About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer questions from listeners. What have they learned from their journey through kink? What unusual toy/implement do they recommend? What safe word should people use, other than “red”? …and more! Continued next time in Part 2.  Kink Playlists: Beat The Ones You Love x Femme Fatale x About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie chat about kink without sex, sex without kink, kinky sex and sexy kinks. Choose your own adventure and join us as we venture to disambiguate and validate the realm of possibilities.  About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted...

This episode is all about shame. Jamie and Miel talk about coming out as kinky, vulnerability and openness about our needs and desires, working through internal shame about our kinks, attractions and preferences, social pressure, critics and outside opinions. Who do we think we are? About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie continue their discussion about the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie discuss the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink,...

Burnout in Kink In this episode, Jamie and Miel discuss the signs of burnout, how burnout affects our kink dynamics, supporting partners who are experiencing burnout, how to listen to our natural cycles and cultivate the power of saying no. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and a...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie share their experiences with health issues, how illnesses and injuries can affect kink dynamics, the importance of advocating for yourself when communicating with health professionals about kink and BDSM, and how health issues can impact D/s dynamics. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and k...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their discussion on rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. Part 2 explores tools and practices for repair, power vs. control in relationships, owning our actions, setting boundaries and trusting friends to learn their lessons. The song Jamie mentions near the end is Tattoo by Jordin Sparks About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/h...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concepts of rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of taking responsibility in relationships and explores the magic of repairing connections, and how it can deepen a dynamic or play partnership. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer...