Probing In The Sheets

For this episode, Miel and Jamie got together to chat about the joys of being alone and the many ways solo play can be explored in kink.  TW/CW: This episode mentions eating disorders. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel share their experiences with dirty talk and their thoughts on how to get past the awkward stage where we don’t know what to say for fear of being cringey, offensive or downright triggering.  About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible communit...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the intricacies of public exhibitions of kink and D/s dynamics. What is appropriate in public and what constitutes a violation of consent for those who bear witness. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in re...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their chat with Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor). In Part Two, they discuss boundaries and triggers in ENM partner dynamics, a radical solution to the male loneliness epidemic, and healing trauma through kink https://www.sharewithrae.com/kinkandtrauma About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel are taking their show on the road and welcoming someone new into their hotel room bed. Rae Szereszewski (Share with Rae, Wife Bae Rae, Raezor) is a certified sexual health educator and relationship coach with a background in latex fetish wear design. In Part One of their chat, they learn about Rae’s history with the kink community and navigating ENM dynamics. About...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie dominate the conversation, converse about dominance and ask themselves: What are the main types of dominants? What makes a good dom/domme? What green flags should you look out for when vetting a dom/domme? What questions should you ask them?  About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with...

In Manifesting, Part Two, Miel and Jamie go deeper on the steps required to bring dreams and ideas into reality. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in respect and vulnerability. To Miel, kink is not only an exploration of desire, but also a deeply p...

Jamie and Miel have manifested another wonderful two-part episode. In Part One, they open up about what manifesting means to them and share examples of how to put it into practice in kink and in the real world. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted in...

In this episode, our very first guest jumps into bed with Jamie and Miel. Maddy wears many tantalizing hats, from sex educator (@sexedwithmadds) to sex shop owner (@wickedwandas) and event manager (@events.houseofkink & @climax.conference). She talks about being raised by a domme and sex shop owner, finding her own space in the kink community and shares some insights on the culture and busines...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer more questions from listeners. How did they meet their partners? How do they feel about how kink and BDSM are portrayed in the media? What spicy books do they recommend?…and more!  About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie answer questions from listeners. What have they learned from their journey through kink? What unusual toy/implement do they recommend? What safe word should people use, other than “red”? …and more! Continued next time in Part 2.  Kink Playlists: Beat The Ones You Love x Femme Fatale x About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie chat about kink without sex, sex without kink, kinky sex and sexy kinks. Choose your own adventure and join us as we venture to disambiguate and validate the realm of possibilities.  About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and accessible community rooted...

This episode is all about shame. Jamie and Miel talk about coming out as kinky, vulnerability and openness about our needs and desires, working through internal shame about our kinks, attractions and preferences, social pressure, critics and outside opinions. Who do we think we are? About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie continue their discussion about the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie discuss the masks we wear in life and BDSM. Topics include the importance of self awareness and flexibility, neurodivergence and masking when we’re outside our window of tolerance, and finding our custom mask through introspection and experience. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink,...

Burnout in Kink In this episode, Jamie and Miel discuss the signs of burnout, how burnout affects our kink dynamics, supporting partners who are experiencing burnout, how to listen to our natural cycles and cultivate the power of saying no. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer human, Miel is dedicated to cultivating an inclusive and a...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie share their experiences with health issues, how illnesses and injuries can affect kink dynamics, the importance of advocating for yourself when communicating with health professionals about kink and BDSM, and how health issues can impact D/s dynamics. About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and k...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel continue their discussion on rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. Part 2 explores tools and practices for repair, power vs. control in relationships, owning our actions, setting boundaries and trusting friends to learn their lessons. The song Jamie mentions near the end is Tattoo by Jordin Sparks About Jamie As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/h...

In this episode, Miel and Jamie delve into the concepts of rupture and repair in kink dynamics and relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of taking responsibility in relationships and explores the magic of repairing connections, and how it can deepen a dynamic or play partnership. About Miel Miel (they/them) is the visionary President and CEO of Probe Ottawa. As a nonbinary queer...

In this episode, Jamie and Miel dive into the nuances of consent, focusing on the FRIES acronym to help understand its components: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific. The conversation emphasizes the importance of ongoing consent and how it applies in various kink contexts.  Contact us @ probinginthesheets@gmail.com Takeaways Consent must be ongoing and reversible. Infor...

On this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie explore the concept of 'frenzy' within the kink community, discussing its implications for both submissives and dominants. They delve into the emotional and psychological aspects of frenzy, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and communication. The hosts share personal experiences and grounding techniques to hel...

Right on the heels of the Climax Conference, Jamie and Miel dive into a very important topic that was brought forward during the inaugural conference.  This episode delves into the art of negotiation, emphasizing its dynamic nature and how it can be adapted to various situations. The discussion highlights the importance of planning and thinking strategically, with insights into somatics and the ro...

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the complexities of breakups within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the emotional depth of relationships, the concept of intensity bonding, and the importance of self-care and healing. The conversation touches on the societal norms of relationships, the beauty of evolving connections, and the courage to choose on...

In this episode of 'Probing in the Sheets,' hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intricate dynamics of trust within the kink and BDSM community. They explore the importance of self-trust, the role of communication in building trust with partners, and how it can transform personal relationships. The conversation also touches on the concept of self-abandonment, the impact of trauma, and the journey t...

HAPPY HALLOWEEN 🎃 In this episode, hosts Miel and Jamie delve into the intriguing concept of embracing one's villains within the context of kink and BDSM. They discuss the power and liberation found in acknowledging and integrating darker aspects of you, and how this can lead to a more authentic and whole human experience. The conversation touches on manipulation, consent, and the balance between...