Polyam Living

Looking for a lifestyle club with a distinctly Latin flavor? In Polyam Living E012, Tentaciones Latin Lifestyle Club , Alonzo Banx sits down with owners Angel and Dulce to talk about the downtown Los Angeles club they built around music, community, connection, and making new couples feel welcome. From themed Saturday nights, dancing and private play spaces to their hostess system designed to intro...

What happens when your personal journey becomes a way to help other people feel less alone? In Polyam Living E011, “Loving Without Boundaries - Kitty Chambliss,” Alonzo Banx sits down with relationship coach, author, and podcast host Kitty Chambliss to talk about how Loving Without Boundaries grew from a personal blog into a larger community resource. Kitty shares her own path into consensual non-...

What actually happens in the brain and body during orgasm, and why do we still know so little about it? In Polyam Living E008, Alonzo Banx sits down with neuroscientist and psychologist Dr. Nicole Prause for a fascinating look inside the science of human sexuality. From brainwaves, body temperature and reaction time to the mystery of post orgasmic illness syndrome, Nicole takes us inside a working...

What happens when non monogamous people want more than visibility and start looking for community, resources and legal recognition? In Polyam Living E009, Alonzo Banx talks with David Carlson, Campaign Director for OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non Monogamy. David explains how OPEN supports peer groups, local organizers and families looking for knowledgeable resources, while als...

Jealousy does not mean you are failing at polyamory, and compersion does not have to be the finish line. In Polyam Living E010, Alonzo Banx sits down with counselor, author and longtime polyamory advocate Kathy Labriola to talk about what actually helps when jealousy, fear and insecurity show up in non-monogamous relationships. Kathy shares practical approaches from decades of counseling and lived...

Your first night at a lifestyle club can feel intimidating long before anything actually happens. In Polyam Living E005, The First Time You Walk Into a Lifestyle Club , Noah walks through what a new guest can really expect, from the front door, membership rules, dress codes and tours to privacy, social spaces, consent and the conversation you should have before you arrive. The point is not to prov...

 How do younger adults actually feel about monogamy, polyamory and commitment? In Polyam Living E006, How Do Young People Feel About Polyamory? , Brandy Beckett looks at research showing that younger adults are more open to non monogamy than older generations, while many still say they want committed relationships. The episode looks at that tension without treating those ideas as opposites, asking...

Feeld is growing fast, but can the culture that made it valuable grow with it? In Polyam Living E007, Feeld Is Growing , Brandy Beckett looks at what happens when a platform built around polyamory, kink, queer identities and intentional connection starts attracting a much larger audience. The issue is not newcomers, monogamous people or curiosity. It is whether the culture of clear communication,...

There is no single online front door into the poly community. Some apps are built around dating. Some are better for events. Some are really social networks where relationships happen around the edges. In Polyam Living E004, The Online World of Poly Connections , Noah walks through Feeld, OkCupid, Hinge, #Open, Plura, helloPOLY, Meetup, FetLife and SwingHub, looking at what each one actually does...

Walking into a club or munch for the first time can feel like entering a room where everyone else already knows the rules. Heather and Alonzo break down how to approach people, read the room, connect with couples, contact the host, understand the venue, and enter a new community without making yourself or everyone around you uncomfortable.

Do dick pics work? Sometimes, but not as an introduction. Heather and Alonzo talk about what people actually look for in a profile, why unsolicited images usually kill the conversation, when asking first changes everything, and how respect, timing, and presentation determine whether a photo is welcomed or ignored.

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What exactly happens at a munch? Usually, people eat, talk, laugh, and get to know the local community without the pressure of walking into a club or play event. In this episode of Polyam Living , Alonzo Banks explains what newcomers can expect, how to find the right gathering, and the basic rules around privacy, consent, and showing up respectfully.