Pastors on Porn

How does our cyclical patterns of porn change the dynamic of our relationship with God?  In this episode Vern asks a strange question  - At one level - do we sin to feel close to God? We have groups for just pastors who get it - both the struggle they find themselves in, the pressures of the pastoral role, and the difficulty in reaching for help.  If you want to connect with Vern to connect with h...

What are the things that get pastors into trouble with Porn.  In my counselling of pastors I have heard 3 (make that 4) things over and over which usually proceed a pastor turning to porn. We have groups for just pastors who get it - both the struggle they find themselves in, the pressures of the pastoral role, and the difficulty in reaching for help.  If you want to connect with Vern to connect w...

Are you in a position in your ministry where you are running dirty or running scared?  Using a few different analogies, Vern discusses the cost of ongoing porn use and the affects it has on our ministries. In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform.  For confidentiality sake simply use your first name and last initial or vice...

There is a saying that says - That-L Preach!  Something that immediately you want to share.  The following is something from my morning quiet time that I think has real relevance to our recovery journey. In order to get access to a whole library of porn recovery resources you need to join Vern's  free Circle Platform. in order to do that here is the link you can use (if you are doing this on your...

Garrett Kell is a pastor who knows what it is to struggle with pornography.  In this podcast he speaks about his experience with stepping out of the shadows into the light. Garrett has written a book called "Pure in Heart" and is the current pastor of Del Ray Baptist Church in Alexandria Virginia.  In this podcast he also references some articles he has written which links are below... https://www...

Back in 2016 the Barna Research group did a study around the use of pornography in society and in the church.  9 years later Barna (working with Pure Desire) did an expanded version of this same study.  We now can have an accurate and real time look at what is really going on in the lives of people regarding porn and also get a current view of the effect it is having on their individual lives and...

If you are a youth pastor or work with young people in their teens or 20's you know that porn is a big challenge - for both guys and girls.  Recently I did a talk in Brazil (and later at our church) that talked about how the enemy uses addictions in our lives to rob from us - including porn.  More importantly, I also talk about how to walk free as a young person!  Below is the information on how t...

Listen to my friend and pastor Dave talk about his big step to open up to his wife and church about his struggle with porn! If you would like to get access to a number of free resources that I have I encourage you to sign up for my free circle learning platform.  If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other us...

How do you transition your church from a "shiny" facade to one that truly is a hospital for hurting broken people.  James Reeves has done it and shares some of his insights with Vern. James is the author of the TwoFearless Video series - one for men and one for women which deal with healing from emotional wounds and trauma.  They can be found here: https://fearlessresources.org/ James is the Autho...

Sam Black works with churches at one of my favorite companies - Covenant Eyes. In this free ranging conversation we talk about why he joined Covenant Eyes, his book "The Healing Church" and what sort of churches provide a safe place and a safe process for healing. We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towar...

Ephesians 5:3 Says this "but among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity" Some of us have heard this verse as sort on an unattainable standard that makes us feel that we can never live up to God's standards.  Today I share my thoughts on this verse that has brought a new motivation and energy to my desire to walk in sexual purity. We are starting new findi...

Today Vern explores how 2 words - delight and desire can go a long way in giving us immunity to the outside pull of porn and other distractions! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are looking for more free  resources you can also check out the website https://bandofbrothe...

This last Sunday Vern spoke on Sunday morning on how men can move from being an *ss to being good and safe men - something women, our churches and our communities desperately need more of. If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your Sexual struggles - Vern gets it - as a Pastor for 30 years Vern has battled porn as a pastor and didn't have a safe place to go to or someone to turn to. T...

Have you ever had God tell you to quit your grovelling?  Today Vern explores a bible story where that happens and relates it to our recovery walk. If you are looking for a safe place to talk to regarding your struggles with porn - Vern has walked that struggle and would love to share his hope with you. His email is bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com

In this episode Vern answers the question - what is the hardest sermon you'll ever give?  I truly believe this episode is crucial to both listen to and keep in your constant awareness as a pastor.  If it helpful for you - pass it on! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are...

As I talk and work with pastors I have noticed that there are 3 seasons of vulnearabilitywhere patterns of sexual brokenness seem to emerge in our lives.  In this episode I lay out those seasons and take the approach to be fore-warned is to be for-armed! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care...

This last Sunday Vern spoke at church regarding the spiritual step of self examiniation and confession.  As pastors struggling with our sexual brokenness - it provides a crucial "powerpoint" that is available to us as we see to walk toward a life of healing and wholeness. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at b...

Most of us seek to deny, hide, run from or rail agains the sin which dogs our steps.  In this episode Vern proposes a counter intuitive approach that he believes will actually result in better results - sitting in our sin! If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are looking fo...

The theme of wide open spaces is one that Scriptural writers come back to over and over again.  In this episode Vern puts on his bible teaching hat and relates to how this concept relates to our desire to walk away from porn and experience the best life that God has for us. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at...

It has become quite common for churches to dip their toes into the stream of recovery groups.  In this episode Vern explores the difference between a church offering recovery programs and a church actually becoming a recovery church where people can acknowledge and grow out of their brokenness. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can...

Are Pastors Special when it comes to porn? Are there unique reasons why pastors are drawn to porn and are there unique reasons they stay there? In this episode Vern explores that question. If you as a pastor are looking for a safe place to turn to to talk about your sexual struggles - you can get ahold of Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com If you are looking for more resources you can also chec...

Looking back over 30 years of being a Pastor - from being an associate, to church planting and being a lead pastor, I have come up with a few overall lessons that I have learned. I think some of these lessons may stand you in good stead as you live in the crucible of ministry I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you need...

Have you ever been given simplistic spiritual advice that has proven to be ineffectual in your struggle with porn. Perhaps you have given simplistic advice. In this episode Vern talks about the proper way to approach (and give advice) about how to find a life of freedom from Porn. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors. If you...

One of the biggest challenges in working in the church is that there seems to be such a hesitation to talk about sexuality. In the absense of talk about healthy sexuality it seems that we are left with the idea that sexuality is somehow dirty or the "forbidden fruit". In this episode I interview Kyle. He is one of a trio of Christian podcast hosts and ministry leaders from KingdomSexualityministry...

Mitch Harrison is a seasoned pastor and leader who has a great gift in helping tired pastors find a new rhythm for their life. This podcast is all about helping you create a new way of living that will help find a pattern of healthy self care for your life. If you follow some of the suggestions in this podcast it will greatly increase the odds of thriving - not just surviving in ministry. I love t...