Parenting Today's Teens

Today, Mark Gregston fields real questions from parents grappling with the challenges of guiding older teens toward adulthood. Drawing from decades of experience, he addresses issues such as fostering independence in 17- and 18-year-olds, setting boundaries with troubled teens, navigating the complexities of homeschooling, and providing support for teens with depression and anxiety. Mark offers pr...

Many teens today grow up believing they’re owed privileges and constant attention. Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how this entitlement is fueled by parents doing too much for them. Mark encourages moms and dads to shift the conversation — focusing not on criticizing selfish behavior, but on helping teens grow in independence, responsibility and real-world readiness. By setting new...

Teens today are growing up in a world of online communication, constant negativity and shallow “expert” voices — leaving them hungry for real connection and honest guidance. Mark explains that parents often miss what teens truly want because they react to behavior instead of the deeper needs behind it. The nonstop criticism and shallow praise of social media make teens sensitive to correction and...

Many parents notice their teens acting out — whether through rebellion, risky choices or shutting down — but what’s driving those behaviors is often a deep pain kept out of sight. On today’s episode, Mark Gregston sits down with two Heartlight residents who both reveal how hurts from their past, like adoption struggles, family loss, confusion and unmet expectations, shaped their choices and relati...

Listen in as Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why teens might “spin out of control." They explain this can happen when they can’t manage life within the boundaries of home, which can lead to disrespect, dishonesty, risky behavior or shutting down emotionally. Mark explains that these patterns are often a cry for help, revealing deeper struggles teens can’t navigate alone. Parents are e...

Today, Mark dives deep into the real-life struggles facing families — from navigating a teen’s anxiety, depression and drug use, to managing explosive anger and the challenges of motivating older teens to take responsibility. Mark also shares some insights for parents of special needs children and discusses the importance of adapting parenting styles as culture rapidly shifts. Whether you’re seeki...

Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur unpack why gratitude can be difficult for teens, especially during the holidays when entitlement and cultural pressure rise. They explain that real thankfulness grows over time through modeling, conversations, boundaries, and opportunities to work and give. Building a thankful heart takes patience, but it strengthens teens and prepares them for ad...

Join Mark Gregston for a devotional from Joel 1:3 as he explains why teens need wisdom, not just information. Through Scripture and a personal story, Mark shows how young people crave meaningful guidance over quick answers or disconnected facts. He encourages parents and grandparents to share their own experiences, speak truth in love and engage in intentional conversations. When adults lead with...

When teens act out, it’s often a sign of much deeper issues at play. In today’s episode, Mark Gregston chats with two more Heartlight teens, including Daniel, a student who shares his journey from spiraling into drugs and depression to finding hope and healing. Daniel opens up about the pressures at home, the struggle to escape overwhelming feelings through getting high and the long road to reconn...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how listening is one of the most powerful ways parents can build connection with their teens. Many families struggle with communication because parents talk more than they listen — often teaching, correcting or giving opinions instead of asking thoughtful questions. Teens who don’t feel heard will seek that attention elsewhere, so p...

In today’s episode, Mark dives into some of the toughest and most relatable dilemmas families face: transitioning your parenting style as teens leave for college, navigating disagreements with your spouse over parenting strategies and the complexities around busy teen schedules. He also tackles challenging topics like helping teens through the aftermath of divorce and understanding — and celebrati...

Adopted kids often enter adolescence with deep questions about identity, belonging and why they were given up — even if they cannot consciously remember the trauma. As they shift from concrete to abstract thinking in their teen years, feelings of loss, abandonment and being “different” can surface more strongly. Parents can help by listening without judgment, talking openly about feelings, staying...

Today, Mark shares how perfectionism in ministry once nearly burned him out — and how many parents unknowingly pass that same pressure onto their teens. What parents intend as encouragement is often interpreted by teens as never being “good enough.” Instead, he urges parents to model honesty, grace and vulnerability — reminding kids that only Jesus is perfect. Strong relationships, not seeking per...

Many families wrestle with discipline, hoping rules will keep their teens on track — but sometimes, those boundaries end up building walls instead of bridges. On today’s show, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens who share honest reflections on the struggles that come when discipline overshadows relationship. For Austin, creative discipline systems left him angry and distant from his family. B...

Listen as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss the benefits of Heartlight and the program's relational approach to residential counseling. Heartlight is designed to help teens change from the inside out. Mark and Courtney describe how true transformation happens through trust, restored relationships, consistent presence and addressing the heart issues beneath behavior — n...

In today's episode, Mark Gregston dives into listener questions about navigating consequences, teen privacy, anxiety, complex faith and identity issues, and the challenges of connecting with teens who shut down. Through the lens of adolescent development, Mark addresses how parents can become part of the solution — rethinking their own responses while helping teens learn to make wiser choices....

Teens have always sought attention, but today’s social media culture amplifies it — often leading to risky or inappropriate behavior when their emotional needs go unmet at home. Mark Gregston urges parents to look beyond the surface and understand the motivation behind their teen’s actions, offering connection rather than constant correction. By setting healthy boundaries, rewarding positive behav...

Listen today as Mark Gregston reflects on a listener’s concern that his ministry doesn’t mention Jesus often enough, using it as a reminder that faith should be lived out, not just spoken. He points to 1 John 3:18, emphasizing that what we do speaks louder than what we say. Mark cautions parents against being overly critical, reminding them that even well-intentioned words can damage relationships...

When life gets tough, teens often find themselves searching for answers in the middle of their struggles — but sometimes, clarity takes time and patience. In today’s show, Mark sits down with two young men from Heartlight who open up about how their pain — whether it’s broken relationships, anger or loss — has shaped their journey. One teen, Malcolm, reveals how his parents’ divorce left him feeli...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LaFleur discuss the difficult but essential topic of teens’ exposure to pornography. They emphasize that nearly all teens — boys and girls — will encounter it due to its widespread availability online, making open, shame-free conversations at home vital. Curiosity is often the first motivator, but ongoing exposure can distort a teen’s understanding...

Today, Mark Gregston tackles the complex challenges that parents face with their teenagers, from navigating shifting moods and sarcasm to coping with bullying, anxiety and trust issues. Mark offers practical advice rooted in real-world insight — helping parents distinguish between harmless wit and harmful disrespect, support teens dealing with bullies and rebuild trust with kids who struggle with...

Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lefleur explore the process of guiding teens from dependence to maturity through three stages — teaching, training and transferring. Mark explains that parents must shift from simply instructing their children to giving them hands-on responsibility and freedom to make mistakes, allowing them to grow into capable adults. The three emphasize that whe...

Listen in as Mark Gregston reflects on how today’s teens struggle to distinguish “true life” from the filtered world of social media. He explains that constant exposure to idealized images and comparisons fuels loneliness, anxiety and low self-worth. Mark encourages parents to help their teens critically evaluate online content, ask “Is this real?” and maintain perspective by balancing social medi...

It's important to remember that the struggles we see on the surface of a teen's life may have roots a lot deeper than we realize. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two young women from Heartlight, who bravely share their journeys through family conflict, feelings of abandonment, and battles with depression and self-harm. Both teens faced pain stemming from fractured relationships at...

When parents discover their teen’s inappropriate behavior, it’s important to respond with calmness and perspective rather than anger or shame. Today, Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur emphasize that mistakes are a normal part of adolescence and can actually become opportunities to build stronger relationships if handled with grace and consistency. Parents should focus on teaching...