On Your Terms

She had no word for what was happening to her. She only knew, standing in front of a camera at 18, that nobody had asked. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Rohne, silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author, to talk about what it means to grow up inside a culture where you are not a person but a possession in transit. What starts as a story about an arranged marriage photoshoo...

She spent decades doing everything to be needed. The one thing she never tried was being herself. In today's episode, Haley sits down with JaHana Holloway, author, speaker, and healing-centred creative, to talk about what people-pleasing really looks like from the inside, and what it actually costs over a lifetime. What starts as a story about growing up as the middle child in a single-parent home...

She had a B in the class, two classes left to finish, and a family expecting her to graduate. She failed the final on purpose without realising it. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Lisa Gornall, spiritual medium, energy coach, author, and healer, to talk about what happens when your intuition is louder than your logic, and you finally stop arguing with it. What starts as a story about leav...

She didn't lose herself all at once. It happened quietly, over decades, until the woman in the mirror was a stranger. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Andrea Hinojosa, energy healer and founder of Pura Vida Wellness and Holistic Healing, to talk about what it costs to keep holding everything together when you have nothing left inside. What starts as a story about a marriage and a divorce b...

She had the career that most people dream about. But she was also ending up in hospital and could not tell you why. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Anna Gryglewska, three times founder and creator of RAIS, SOULARA, and Elevated Collective, to talk about what it looks like when the life you always wanted quietly hollows you out. What starts as a story about global events and corporate burn...

She had the husband, the house, the law career, and the minister's kid halo. She was doing everything right and slowly disappearing. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Heidi K. Brown, travel memoirist, former lawyer, and law professor, to talk about the lifelong cost of performing the perfect version of yourself. What starts as a story about a marriage that looked flawless on paper quickly b...

She grew up a horse girl with no horses, with a single mum who sacrificed everything, and a body that started keeping score before she even knew what that meant. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Ali Green, a backcountry horse guide and brand new owner of Kirkwood Sierra Outfitters, to talk about what happens when you spend your whole life half-committed to yourself. What starts as a story...

For 17 years, she was the one who had all the answers. Then her body, her mind, and her will to live finally said no. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Suri, licensed clinical social worker and founder of After the Burn Co., to talk about what happens when the person holding everyone else together completely falls apart. What starts as a story about leaving a religious community quickly bec...

She built her whole life around helping people heal. Then she called out the community doing the most harm, and they deleted her from the group chat. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Leah Drew, somatic facilitator, nervous system specialist, and founder of Mind Body With Leah, to talk about what happens when the spiritual community becomes the thing you need to heal from. What starts as a...

She spent 15 years building a six-figure career to feel safe. Then her body started sending the bill. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Kayla Licari, former physician assistant turned nervous system coach, to talk about what happens when the life you worked your whole life for stops working. What starts as a story about walking away from medicine becomes a conversation about identity, money...

She was told at nine years old that being good at something made her cocky. She spent the next three decades making herself smaller so nobody would feel that way again. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Dara' Shaina-Vanier, educational leader, doctoral candidate, and poet, to talk about what it costs to spend a lifetime performing a version of yourself that keeps everyone else comfortable....

She passed her LCSW exam. He broke up with her at 1am the same night. What came next surprised everyone, including her. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Billie Lowe, licensed clinical social worker and founder of Eva Mack Counseling LLC, to talk about what happens when the relationship you stayed in too long finally ends, and you discover you had no idea how much of yourself you had given...

For years she told herself it was a fluke, a test, a sin. It took three more years to realise it was just who she was. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Colette Dalton, mental health therapist, healer, and founder of the Queer Joy Coven, to talk about what happens when your entire identity is built around a life that cannot hold all of you. What starts as a story about falling for a roommat...

She had the degree her father wanted, the title, the promotion, and an offer that almost made her stay. She said no to all of it. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Farwa, former physiotherapist turned social media strategist, to talk about what it costs to live inside someone else's dream for your life, and what it takes to finally trust your own version instead. What starts as a story abou...

She spent decades making herself smaller so other people would feel bigger. Then her mum died and she decided to stop. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Sarah Carter, lyricist, storyteller, and former special ed teacher turned musician, to talk about what happens when you have spent your whole life being told you are too much, and you finally decide to become exactly that. What starts as a...

She had been trying to leave for years. It took a knife above her head to finally make it the last time. In today's episode, Haley sits down with Nika Keilani, founder of Sacred Sisterhood retreats in Mexico, to talk about what it actually takes to walk away from nine years inside a narcissistic relationship when you have no money, nowhere to go, and a daughter watching everything. What starts as...

Welcome to "On Your Terms" I'm Haley Ryan, and this podcast is about the messy reality of choosing yourself. Each week, I sit down with a different cohost to get honest about what choosing yourself actually looks like. Things like saying goodbye to self-abandonment and people-pleasing, honouring boundaries that ended relationships, and walking away from what everyone else thought you should want....