Now That I'm Back

In this heartfelt final episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ reflects on the theme of necessary endings. She discusses the importance of recognizing when it's time to close a chapter, sharing insights from her own journey and the stories of transformation featured on the podcast over the past six months. BJ opens up about the emotional toll of hosting the show and the significance of endings as...

In this episode, host BJ discusses the misuse of therapy terms like 'toxic' and 'gaslighting' on the internet and dives into what truly constitutes a toxic relationship, emphasizing patterns of manipulation, intentional harm, and power dynamics. BJ critiques the current trend of using 'no contact' as a quick fix for minor conflicts and stresses the importance of communication and conflict resoluti...

In this episode, host BJ returns from a November break to discuss emotional eating and her personal weight loss journey. After sharing her own story of losing 12 pounds through portion control and dietary changes, BJ explores how food became a coping mechanism during stressful periods, particularly following her divorce. She reflects on her relationship with food and how emotional distress influen...

In this heartfelt episode, host BJ shares candid reflections on a tough week, acknowledging the emotional challenges faced by many listeners. BJ emphasizes the importance of community, particularly the supportive 'sistering' among black women, and shares personal coping strategies. The episode highlights the necessity of protecting one's joy, taking care of oneself unapologetically, and finding st...

Let’s Unpack Desperation: Lenny Williams' Cause I Love You In this heartfelt episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ presents a special full-length segment of 'Split Happens' to explore Lenny Williams' iconic song 'Cause I Love You.' BJ delves into the deep emotions of desperation and unwavering love expressed in the song, sharing personal anecdotes and analyzing the powerful lyrics. The episode t...

In this episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' BJ hosts Dr. Umieca Hankton to dive into the world of parasocial relationships and the impact of social media. The discussion covers how online interactions influence our sense of intimacy and connection, introducing terms like 'friendship mirage' and 'virtual VIP syndrome.' Emphasizing balance, the video explores the necessity of genuine in-person relations...

Unpacking the Exit Strategy: Navigating Emotional Challenges of Leaving In this episode, host BJ explores the emotional complexities of leaving situations that no longer serve us, such as jobs, relationships, or living environments. BJ shares personal experiences and discusses the significance of having an exit strategy to diminish the heaviness of leaving. Key reasons for staying too long in unfu...

In this episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ delves into the complex emotions tied to relocating after a breakup or divorce. Sharing personal experiences from her move to Atlanta, BJ discusses the challenges and benefits of changing environments, emphasizing the importance of emotional growth and self-discovery. She offers practical advice on making a successful move, including researching the...

Keywords : red flags, relationships, dating advice, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, personal growth, relationship dynamics, communication, red flags in yourself, red flags in others Summary : In this engaging conversation, BJ and Latrice explore the concept of red flags in relationships, discussing both the signs to look for in others and the red flags within ourselves. They share personal...

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, BJ delves deep into the impact of generational relationship trauma, particularly focusing on emotionally distant mothers and the effects on romantic and personal relationships. BJ shares personal anecdotes and discusses how these patterns are passed down, the importance of acknowledging and validating one's own trauma, and practical steps for healing....

In this candid episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ delves into the challenging dynamics of dealing with toxic in-laws and the impact they can have on a marriage. Sharing personal experiences and stories, BJ offers advice on setting boundaries, maintaining open communication with your partner, and seeking support. The episode also highlights the popular film 'Divorce in Black&#3...

In this episode of 'Now That I'm Back,' host BJ shares her personal journey of taking a break for self-rejuvenation, exploring the significance of friendships post-divorce. BJ discusses her recent experiences at the Essence Festival, the importance of friendship post-marriage, and debunking the societal hierarchy of romantic versus platonic love. She delves into non-binary awareness, h...

Summary In this episode, BJ and Dr. Umieca Hankton discuss the friend zone and breadcrumbing. They explore the definition of the friend zone and its impact on individuals. They also delve into the concept of breadcrumbing, which involves manipulating and controlling someone by giving them just enough attention to keep them hooked. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing when a si...

Summary In this episode, BJ explores the concept of closure in relationships and the power of healing independently. They share personal experiences and insights from therapy sessions, emphasizing the uselessness of waiting for closure from others. BJ discusses the importance of acceptance, letting go, and moving forward without relying on apologies. They analyze a breakup scene from the movie &#3...

Summary In this episode, BJ explores her dating experiences after her marriage ended. She discusses the struggle of balancing honesty and authenticity with respect for the people she has been involved with. BJ shares her post-divorce flings and the lessons she learned from each of them. She also analyzes the tangled love affair between Issa and Nathan from HBO's Insecure as a master class in m...

Summary The episode explores the significance of text messages in relationships, highlighting the evolution of communication and its impact on the dynamics of a relationship. It emphasizes the importance of understanding the subtle shifts in communication and the role of text messages as a digital diary of a relationship. Takeaways Text messages hold the key to understanding the evolution of a rel...

Summary BJ shares her personal journey of divorce and the transformative experience it has been for her. She draws parallels between hurricanes and divorce, highlighting the emotional turbulence and aftermath. BJ also introduces the concept of 'healing out loud' and the segments of her podcast, emphasizing the importance of uncomfortable conversations and finding comfort in 'maybe'...

Summary In this conversation, BJ and Dr. Umieca Hankton discuss the grieving process after the end of a relationship. They cover the emotional response to loss, coping strategies, and the challenges of rediscovering oneself. Dr. Hankton provides valuable insights and advice for those navigating the complex journey of grief. Key Takeaways Grief is an umbrella term that covers a range of human emoti...

Summary In this episode, BJ explores the iconic breakup in the movie 'Waiting to Exhale' and draws parallels to her own divorce. She delves into the emotional impact of the breakup, the journey of healing, and the importance of sisterhood and support. The episode provides a raw and relatable perspective on the aftermath of a breakup and the process of reclaiming one's life. Key Takeawa...

Buckle up for the messy, hilarious, and heartwarming journey of rediscovering yourself after a major life change. "Now That I'm Back" is a podcast about rebuilding your life, one awkward date and emotional breakdown at a time. Hosted by BJ, who knows a thing or two about starting over. In this trailer, you'll hear: - An honest glimpse into the raw emotions of post-divorce life. - A playful promise...