Not Anymore!

What if you gave the best case scenario as much airtime as you give the worst case scenario? I used to think imagining everything that could possibly go wrong meant I was prepared. I could play out the accident, the failed business, the bad decision, the wrong spouse for one of my kids and every other terrible possibility before anything had even happened. But I started realizing that I wasn'...

What if you didn’t have to figure out your whole life today? I’ve realized how often I let yesterday’s mistakes, conversations, and regrets follow me into today while also pulling tomorrow’s worries, problems, and what ifs into a day that hasn’t even happened yet. No wonder life can feel so overwhelming. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite lessons from Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worry...

I had a meltdown this week, and instead of immediately trying to coach myself out of it, change my thoughts, or hurry up and feel better, I decided to actually feel what was happening in my body. In this episode, I’m getting real and raw about what happened, what I discovered underneath the frustration, and why I’m learning that sometimes the meltdown isn’t the problem. Sometimes it’s the messenge...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “If this one thing would change, then I could finally feel better”? If my kids would behave differently. If my husband would understand. If I could lose the weight. If we made more money. If this person would change. If I could just get through this season. I’ve done it too. I’ve spent so much energy believing that something outside of me needed to change be...

Have you ever noticed how quickly your body can turn something small into a full blown emergency? Someone is upset with you. You’re running late. You make a mistake. Your kid is melting down. You have a hard conversation coming up. Suddenly your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and your body is screaming, FIX IT NOW. I lived this way for years without realizing it. My nervous system had lea...

Have you ever seen another mom, friend, or person on social media doing something amazing and immediately thought, “Wait…should I be doing that too?” I caught myself doing exactly that. I saw another mom sharing something she does to connect with her family, and within seconds, my brain had turned her beautiful idea into evidence that I was doing motherhood wrong. But then I caught it: Not anymore...

For years I believed that once my circumstances changed, then I would finally become the person I wanted to be. Once I reached the goal, sold the house, built the business, ate healthier, or became more confident, then everything else would fall into place. But a surprising lesson from my daughter completely challenged that way of thinking. After hearing a parenting insight from Dr. Becky, I reali...

For years I thought there was a right way to do everything. The right way to parent. The right way to handle conflict. The right way to text people back. The right thing to say in hard conversations. I was constantly overthinking my words trying to avoid failure embarrassment rejection or disappointing people. And honestly? It was exhausting. In this episode I’m talking about the pressure so many...

A while back I had one of those terrible horrible no good very bad days. I woke up sick, overwhelmed, exhausted, and completely buried under the pressure of everything I needed to do. My brain convinced me every task was an emergency and no amount of mindset work could snap me out of it. For a minute I judged myself hard. I thought I should be handling things better. I thought successful people mu...

In this episode, I talk about the invisible manuals I realized I had created for almost everyone in my life. Manuals for how husbands should act, how teenagers should behave, how kids should respond, and even how strangers should show up in the world. I share how my brain was constantly comparing reality to these made up rules and how that comparison was creating frustration, hurt, and disappointm...

What if the stress you feel every day isn’t actually coming from your life but from the story you’re telling yourself about it? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful mindset shift that completely changed how I show up in my life. Inspired by Olympian Alysa Liu and her ability to compete with joy instead of pressure, I break down the difference between thinking “I have to” versus choosing “I want...

In this episode I share a mindset shift that completely changed the way I handle hard days. Like most of us, I have moments where I catch myself thinking, “Why is this so hard?” Between parenting challenges, overwhelming schedules, unexpected news, and emotional days, it can feel like life is just piling on. Recently I had one of those days. The kind where everything felt off and the temptation to...

In this episode I share the mindset shift that is changing the way I show up in my marriage, my parenting, and every relationship in my life. I have been reading Loving What Is by Byron Katie and diving deeper into thought work, self awareness, and emotional triggers. What I am learning is that most of my frustration is not coming from other people’s behavior but from the thoughts I am believing a...

How many times have you talked yourself out of something because you imagined the worst case scenario? In this episode, I share how I am learning to stop letting fear of rejection, anxiety, and people pleasing run my life by asking one powerful question What’s the worst that could happen? From coaching a teen through the courage to ask friends to include her, to sending a bold text about changes t...

In this episode, I’m sharing the real secret to getting people to change and it might not be what you expect. For years, I believed that if the people in my life would just act differently, everything would feel easier. I spent so much time blaming my circumstances, my relationships, and other people for how I felt without realizing how much power I was giving away. Through my own personal growth...

​​In this episode  I am sharing how I stopped believing that mindset is something you are born with and learned how to change my mindset by rewiring my brain. For years I felt overwhelmed frustrated and stuck. I thought something was wrong with me or that I was just wired this way. What I discovered instead is that my brain was simply out of shape and running on outdated thought patterns. I talk a...

For years, I believed happiness was something I’d reach once my circumstances changed. When the baby slept through the night, when my body looked different, when my marriage felt easier, when I had more money, a different job, or a smoother season of life. But what I discovered is this. We can arrive at the destination we believe will finally make us happy and still feel unhappy because we bring t...

When is the last time you did something for the first time? If you had to stop and think about it, you are not alone. As we get older, we get more comfortable in our routines and more resistant to change. We say no more often. We avoid being bad at things. We protect the identity we have built instead of staying curious and flexible. Meanwhile, kids are constantly doing things for the first time a...

For years, I lived with a scarcity mindset around money, time, and energy without even realizing it. I grew up watching money be held tightly, locked away, protected out of fear. That mindset was inherited, passed down from generations shaped by survival and the Great Depression. And while I’m deeply grateful for everything my dad provided, I eventually reached a moment where I said not anymore. I...

In this episode I share the moment I realized that the stress I was feeling was not coming from my circumstances. It was coming from the story I was telling myself about them. I talk about a designer who simply decided she does not get stressed, and how that one conversation opened my eyes to the possibility that things I had labeled as hard might actually get to be fun. I share how two teachers c...

In this episode of Not Anymore , I share a story that stopped me in my tracks.  I was at the doctor’s office where my kids were laughing and having fun, and I was embarrassed and frustrated, worried about what everyone else was thinking. That moment became a mirror that showed me how often I tie my worth as a mom to how “put together” everything looks on the outside. I talk about what it means to...

For most of my life, I loved being the one cheering everyone else on. I’d send encouraging texts, celebrate people’s wins, and show up like their biggest hype girl. But deep down, I was craving that same kind of cheerleader. Someone to notice me, to tell me I was doing a good job. And if I’m being honest, that need for validation caused tension in my marriage, exhaustion in my hustle, and an empti...

I used to overthink, over-give, and over-please. I tried to prove my worth by doing more and saying yes to everything…but not anymore. In this episode, I’m sharing the 10 leadership principles that have changed my life — from assuming the best in people, setting boundaries, leading by example, and learning to love like Jesus. These principles aren’t about perfection, they are about becoming. About...

Have you ever given someone great advice… and then realized later you needed to take it yourself? That happened to me recently. I was telling my sister not to worry about her toddler’s current phase and that it would all work out. Later that day, I found myself flustered with one of my own kids. And it hit me: Wendy, take your own advice. In this episode, I share what it means to live with the wis...

In this episode, I’m opening up about the stories we tell ourselves — and how faith has helped me rewrite fear and find peace, even in the middle of uncertainty. It all started with a conversation I had with one of my kids about Jesus asking His disciples to cast their nets into shallow water. Logically, it didn’t make sense… but they trusted Him — and that trust led to a miracle. That story made...