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Well, this is a bit of a different episode today, as I share a conversation I had with my friend Steph over on her podcast Style for Life.    I met Steph in her role as a stylist when she did my colours in a mall. Since then she's shopped with me, taught me to run, shared so much with me about nutrition and exercise, and now she is an ever-inspiring woman in my world.    EVERYONE needs a Steph. Wo...

Have you heard the saying, "Parenting is a walk in the park, only it's Jurassic Park"? Anxiety about our children's health, development, and activities can be really challenging.    In this episode I explore some key ideas for managing your experience of anxiety in the context of parenting.

Responding well to people who err towards negativity can be tough - whether these characters in your life are friends, family members or colleagues.    In this episode I respond to a listener question with tips for dealing with negative people - ways to manage the relationship, a challenge around what this pushes for you personally, and how to guard your own precious energy through it all.

For many of us, there are things we would like to change - perhaps around our health, around our style of relating to others, or personal habits.    But, the process of change can be really hard. In this episode, I share some encouragement and reminders for you if you've got something you're working on right now. This might be the little boost you need :)

N.O. Two letters, one tiny word, but sometimes so hard to say! Join me for this episode where I share my advice around learning the art of saying no.

Woah - this is a big one! In this episode, I respond to a listener question about how to navigate parenting differences. I had a lot to say so it became a full episode really :) There are lots of great tips here for developing a shared vision with your parenting partner, and working to the bigger goal of shaping your children towards the values that are most precious to you as parents.

People invest a lot of precious time and money in engaging with a therapist - whether that is a counsellor, psychologist or some kind of coach.    Join me for this episode where I share how to get the most out of therapy.

In this episode I respond to a listener question about the challenge our children's behaviour/struggles/journey can be to our mental health. I share some insights and perspectives that I hope support you in how to feel OK, even when the wheels have well and truly fallen off.

In this episode I share about the three personality indicator tools I find most helpful, and encourage you to consider delving into this learning for yourself.   I also briefly re-introduce myself to new followers, and celebrate reaching 50 episodes on the podcast!

Following on from my previous episode which explored the benefits of time spent investing in downregulating your nervous system, this episode provides some top tips to help you understand how to integrate more regular downregulating time and activities into your day. Downregulation is so important, yet for many of us we do not have many activities that truly wind us down. If you need to extend you...

In this episode I explore the impact that time spent downregulating our nervous system can have on our brain and body. The benefits are profound, and the challenges downregulation can assist us with makes for a long list!    This is the first part of a two part series - so, listen on to the next episode where I explore how to make regular downregulating time a part of your life.    This podcast is...

This is the episode nobody asked for, but I think we all need. Times are challenging locally and globally - crime, war, cost of living, politics, injustice... So, how on earth do we live our lives and maintain some sense of wellness in the face of this context. Join me for this episode where I explore some insights that might help you in navigating the current climate.    Don't forget, my podcast...

Join me for this episode where I share advice on managing procrastination - in particular, how to understand the beliefs and feelings behind your procrastination so you can choose the best strategies going forward.

Join me for this episode where I share some key tips on recovering from a bad day. Bad days happen for all of us, and within our bad days there are often things we have the opportunity to listen to.    Don't forget that this podcast is brought to you by the lovely people at Millo. Check out their luxury foam loungers at millo.co.nz and if you decide you need one, I have a discount code: goingsandc...

Social media brings us opportunities to connect, to be motivated, to engage with social issues, and to learn. But, it can also be a huge challenge to our mental health.   Join me for this episode and where I share some tips on how to manage your social media usage so that it serves and does not hinder your mental health.    Don't forget I have a fabulous discount code thanks to the team at Millo L...

Perfectionism plagues many people. We live in a world of high expectations, and can internalise these to the point these can become our own very hard task master. Join me as I present a range of tips and insights to help you overcome perfectionism.    Just a reminder, this episode is brought to you by Millo foam loungers. These luxury loungers are a big invitation to relax! You can get 20% off wit...

This episode addresses a common challenge to our wellbeing - busyness! We all have times where our days are quite 'full' with multiple demands. When the pressure is on, do you know how to care well for yourself, even when time is short? In this episode I share lots of tips to get you thinking about how you care well for yourself through busy days.    Don't forget I have a discount code provided by...

In this episode, I explore some of the things you can do to support a child with anxiety. Anxiety is a common experience for children and can escalate to a point it has a significant impact on the child and their wider family. This episode provides perspectives and tips to support parents and other key adults.    If you'd like to download a copy of my guide: 'What to do when your child is experien...

Join me for this episode where I further explore the concept of Unbearable Feelings, looking at how Unbearable Feelings influence our relationships.    Our Unbearable Feeling is usually a key culprit behind the pain and difficulty we experience in our relationships. And, in most relationships there are at least two Unbearable Feelings. This can create what we refer to as a 'cross matching', where...

Join me for this episode where I share three things I wish people knew about anxiety.    This has been a long awaited topic on the podcast!    Also, a big welcome to my brand new sponsor for the Feel Better podcast - Millo! Millo make luxury foam loungers which are an absolute dream to rest and relax into. Taking time out to sit down is one of the most important things I do for my mental health, y...

Join me for this episode where we explore the topic of Imposter Syndrome.

Unbearable Feelings have a huge influence on our lives - causing pain, and preventing us from reaching our goals and potential. Join me for this episode where I share more about this concept, examples, my own story, and how to heal your Unbearable Feeling.

I know that over the next few months I have a particularly busy time, and, it's also winter, where we typically struggle to maintain a focus on our health and our mood can slump.    So, in this episode I'm sharing with you my personal plan for how I'll make sure I'm as well as I can be over the next period of time. I hope this is helpful for you and inspires you to consider your own wellness in pe...

Buckle up, this is a biggie! In this episode I talk you through an exercise to review your friendships, which will get you thinking about gaps, where and how energy flows, and the placement of people in your life. I then talk about how to find new friends if you have gaps. And, I have included a section on dealing with conflict/distance in friendships. Enjoy!

In this episode, I respond to a listener question about how to feel better once the kids have left home. This period is a huge adjustment for parents and presents some key challenges. I share some questions you can ask of yourself and key tips in this episode.