Make Him Wonder

S4E24: AM I EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM MY MAN? Coach Paula Grooms Download Nine months ago, 26-yr-old Amara told me she was “too clingy, needy, and emotional” in her relationship.  After our discussion, Amara took action. She is now at a much better place with her boyfriend, Tony, but continues to question if she is “asking for too much.” Tony says he feels Amara “doesn’t appreciate him,” so he...

S4E23: THE RIGHT TIME TO HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME Coach Paula Grooms Download 33-yr-old Esme and 37-yr-old Ivan have been dating for 6 weeks. Despite all indicators that Ivan wants to move forward in a relationship, Esme is concerned that once the two have sex, the positive momentum could abruptly stop. Wondering what will give her the best chance of Ivan wanting her for his forever “one,” and...

S4E22: WHEN A YOUNGER MAN STEALS YOUR HEART BUT ROBS YOU OF MORE Coach Paula Grooms Download It was love at first sight for 30-yr-old Lucia when she saw 23-yr-old Brian performing on a street in her city. Artistic and sweet, Lucia viewed Brian as different from other men, both younger and older, and let herself fall hard.  Now, only 3 weeks later, Lucia is feeling intense anxiety over Brian n...

S4E21: HOW QUESTIONING A MAN’S INTEREST MAKES HIM LOSE IT Coach Paula Grooms Download 35-yr-old Christine, reached out to her ex, 35-yr-old Maurice, who lives in another state. He responded positively and has been consistent, but Christine continues to sabotage her chances by openly questioning Maurice on his level of interest. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula outlines what changes Christ...

S4E20: DOES SLEEPING WITH HIM ON THE FIRST DATE MEAN IT'S DOOMED? Coach Paula Grooms Download 36-yr-old single mom, Madison, slept with 31-yr-old Mike on the first date. But despite Mike’s continued pursuit and behavior that suggests he’s thinking of Madison as a possible girlfriend, Madison can’t quell her anxiety and negative thoughts. Despite trying hard to text and behave in ways that show her...

S4E19: THE RIGHT MESSAGE TO SEND WHEN BREAKING NO-CONTACT Coach Paula Grooms Download 42-yr-old Skylar has been in no-contact with 44-yr-old Jason for five months. Recently questioning herself, Skylar wants to know if reaching out will lessen her chances of getting back together.  To her surprise, I coach Skylar on why and how she should be reaching out to increase the possibility of Jason fe...

S4E18: GONE BANSHEE ON YOUR MAN BUT STILL WANT HIM BACK? Coach Paula Grooms Download 36-yr-old Pippa had a great, connected relationship with 31-yr-old Dan.  With so much in common, things starting-off right, and Dan wanting to spend most of his free time with Pippa, she was blindsided when he went awol.  Finding out that he had started seeing someone else, Pippa went-off on Dan, and now...

S4E17: HE’S FINALLY SEPARATED, BUT I’M STILL MARRIED: HELP! Coach Paula Grooms Download After three years of having an affair with 46-yr-old married man, Jim, 43-yr-old Morgan’s dream of Jim being separated finally came to pass.  But instead of Jim being freer to be with Morgan, he has retreated.   On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula discovers that there is much more to the st...

S4E16: SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH AN EX-HUSBAND Coach Paula Grooms Download 44-yr-old Darlene had been separated for 18 months when she began a FWB relationship with 40-yr-old divorced, Paul. Despite telling Darlene he loved her and didn’t want to let her go; Paul wasn’t ready for commitment. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Darlene returns to ask me what her last words to Paul should be, and how...

S4E15: LACK OF URGENCY HELPS INSTILL TRUST Coach Paula Grooms Download About 3 years following the loss of her husband, 55-yr-old Kitt reconnected with 53-yr-old Shaun, who she had known in HS.  But Shaun was not ready or willing to commit to a serious relationship and went silent, leaving Kitt wondering what had happened.  Since then, Kitt met 56-yr-old Mike, and all seemed to be going...

S4E14: THE DOs AND DON’Ts OF DATING AS A SINGLE MOM Coach Paula Grooms Download 42-yr-old Kate is a single mom of three children under the age of 16. Kate is not looking to get married or live with a man until her children are off to college. However, she does want a long-term committed relationship.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, I give Kate my opinion on involving her children in her...

S4E13: WHAT TO DO WHEN BEING NEEDY HAS PUSHED YOUR MAN AWAY Coach Paula Grooms Download 38-yr-old divorced mom, Autumn, realizes that her neediness caused 40-yr-old Danny to call it quits, despite loving her and her children. Stating that she is “finally ready to do the work needed to get Danny back,” Autumn wonders if it’s too late, and if she has ruined her chances for good. On this episode of M...

S04E12: MOVE-IN WITHOUT ENGAGEMENT AND HE WON’T BE MOVED TO MARRY Coach Paula Grooms Download 29-yr-old Lauren has been dating 31-yr-old Luke for only 6 months, and Luke is planning on moving in with Lauren very soon.  Lauren says she is so happy that she worked on herself and is now with someone she feels is worth committing to, yet she worries that she might be taking things "too fast."&#16...

S4E11: WHEN LIGHTENING CHEMISTRY MAKES HIM BOLT Coach Paula Grooms Download When 35-yr-old Adele met divorced dad 38-yr-old Jules, it was love-at-first-sight. But the passion and intensity caused Jules to breakup several times.  In this episode of Make Him Wonder, I help Adele understand the initial missteps she made that left Jules feeling unsafe to move forward, and how getting herself back...

S4E10: HOW  SELF-FOCUS LEADS A MAN TO FOCUS ON COMMITMENT Coach Paula Grooms Download 32-yr-old Kaira felt lucky to have 29-yr-old Giovanni living with her, but soon became disenchanted. At the time, Giovanni was using Tinder and pics of his past women as his porn and not paying his full share of the rent.  But instead of focusing on what Giovanni was doing, Kaira got busy working o...

S4E09: SHOULD I JUST GO BACK TO MY EX? Coach Paula Grooms Download 39-yr-old divorced mom of three, Bev, has found it challenging to date.  Her ex-husband is highly achieved and very successful financially. Now dating 47-yr-old Juan, Bev is concerned that Juan's lack of complete commitment is due to him being challenged by her ex's lifestyle and feeling like he doesn't measure up. Bev as...

S4E08: RUNNING INTO YOUR EX WHEN IN NO CONTACT Coach Paula Grooms Download 46-yr-old Blake is in an on-again, off-again relationship with 60 yr-old Carlos, who has been separated for the last 10 years.  A year ago, when Carlos broke things off because Blake wanted more commitment, the two remained friends, taking weekly walks together and talking on the phone. Blake has since seen the error i...

S4E07: WHY LOVE ISN’T ENOUGH FOR A MAN TO COMMIT Coach Paula Grooms Download 41-yr-old Elaine recently rendezvoused with a former love who she hadn’t seen in five years, who lives in another country. Despite being told he’s not ready for marriage now, Elaine feels there may be a future this time around. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, I explains the mixed-messages Elaine sent when agreeing to...

S4E06: PLAYING THE SELF-BLAME AND SHAME GAME Coach Paula Grooms Download After 2 years of one heartbreak after another, including 2 pregnancies, 43-yr-old Lynn realizes 43-yr-old Mike is not ready, willing, or able to make her a priority.  While knowing that she must move on, Lynn struggles with the anxiety associated with blaming herself for the breakup. In this episode of Make Him Wonder, P...

S4E05: CAN EXES EVER BE FRIENDS? Coach Paula Grooms Download The most common reasons for divorce include infidelity, addiction, financial conflicts, and basic incompatibility.   My divorce was not for any of those reasons, and precisely the reason that my ex and I have been able to forge a friendship. In this episode of Make Him Wonder, John and I take a look back at the how and why...

S4E04: WHY MEN NEED A CHALLENGE AND HOW TO DO IT GENUINELY Coach Paula Grooms Download Recently out of a 6-yr relationship, 40-yr-old Jasmine finds herself wondering if her accommodating ways allowed her ex to put her in the “fun-girl” category and may have kept the couple from going the distance.  In this episode of Make Him Wonder, Jasmine and I take a deep-dive on how making things easy fo...

S4E03: ALMOST 40 AND STILL SINGLE? THERE IS A FIX Coach Paula Grooms Download 39-yr-old Jolie is recently out of a situationship with 40-yr-old James. Jolie says she would have liked to have been married with children, by now, but finds it hard to be attracted to men who want a family life. Feeling frustrated and fearful, Jolie comes on Make Him Wonder to find out why she might be self-sabotaging,...

S4E02: Making Him the Bad Guy Creates War with the Wrong Enemy Coach Paula Grooms Download 32-yr-old Brianne says it’s a pattern of hers to have men “very interested” from the start only to end up “walking away” after she “harasses” them when she doesn’t receive the time and attention she wants. 42-yr-old Carl is no exception. A military man and away a lot, Brianne lets her anxiety get the best of...

S4E01: PLAYING IT SMALL IS RUINING YOUR POSSIBILITIES OF LASTING LOVE Coach Paula Grooms Download Go big or go home!  In Season Four, Episode One, I outline how playing it small may be hurting your chances of having the most fulfilling life and love, long term. If you're out there dating, be sure to listen so you see the big picture as it relates to dating and having a life-long mate. &#...

S3E36: GET AN EX-BACK EVEN WHEN THERE’S A THIRD PARTY Coach Paula Grooms Download 48-yr-old, Kelley, was in an 8-yr relationship with 41-yr-old, Corey. After sustaining several breakups, Corey moved out a year ago and began seeing a woman from work. But Kelley has kept Corey in her life financially, emotionally, and physically, believing that being a friend on good terms will help him to see that...