Make Him Wonder

S5E22: HE'S SEPARATED AND KEEPS COMING BACK—IS THIS TIME DIFFERENT? Coach Paula Grooms Download After years of on-again, off-again with 63-yr-old Carlos—a separated man who never followed through on his promise to divorce—48-yr-old Blake is faced with the moment she’s been waiting for… or is she? Nearly a year into no-contact, Carlos reappears with a simple, cryptic message. Unsure what to do next...

S5E20: GHOSTED TWICE BY THE SAME MAN—BUT THIS TIME SHE'S READY   Coach Paula Grooms Download Upon reuniting after five months of no contact, 44-year-old Skylar reached out to 44-year-old Jason to reset his image of her—and it worked. Jason began showing up for Skylar, communicating more, and treating her like a girlfriend. But after a minor moment of awkwardness between them, Jason ghosted again—t...

S5E19: WHEN HIS ACTIONS FEEL LIKE PROOF - BUT AREN'T Coach Paula Grooms Download After three tumultuous years in an affair with a married man, 44-year-old Morgan finally has 47-year-old Jim all to herself. Jim is making real efforts to show up—trying to please Morgan, and even talking about living together. Yet instead of feeling secure, Morgan finds herself questioning Jim’s motives, loyalty, and...

S5E18: WHEN HE WANTS YOU BACK, HE (EVENTUALLY) ACTS! Coach Paula Grooms Download 43-year-old Rebecca may have wondered what kept her ex, 46-year-old Seamus, from acting on his feelings. Like many men after a breakup, Seamus struggled to make sense of Rebecca’s behavior, leaving him uncertain about how to reopen communication—and choosing inaction instead.  In this episode of Make Him Wonder ,...

S5E17: WAS I TOO MUCH — OR WAS HE NOT ENOUGH? Coach Paula Grooms Download 31-year-old Maureen and 37-year-old Mark ended their 8-year relationship after Maureen began to believe her need for intimacy was “too much” for Mark. In this episode of Make Him Wonder , we listen in as iconic therapist Esther Perel explores whether reconnection is possible after a breakup—and I share my perspective. Throug...

S5E16: CONFUSING MAKING HIM WONDER WITH MAKING HIM WAIT Coach Paula Grooms Download 42-yr-old Elaine was determined to do things differently with 52-year-old Bruce. With their immense chemistry and cultural compatibility, Elaine wanted to lay the foundation for a real relationship and wait to have sex. But after weeks of seeing each other often and speaking almost daily, Elaine felt shocked that B...

S5E15: THE TALK, THE TIMING, AND THE TRUTH: KAITLYN'S ONLINE DATING UPGRADE! Coach Paula Grooms Download When Kaitlyn’s spark with 26-year-old David couldn’t grow into the real relationship she wanted, she finally got clear on what she truly needs — and she took that clarity back online. In this episode of Make Him Wonder , Kaitlyn returns to explore how intentional online dating can deliver genui...

S5E14: HE WON'T MAKE A MOVE! WHY? Coach Paula Grooms Download 43-yr-old Lynn comes back on Make Him Wonder to navigate the delicate space between friendship and romance. After heartbreak, Lynn says she doesn't want more with her ex, 41-yr-old Mike, and she's now talking to a nice, new connection, 47-yr-old Chad. But Mike is still bread-crumbing, and a recent weekend getaway with Chad has left her...

S5E13: WHEN DOING “THE RULES” FEELS LIKE IT'S BACKFIRING Coach Paula Grooms Download 27-year-old Marcel started-off on the right foot with 38-year-old Karina, courting her with flowers, chocolates, and daily attention. But that quickly gave way to last-minute plans and inconsistent effort. As Karina tried to assert herself and apply “the rules,” the connection began to unravel. In this episode of...

S5E11: WHEN TRAUMA RESULTS IN BONDING TO A TROUBLED MAN    Coach Paula Grooms Download 29-yr-old, new mom, Bella, was happily married to her 31-yr-old HS sweetheart when tragedy struck and he passed away of cancer. Still in grief, worsened by the isolation of the Covid pandemic, Bella began dating again and quickly fell into a relationship with 44-yr-old Larry. But Larry was far from being a sweet...

S5E10: Did He Waste Her Fertility or Did She Forget to Make Him Wonder? Coach Paula Grooms Download A 40-year-old guest on Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin shares her story: after freezing embryos with her life partner and agreeing to start their family in her 40th year, he suddenly got cold feet. Five months of couples therapy later, they’ve separated. In this episode of Make Him Wonder , I b...

S5E09: Tired of Swiping? Meet the Courting Site for Serious Relationships! Coach Paula Grooms Download Tired of the usual dating app grind?  If swiping isn’t bringing the results you want, it might be time to try a different approach. In this episode of Make Him Wonder, I sit down with Jeremy Nelson, founder of Marrying America, a new courting platform designed for women seeking serious, comm...

S5E08: THE RIGHT TIME TO HAVE SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME Coach Paula Grooms Download 33-yr-old Esme and 37-yr-old Ivan have been dating for 6 weeks. Despite all indicators that Ivan wants to move forward in a relationship, Esme is concerned that once the two have sex, the positive momentum could abruptly stop. Wondering what will give her the best chance of Ivan wanting her for his forever “one,” and...

S5E07: ENGAGING IN WHAT WORKS GOT HER AN ENGAGEMENT Coach Paula Grooms Download After 6 weeks of dating, 33-yr-old Esme knew she had found someone special in 37-yr-old Ivan. His consistency, kindness, and candor were refreshing. Yet, despite all indicators that Ivan wanted to move forward in their relationship and fully commit, Esme had difficulty giving over. Deciding to work on what works with m...

S5E06: WHY MEN EASILY LEAVE DESPITE FALLING IN LOVE Coach Paula Grooms Download In less than 6 weeks after meeting online, 38-yr-old divorced dad, Rafael, was taking 35-yr-old Adele to meet his friends and family, and agreeing to exclusivity. Adele was therefore heartbroken when Rafael couldn’t follow through.  In this episode of Make Him Wonder, I help Adele understand why Rafael left and wh...

S5E05: DID HE WASTE HER FERTILITY, OR DID SHE FAIL TO MAKE HIM WONDER? Coach Paula Grooms Download A 40-yr-old guest on Esther Perel’s podcast, Where Should We Begin, outlines her journey of freezing embryos with her life partner with an agreement to begin implantation in her 40th year. But when the time came, this woman’s partner got cold feet. Following 5 months of couples counseling, the two ha...

S5E04: WHEN A SEPARATION DOESN'T HAVE TO KEEP YOU APART Coach Paula Grooms Download 46-yr-old Blake let long-time-separated 61-yr-old Carlos back into her life after 10 months of his continued texts. Now that the two have been back together for a few months, Blake is growing restless to know what Carlos is willing to do to allow their relationship to go the distance. Wanting to change their histor...

S5E03: HOW ACTING AS-IF INSPIRES HIM TO COMMIT Coach Paula Grooms Download 35-yr-old Christine, reached out to her ex, 35-yr-old Maurice, who lives in another state. He responded positively and has been consistent, but Christine isn’t convinced. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, I help Christine see what is keeping her stuck and what she can practice at a long-distance to bring Maurice closer ev...

S5E02: WHEN ONLY A DASH OF DOING THINGS DIFFERENTLY WORKS WONDERS Coach Paula Grooms Download 57-yr-old divorced mother of two, Robin recognized that there was something she needed to tweak in her online dating. She went on a journey to find the answers and discovered that when she managed her mindset, worked on manifesting over negative thinking, and used the mechanics of men, she could win what...

S4E30: WHEN A BREAKUP IS A SETUP FOR SUCCESS Coach Paula Grooms Download By the time 30-yr-old Audrey met 27-yr-old Anthony in person, the two had already established a great online friendship. They fell in love within a few months and were meeting each other’s friends. However, Anthony showed signs of feeling pressured, especially as he was starting a new business.  His becoming more avoidan...

S4E29: STARTING OFF A LD RELATIONSHIP ON THE RIGHT FOOT Coach Paula Grooms Download 36-yr-old Jolie's excitement over 40-yr-old Luke turned to disappointment when Luke's initial interest seemed to suddenly wane.  Not understanding why Luke's behavior was normal for a man at a long-distance, Jolie comes back on Make Him Wonder to get my coaching on where things made a turn, and how she can get...

S4E28: HOW TO MAKE YOUR MESSAGING CLEAR TO A MAN WHO SENDS MIXED MESSAGES Coach Paula Grooms Download 46-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, describes dating 48-yr-old Paul as "amazing." On date 5 they had sex, but Leisel was disappointed that this didn't change Paul's inconsistent communication.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, I help Leisel discover the importance of consistent messagi...

S4E27: Q&A WITH MICHELLE Coach Paula Grooms Download LD relationships, being a catch but not being caught, single with little romantic history and more!  In this Q&A with Michelle we answer your questions.  Send Michelle@CoachPaulaGrooms.com YOUR question or ask about being a guest for an episode that will only be posted here in the club! 

S4E26: PACING A YOUNGER MAN TO GO THE DISTANCE Coach Paula Grooms Download 36-yr-old mother of three, Kaitlyn made the first move when she introduced herself to her gym’s new yoga instructor, 26-yr-old, David. David moved to Kaitlyn’s country from another country, only 8 months ago. Given the age difference and the fact that the two share a gym, Kaitlyn comes on Make Him Wonder wanting my coaching...

S4E25: IF LOVE HAS ELUDED YOU Coach Paula Grooms Download Love is for anyone who chooses to have it.  But unless you're one of the very lucky few, it doesn't "just happen," or come to us when "we least expect it."  If you're past the age of 30, you've likely endured many heartbreaks and romantic dry spells. If you're enduring one now, you can feel defeated, if not downright depressed.&#1...