Let's Unpack

In this solo episode, I’m unpacking my anxious attachment—what it looks like in my friendships, and how it’s shaped the way I relate to Jesus. I talk about that constant pull between wanting closeness and fearing distance, and how quickly I can believe the lie that one mistake makes God pull away from me. I open up about the thoughts that hit when I “mess up”—feeling rejected, overanalyzing everyt...

In this episode of "Let's Unpack," we dive into the unpredictable nature of life and the lessons learned over the past year. With reflections on faith, community, and personal growth.

In this episode of Let’s Unpack , we step into one of the most honest and difficult realities of suffering—what happens when the desire to keep fighting doesn’t come easy. We sit down with James Dunn, a brother in Christ from the Southern Connecticut Church of Christ, as he shares his recent cancer diagnosis and the journey that followed. But what makes this conversation especially powerful is Jam...

Patrick is back! 🎉 In this episode, he opens up about delivering his daughter (yes, you read that right 👀), the emotions he felt during his paternity leave, and how that season shaped his faith. Guillermo and Bianca jump in to share their personal reasons for going to church, digging into the heart behind community, worship, and love. One of our favorite takeaways from Patrick: “Church is not ab...

In this heartfelt episode of Let's Unpack, Guillermo and Bianca kick things off with a joyful update—Patrick is out this week because he just welcomed a baby girl! 🎉 Bianca opens up about reconnecting with her father after two years, sharing an emotional reflection on Father’s Day. She and Guillermo dive deep into how their relationships with their parents have shaped them, and how those dynamics...

After a long pause, Let’s Unpack is back — and life has been a lot . Patrick just had surgery and is preparing to welcome his second child — his first baby girl . Bianca is taking space to heal And Guillermo is wrestling with faith, feeling distant from God, stuck between the pressure to “make it” and the call to trust Jesus.

In this vulnerable conversation, Guillermo, Pat, and Bianca sit with the pain and patterns of mistrust, emotional deprivation, and self-sacrifice. Together, they explore how early wounds shape the way we love, trust, and show up — often at the cost of ourselves. They reflect on what it means to live with unmet emotional needs, to carry invisible fears into our closest relationships, and to lose pa...

In this episode of Let's Unpack , we explore the profound impact of emotional deprivation on our lives and how schema therapy has helped us better understand our triggers. We discuss how these emotional wounds shape our responses to others, particularly in the realm of forgiveness. Tune in as we reflect on how recognizing our triggers and healing through Jesus Christ can lead us to deeper emot...

A lot has been happening behind the scenes—busy school schedules, miscommunication, creative ruts, and just life being life. But after some time away, we’re back and ready to unpack it all! In this episode, we catch up on what’s been going on in our lives, the challenges we’ve faced, and how we’re navigating it all as disciples. Let’s talk about the struggles, the growth, and everything in between...

In this episode of Let’s Unpack, we sit down with Jason Burns to dive deep into the schema of “failure”—how it shapes his self-perception and impacts his relationships. Together, we explore the dynamics of male and female friendships within romantic relationships, the complexities of trust, and the fine line between emotional and physical cheating. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation abou...

In this episode of Let's Unpack, we take a deep dive into the spiritual concept of "The Dark Night of the Soul," a term coined by the 16th-century mystic St. John of the Cross. We explore the emotional and spiritual challenges that arise during times of profound transformation — the disorientation, isolation, and inner turmoil — and how these moments can lead to a deeper connection with the divine...

In this episode of Let’s Unpack, we explore Isaiah’s battle with unrelenting standards. Despite his many accomplishments, nothing feels good enough until he reaches a level of perfection that often seems just out of reach. We delve into how this constant pressure to win impacts his self-esteem, relationships, and peace of mind. Isaiah opens up about the emotional toll of never feeling satisfied, e...

In this episode of *Let's Unpack*, we sit down with Elijah to explore the unrelating standards schema and how it impacts his daily life. Elijah shares how the constant pressure to meet unrealistic expectations affects his ability to recognize and appreciate his own successes, good qualities, and meaningful relationships. We dive deep into the origins of this schema, its effects on mental health an...

In this episode of Let's Unpack, the group delves into the complexities of social exclusion, focusing on Guillermo. Guillermo opens up about the assumptions people make about his sexuality, how these perceptions have impacted his relationships with male friends, and the challenges of feeling like he doesn’t fit into traditional definitions of masculinity. Join us as we explore what it means to be...

In this episode of "Let’s Unpack", hosts Patrick, Guillermo, and Bianca explore the roots of their self-sacrificing tendencies. They dive into personal stories and reflections, seeking to understand how their past experiences, relationships, and upbringing have shaped their inclination to prioritize others over themselves. Join them as they unpack the complexities of the self-sacrifice s...

In this episode of "Let's Unpack," we delve into the inspiring story of Fiorella, a young woman who has grappled with the mistrust schema since childhood. Fiorella shares her experiences of growing up with deep-seated doubts about trust and how these have shaped her relationships and view of the world. Join us as Fiorella opens up about her journey towards healing, finding solace and strength in h...

In this episode, we delve into the story of Guillermo and George, two close friends whose bond is tested when Guillermo doesn't receive an invitation to George's graduation. Feeling deeply hurt, Guillermo wrestles with his emotions and assumptions about their friendship, questioning his faith in their connection. Meanwhile, George, overwhelmed by the stresses of finals and graduation, insists that...

In this episode of "Let’s Unpack," we explore the complex relationship between two friends, Guillermo and George. Guillermo struggles with an abandonment schema, constantly fearing rejection and abandonment, while George deals with emotional inhibition, finding it difficult to express feelings and connect on a deeper level. This combination creates a push-pull dynamic that produces potentially har...

In this gripping episode of ‘Let’s Unpack,’ we delve deep into the aftermath of a recent car accident, exploring the intricate play between Satan’s deceit and the psychological frameworks of Schema Therapy. Join us as we unravel how these mental schemas can trap us in cycles of negative thinking and how Satan’s lies exploit these vulnerabilities. We’ll share personal stories, insights, and practic...

Dive into this episode of 'Let's Unpack' where we turn down subjugation and amp up freedom in Christ! Join us and special guest La Micia Genova, a women's ministry leader at Soconn Church, for a playful yet profound conversation about the inner battle of subjugation in church environments and personal relationships. Expect a blend of humor, deep spiritual insights, and the warm camaraderie of frie...

In this enlightening episode of "Let's Unpack," we explore the schema of defectiveness and uncover how the Bible's wisdom aids in healing. With our special guest, campus minister Quentin Goodman, we navigate his personal battles and breakthroughs, blending deep discussions with moments of fun and laughter, even around stigmatized topics. This episode offers insights and hope for anyone feeling los...

Dive into a fresh perspective on friendships in this episode of “Let’s Unpack,” where we explore the power of covenant relationships through the biblical tales of Jonathan and David, and Jesus and Judas. We’re shedding light on how the power of agape love and choice and can offer unparalleled protection and healing from our baggage. This concise exploration invites you to reimagine the role of dee...

On this episode Patrick, Bianca and Guillermo unpack the Emotional Deprivation Schema and how it can impact faith & relationships. Schemas are broad, pervasive themes or patterns that individuals carry through life, starting in childhood, which can significantly impact their well-being and relationships. The Emotional Deprivation schema, in particular, refers to the belief that one’s primary e...

The first ever episode of the new Podcast "Let's Unpack" featuring Guillermo, Bianca and Pat! Let's unpack is a podcast where 3 friends from 3 different walks of life explore deep themes related to Christianity such as Mental Health, Church Experiences, Life Traps (Schema's), the Bible and Pop Culture! On this episode, the trio explores some fun topics: Bianca's decision...