Legally Clueless

In this episode, we document Brenda's path toward a childfree life, from a lively Meru childhood and firstborn duty to the moment, at seven years old, when she first questioned whether motherhood should be her destiny. Through community, Catholic-school conditioning, and a deep love of words, she begins naming a life that’s hers by choice. In this episode you’ll hear: Meru roots: muddy play, tea f...

In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Catherine, the first Kenyan woman to lead a yoga teacher training in Africa, shares her extraordinary journey of healing and transformation. Born and raised in Kariobangi, Catherine discovered yoga by accident, but it soon became the tool that helped her navigate the challenges of her upbringing, heal generational wounds, and support her mother throu...

In this Mid-Week Tease, Adelle dives into the hidden ways internalized shame limits women and how it often makes us judge each other too. Shame is sneaky; it feels personal, but really it’s society’s voice living inside of us. Adelle shares how shame silences us, shrinks us, disconnects us from others, and even makes us police other women. And drawing from Brené Brown’s research, Adelle unpacks wh...

Over the past two episodes, we’ve journeyed with Audrey through her childhood and the unimaginable loss of her beloved brother, Warren. In this final part of her story, Audrey shares how she navigated life after loss, the painful burial, the anger she felt at faith, and her long journey of slowly facing the places and memories she had been avoiding. She also reflects on how unexpected moments, lik...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, host Adelle Onyango sits down with Ingashian Gibendi, product leader, founder of The Career Whisperer, and a bold advocate for women crafting careers on their own terms. Ingashian shares why rest is not laziness but a radical act of reclaiming power in a world that equates worth with constant work. From taking unplanned career breaks, to rejecting toxic wor...

This week on Mid Week Tease, Adelle is joined by therapist Natali Mukami from Shamiri Health as they open up a deeply important conversation about childhood trauma. They unpack: What childhood trauma really is and how it shows up in adulthood The subtle ways trauma manifests in our work, relationships, and self-perception Why group therapy is such a powerful space for healing Gentle tools you can...

When Grief Silences Siblings  In Part 1 of Audrey’s story, she took us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the cracks in her parents’ marriage, and the loneliness of family separation. In this second part, Audrey shares the unimaginable: the sudden loss of her beloved brother Warren. She opens up about the chaos that followed, the unanswered questions surrounding his death, and the in...

In this deeply honest episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with journalist, advocate, and founder of the Inua Dada Foundation, Janet Mbugua, for a vulnerable conversation on the realities of female friendships. Together, they explore: How the media and society pit women against each other The quiet shame and trust issues that shape how we show up in friendships Friendship brea...

Why do some relationships feel like home even when they hurt us? Why do we cling to people who echo the very wounds we’ve been trying to escape? In this episode of the Mid Week Tease, we unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way we love, the way we trust, and the bonds we form, even the ones that break us. From understanding trauma bonds, to relearning trust, to breaking generational cycles, this...

This week on Legally Clueless, we step into Part 1 of Audrey June’s story. She takes us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the bond with her siblings, the love in her family, and then the cracks that began to appear. From her parents’ separation, to the loneliness she felt as a child, and the strength she witnessed in her mother as she fought to rebuild their lives. Part 2 of her sto...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Dr. Amanda Kenya, a holistic obstetrician and gynecologist passionate about hormone health. Dr. Kenya breaks down the truth about hormones, beyond periods and fertility, revealing how they impact our sleep, mood, mental health, libido, skin, bones, heart, and so much more. We talk openly about perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopau...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the quiet legacy many of us carry: the wounds passed down through generations of women, and the strength we inherit too. From the silence of our mothers and grandmothers, to the resilience that allowed them to endure, this episode unpacks how we can recognize both pain and power in our lineage. Adelle shares reflections on: The unspoken traumas wome...

This is Episode 341 of the Legally Clueless Podcast! We’re sharing the second part of a powerful story from Petronilla, a mother of three. In Part 1, she opened up about her chaotic childhood, traumatic delivery, and the early struggles of raising her firstborn. In this episode, she continues her journey, revealing the painful family tensions around her marriage, the terrifying experience of givin...

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Lolo Cynthia, a women’s rights advocate and unapologetic voice on women’s liberation, sexuality, and self-determination. Lolo shares her bold journey of becoming, from creating the persona of “Lolo” at 18 to embracing her true self today. She opens up about therapy as a catalyst for transformation, learning to trust her gut, and the re...

In this Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the characters children often adopt in dysfunctional families, the hero, the clown, the scapegoat, the lost child. These roles may have kept us safe as children, but they can trap us as adults, shaping our relationships, our sense of self, and even how we love. This episode dives into: What family dysfunction creates these childhood roles. The most common ch...

This is Episode 340 of the Legally Clueless Podcast! We’re sharing the first part of Petronilla Njoki’s powerful story. From growing up in a single-parent household, navigating tough teenage years, and later stepping into motherhood, Petronilla opens up about the challenges she faced, including a traumatic delivery and the emotional rollercoaster of caring for her firstborn through serious health...

In this bold episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with author and mother of four, Felgonah Oya, who shares her powerful story of getting divorced at 31 with four young children. Felgonah opens up about: Walking away from a marriage despite family and societal pressure. The shocking reactions she faced from friends and relatives. The long, messy, expensive reality of divorce in Kenya....

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle dives into one of the hardest truths about healing: sometimes, the people who hurt us never apologize. We’ll talk about: Why not receiving an apology can trigger anger, sadness, or even self-doubt How waiting for an apology keeps us stuck in the pain Practical ways to start healing on your own terms Why closure is something you can create for you...

In this week’s episode, we hear from Christine, a mother whose journey of raising two daughters with rare diseases shifted her life from corporate boardrooms to building a powerful advocacy movement. Key themes in this episode: Parenting through disability and rare diseases in Kenya. Why community and support matter more than money. How inclusion truly begins at home. Turning personal challenges i...

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mwanga, Senior Associate at Alakonya Law, to unpack the legal truths every woman needs to know, but often isn’t told. We go deep into: Why wills aren’t always the safest option, and why trusts might protect your loved ones better How to safeguard your children and yourself if your spouse passes away The legal steps to take imm...

This week’s episode is deeply personal, I’m sitting down with my therapist and dear friend, Faith Guchu, who will also be the guest speaker at our upcoming Wellness Talk on August 30th at 10AM EAT (Virtual). Faith has been instrumental in my own healing journey. In this candid conversation, we unpack: Why healthy boundaries with family can be so hard to build and how to start. The guilt, fear, and...

In this episode of Legally Clueless, you’ll meet Rachel Lubanga, the eighth born in her family, born with albinism, and raised in Kakamega, Kenya. Rachel opens up about her journey through special and regular schooling, the stigma and myths she’s had to navigate, the mental health challenges that followed, and the bold ways she has advocated for herself and others. This episode also connects to th...

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Barbara Malowa, senior partner at Alakona Law and the lawyer who supported Adelle through her own divorce. Together, they unpack the legal truths that every woman should know about marriage and divorce in Kenya.  From understanding the marriage contract, property rights, and parental responsibility, to navigating divorce timel...

This week’s Midweek Tease is all about building healthy boundaries with the people we love most, family and close friends. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially when guilt, cultural expectations, and old family patterns are involved. But the truth is: boundaries are essential for your mental health and for healthier, more respectful relationships. In this episode: 💛 Why b...

In Episode 337 of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Karima’s powerful story. In Part 1, she took us through her childhood growing up in the Akorino church, obedience as an expectation, ridicule in school, and her quiet acts of resistance. Now in Part 2, Karima shares her adulthood: her marriage, her decision to walk away, and why in 2025 she removed her turban, a bold step i...