Legally Clueless

Who benefits when women believe they are too loud, too angry, too ambitious or simply too much? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with feminist activist and Executive Director of Dada Collective Network, Zaha Indimuli, for a conversation about the many ways women are taught to make themselves smaller and what becomes possible when we refuse. They unpack respectability politics, s...

What happens when control doesn’t actually feel like control? Sometimes it sounds like, “I just worry about you.” Sometimes jealousy feels like proof that someone really cares. Sometimes constantly checking in feels like closeness. And sometimes we slowly begin changing how we dress, who we see, where we go and what we say just to keep the peace. Inspired by Makena’s story on Legally Clueless, thi...

What happens when attention slowly turns into control? In Part 1 of Makena’s story, she shares how a relationship that began with friendship, attraction and fun gradually became possessive and controlling. It started with small things that were easy to explain away. Complicated rules around communication. Constant calls when she was out with friends. Accusations of cheating. Wanting constant acces...

What happens when choosing yourself means creating distance from the people who raised you? This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with psychologist Ivanna Waweru for an honest conversation about family, boundaries, identity and going no-contact. Ivanna shares her own experience of growing up in a chaotic and critical family environment, the different versions of herself she became in...

What if the biggest thing standing between you and your dream isn’t your ability but whether you can actually see yourself living it?  This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks what it means to truly own your dreams to stop keeping the things you deeply desire at a safe distance and start believing that they deserve a real chance. Fresh from bringing For Mannerless Women Live to life, Adelle...

In the final part of Lisa Gaitho’s story, we follow her through one of the most personal shifts of her journey: questioning what she had been taught about faith and beginning to discover what spirituality could look like for herself. Lisa opens up about questioning Christianity, confronting how judgmental she had once been, and rebuilding her relationship with God outside of some of the beliefs sh...

What happens after you recognise narcissistic abuse? How do you begin to rebuild your life and yourself?  In Part 2 of this For Mannerless Women conversation, Adelle sits down with psychologist and trauma therapist Perpetua Chomba to explore healing after narcissistic abuse. They talk about making sense of what happened without blaming yourself, grieving the relationship and future you imagined, r...

When was the last time you spent time alone without reaching for your phone, filling the silence, or asking someone else what they think? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango explores how solitude and silence can help women reconnect with themselves, rediscover what they actually want, and rebuild trust in their own intuition. From the expectations placed on women to constantly be avail...

Lisa moved to Nigeria for love. But what happens when the life you move into leaves little room for you to be yourself? In Part 2 of Lisa Gaitho’s story, we pick up where we left off: Lisa is back in Kenya, unsure of what to do next, when she meets a boyfriend and decides to move to Nigeria. What follows is a very different life from the one she grew up knowing. Living with her boyfriend’s family,...

What happens when the person who once made you feel like the centre of their world becomes the person who makes you question your worth? The constant attention. The big promises. The feeling that you've finally found someone who truly understands you. And then, slowly, the affection changes. The criticism begins. Your boundaries are tested. You find yourself holding on to the person they were at t...

Have you ever disliked a woman who hadn't actually done anything to you? Maybe her confidence irritated you, her success made you uncomfortable, or you found yourself picking apart her life without really understanding why. What if the problem isn't her, but what her life brings up in you? In this week's episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango unpacks jealousy, envy, and the uncomfortable wa...

How do you figure out what you want to do with your life when nothing seems to quite fit? In Part 1 of Lisa Gaitho’s story, she takes us from a playful childhood growing up in Nairobi West to a high school experience she desperately wanted to escape and into years of trying to figure out where she belonged. Lisa tried journalism. She tried hotel and restaurant management. She eventually found culi...

What if the life you really want begins after the age you were told you should have everything figured out? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Sally Sawe, Co-Founder and COO of The Partnership Agency, for a beautiful conversation about ageing, starting again and giving yourself permission to build a life that is entirely your own. Approaching 40, Sally walked away from...

Leaving a harmful relationship is one thing. Staying gone can be another battle entirely. Inspired by Ann’s story on the Legally Clueless podcast, this week Adelle explores what it actually means to choose yourself while trying to leave an emotionally abusive or harmful relationship and in the days, weeks and months after you’ve walked away. Because going back doesn’t make you weak. In this episod...

After eight years of loving someone, what happens when you finally find the answers to the questions you’ve been asking all along? In the final part of Ann Wachera’s story, we pick up after another painful breakup with the man Ann once believed she would marry. Ann tries to move forward. She blocks him. Unblocks him. Goes to therapy. And eventually, the two find themselves back in each other’s liv...

What if the shame you carry about your body was never yours to begin with? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Connie Tipis, clinical psychologist and Co-Founder & CEO of Double Dee’s Lingerie Kenya & Uganda for a conversation about body shame, body confidence and learning to come home to ourselves. Connie shares how growing up fuller-busted changed the way she m...

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle is looking at 10 of the worst pieces of advice women are given, in her opinion. From being told to reduce your financial ambitions so you don’t intimidate a man, to submitting for the sake of peace, enduring because “marriage is hard,” putting your career second, maintaining your appearance so a man doesn’t cheat, and being told that ultimately, every woman...

What happens when you see the red flags, ask the questions and even find some of the answers but you’re still not ready to let go of the future you imagined with someone? In Part 2 of Ann’s story, we pick up after Ann discovers the first lie in a relationship she believes is leading to marriage. As the relationship continues, Ann and her partner move in together and begin imagining a future. But a...

What happens when loving someone slowly becomes abandoning yourself? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with businesswoman, creative and MC Dushy Kuria for an honest conversation about divorce, relationships, therapy, self-worth and finding your way back to yourself. For the first time, Dushy speaks publicly about her divorce, from what led her into marriage at 26, t...

Sometimes the hardest part isn't realising a relationship isn't working. It's admitting that you've known for a while. This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the stories we tell ourselves when we're trying to stay in relationships we've already begun to outgrow: maybe I need to give it more time, maybe I'm expecting too much, but they're a good person, maybe I haven't communicated clearly...

What happens when the beliefs you have about love, marriage and relationships are shaped long before you ever fall in love? In Part 1 of Ann Wachera’s story, Ann takes us back to losing her mum at just seven years old, being raised by her grandparents and the experiences that shaped how she came to understand womanhood, sex, pregnancy and marriage. Years later, at university, Ann meets a man she b...

Season 6 of For Mannerless Women is here and we're beginning with the brilliant Kaz Lucas. What happens when the life you're living no longer looks like the life women are told we're supposed to want? In this episode, Adelle sits down with Kaz for a deeply honest conversation about divorce in your 40s, grief, loneliness, being childfree, queer womanhood, friendship, community and the courage it ta...

What happens when the person you hear most is constantly criticising you? This week on the Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks negative self-talk: the cruel, critical and sometimes deeply familiar voice we can mistake for our own truth. She explores where our inner critic comes from, why being hard on ourselves can feel like a form of motivation or protection, and the important question we rarely stop...

What Being a Woman in Aviation Cost Me | Legally Clueless Ep 391 What happens when achieving the career you fought so hard for comes at a cost you never expected? In Part 2 of Ella’s story, she takes us deeper into her experience as a young woman working in aviation maintenance. Ella opens up about navigating a male-dominated workplace, experiencing sexual harassment, the victim-blaming and silenc...

What happens when you stop trusting your own decisions, feelings and instincts? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks how self-trust can slowly erode, through being constantly second-guessed, people-pleasing, gaslighting, overriding your own needs, breaking promises to yourself, or making a decision that went badly and deciding it means you can't trust yourself anymore. But self-trust is...