Lasting Transformation with Alun Parry - The Memory Reconsolidation Podcast

You offer an intervention that seems like it should land perfectly. It makes sense, it challenges exactly what seems to be keeping the client stuck. And nothing happens. So what do you do next? Push harder? Try another intervention? Or could the fact that it didn’t work actually be telling you something important? In this episode, I explore why a “failed” intervention can give you vital new inform...

In this episode, I help you navigate sessions where the client wants to go deep but worries that they may get flooded. How do you, as the practitioner, navigate these two competing issues? You want to help them explore the issues driving their problem. Yet you want to keep them safe as they do so. I will talk you through The Thermometer Technique. This is the tool that I use in these exact situati...

Do you ever have the impulse to talk some sense into your clients? Does your training maybe even encourage it? And doesn’t it feel hard and frustrating and circular too? In this episode, I show you why this approach is hard work, why it gets in the way of transformational outcomes, and what to do instead. Links Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy Finally understand why transformation hap...

Three things helped me become a transformational practitioner who works in an optimal way. Surprisingly, only one has to do with my mastery of memory reconsolidation with my clients. And one has nothing to do with memory reconsolidation at all. All three have benefited my clients enormously. Yet two of them are not about my clients at all. They are about how I took account of me. If you want to kn...

A part of every client doesn’t want them to change - and it has a very good reason. Many approaches train us to soothe that part with “yeah but” responses, or argue with it, or push beyond it with willpower. In this episode, I make the case for none of those three. I look at why staying with that resistance, and going deeper into it, is what actually moves the work forward. This is the discovery w...

You know about memory reconsolidation. You understand the process. So why are results still inconsistent? Often it comes down to one thing: you're mismatching the right way. But with the wrong emotional learning. In this episode, I examine one of the most common mistakes practitioners make, even when they are aware of memory reconsolidation - focusing on the surface trigger and overlooking the dee...

Most therapists carry a question into their sessions: am I doing this the right way? Is my style of work valid? You watch someone else work in a completely different style, getting results, and that small flicker of doubt arrives - should I be doing it like that instead? In this episode, I want to take that question off your shoulders. I’ll share: * why your client’s brain doesn’t care which style...

In this episode of Lasting Transformation, I turn the dominant mental health paradigm on its head - the one that says there’s something wrong with you. Our problems and blocks aren’t a sign of brokenness. They make sense. And more than that - on some level, they’re essential. I’ll show you * Why “it makes sense” is a more transformational stance than “there’s something wrong with you” * A quick to...

Some sessions flow, and you get great results. But in others, nothing lands. You leave the room more confused than when you entered it. Most training never explains why that gap exists. It hands you protocols and expects the results to follow. But when they don’t, there’s nowhere to look. This episode offers a different orientation entirely. The Invisible Twin Framework reframes what a presenting...

You already know some clients carry their patterns for a lifetime. So it makes sense to assume that those cases must be harder to generate change in. This episode is about why, happily, that assumption is wrong. In this episode: why the age of a pattern is completely irrelevant to how quickly it shifts, the cassette tape analogy that makes the brain mechanism instantly clear, and what you’re actua...

If you’ve ever finished a session without achieving a full transformation and felt like you’d failed your client, this episode is for you. One of the most common sources of distress for practitioners is the felt urgency to get results. It’s common to want to push through to that breakthrough moment in every single session. We can view any session that didn’t achieve that as a failure. But that pre...

We mistakenly think that personal development work is only for when we are stuck or in crisis. However, many of the people I work with are giving time to their personal development because they are growing. When we grow, it places new psychological demands on us. And that’s what this episode is all about. Are you someone who is growing your life and expanding your success? Do you notice that this...

Most people start by comparing models, techniques, or recommendations for therapy approaches. Which one is the right one? In this episode of Lasting Transformation, I explore why that question can keep you stuck. Using a simple journey analogy, I unpack the common mistakes people make when choosing therapy or deciding what approach to learn as a practitioner. The problem isn’t that there are too m...

Welcome to Episode 2 of Lasting Transformation with Alun Parry - The Memory Reconsolidation Podcast. In this episode, I talk about the curse of therapist knowledge and what to do about it. We’ll look at 3 key ideas:1. The coaching question I ask inside my Memory Reconsolidation Elite Coaching Academy.2. Why your hunches and interpretations are just guesses.3. The Clarity Ladder - another concept f...

I’ve been thinking about doing a podcast for you for some time. So instead of umming and ah-ing about it, I’ve decided to dive in with both feet and see how it feels. Here’s the first episode. I look at three mindset shifts that I believe we all have to make to become better and more effective at creating lasting transformational change. The podcast is for anyone interested in transformational per...