Kind [of a] B!*ch

We've made it to 50 episodes! One year of creation, musing, dedication and consistency and SO much learning. Today we're talking about the Law of Least Regret and what intentions I'm taking with me into 2026.   And with that, we're also taking a break! I don't know what's next for Kind [of a] B!tch, but I'm so glad you are here. See you next time.   

I used to be afraid of setting goals because missing one felt like a personal failure.    In this episode, I'm reflecting on how my relationship with goals has changed, what happens when life responds to your effort in unexpected ways, and why I'm learning to trust timing instead of forced outcomes.    This is a New Year conversation about ambition, self-trust, and holding big visions without turn...

I love discipline. I love effort. I do not love programs that promise confidence and grit through rigid rules and punishment for being human. In this episode, I explain why 75 Hard looks like mental toughness on the surface but actually trains compliance, not self-mastery. I talk about why control often gets mistaken for confidence, how shame gets baked into all-or-nothing challenges, and why thes...

Manifesting and goal setting are often treated like opposite approaches to New Year resolutions, but they are meant to work together. In this episode, we explore why vision without action leads to frustration, why hard work without intention leads to burnout, and how identity-based action is what actually creates sustainable success. I share a personal story about investing, upgrades, and what rea...

This episode is for the anxious ones. The people who like to over explain, justify, or provide additional PROOF when a simple "no" would suffice.    Today we'll talk about the pressure to perform when setting a boundary. That urge to educate and explain shows up fast, especially when we are concerned with perception. 

In this episode, we dig into a form of social anxiety most people never talk about. It is not fear of people...it's the fear of being misread. The fear of being seen as harsh, cold, intense, or unkind when we are simply being ourselves.   We'll explore why this type of anxiety shows up so often for women, how cultural expectations shape our communication patterns, and why so many of us feel respon...

I'm making the case for why we should ditch the New Year resolutions and just start NOW.   In this episode, I'm unpacking the quiet trap of hesitation and why the New Year often convinces us to wait for a version of ourselves that feels more ready. After spending an entire weekend spiraling about a simple phone call that ended up going smoothly, I'm realizing that the hardest part was everything I...

Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager.    This gauge is how I measure whether giving will burn me out, or build the village and I have been using it CONSTANTLY.    If you're an overgiver-turned-boundaries queen, feeling burnt out, or lonely, this one is for you.   

Do we need friction to feel joy?   This is an exploration today.. not a fully formed thought, but something that has been on my mind as I come out of the fog of my own tough season.   Today we'll explore how the contrast between hard seasons and moments of ease create big moments of joy. Part personal reflection and a bit of neuroscience thrown in for good measure, we'll process why struggle can r...

In this final episode of the Audacity series, we're tackling one of the hardest  things to do in a culture that celebrates hustle... REST. In the words of Tricia Hersey from The Nap Ministry: "Rest is an act of resistance."   This episode is a big reminder to myself that recovery is the true key to innovation, creativity, and connection. We’ll talk about why it feels uncomfortable to slow down, ho...

What if changing our minds was viewed not as flakiness, but as paying attention to our intuition?   Today we'll discuss the courage it takes to pivot and to outgrow old plans or expectations. We'll unpack what the research says about growth mindset and why it’s so hard to let go of the identity you’ve worked to build.   This is our fourth episode in our Having the AUDACITY series.

Why is it that honoring our own "no" often makes us feel the most difficult. The most selfish. And the most AUDACIOUS?   Today we're discussing the audacity to say no and how redirecting that energy towards life's best "Yes's" is the only way to go.     

Taking up space isn’t necessarily about being louder... It’s about being rooted in who you are! In this episode I'm exploring what it really looks like to show up fully... without over-explaining, over-performing, or apologizing for it. It’s about learning to hold your own energy with confidence instead of waiting for permission to belong.

What if wanting more isn’t selfish — it’s honest? In this first episode of the Having the Audacity series, we unpack what it really means to let ourselves want more. More freedom, more peace, more choice — and yes, sometimes more money. We talk about the guilt and judgment that can come with ambition, and how giving ourselves permission to want more can open the door to everything else.  

Ever had someone test your patience so hard you almost lost it? This week, I found myself three days into a negotiation with an agent who left me hanging, only to come back with what I call a “fuck you counter.” I snapped — and typed, “You have GOT to be kidding me.” Not my most professional moment… but definitely a human one. In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened, the lessons I pulled...

Over the past four episodes of the Luck Laboratory, we’ve explored the mindset shifts, bold risks, and authentic connections that shape the way luck shows up in our lives.   In this final episode, we pull it all together into a practical framework — a Luck Blueprint you can actually use. We’ll dig into the science of serendipity, the psychology behind risk and resilience, and the surprising ways r...

We often think of luck as random, but so many of the ‘lucky breaks’ we admire happen through PEOPLE.   In this episode of the Luck Laboratory, we explore why authentic connection is a powerful magnet for opportunity. We’ll talk about how trust and real relationships create doors that hustle alone can’t open, why being genuinely yourself attracts the right kind of luck (and the right kind of people...

We’ve all heard the phrase ‘luck favors the bold,’ but what does that actually mean? In this episode, we dig into the psychology of risk-taking and the hidden role of survivorship bias—the way we only see the success stories, not the failures that paved the way.   We’ll talk about why stepping into uncertainty can expand our chances of getting ‘lucky,’ how to build psychological safety nets so ris...

Want to get luckier?   It starts with the way we think. In this episode, we'll dive into the mindset shifts that help us notice opportunities, make better decisions, and stay open to chance events.   Plus, we explore practical strategies to create more moments where luck can find us...because the right mindset isn’t just a mindset, it is how we start to cultivate more luck!   Email us at admin@liz...

We’ve all been there — stuck in an anxiety spiral that feels impossible to escape.   In this episode, I share the story of one of my most ridiculous spirals, what science says about why our brains latch onto fear, and how to catch yourself before you spin out.   Email us at admin@lizhake.com . Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake   Want to get on...

There are few things that make people angrier than a woman who loves herself. And I'm not talking selfcare, but women who are actually in love with who they are: their character, their quirks, their bodies, etc.    If you are feeling out of touch with YOURSELF - woman or not - I'm sharing a few techniques to get back in touch with my authentic self and start LOVING her.   Email us at admin@lizhake...

Our LAST episode in the Unshrinkable mini series!   One off-the-cuff TikTok post lit up my comments section—and not in a good way. In this episode, I share how I navigated the echo chamber without losing myself, and the choice I made that helped me move forward.   This series is about clarity, resilience, boundary-setting, and choosing integrity over approval. It’s a behind-the-scenes look at what...

This three-part series is for anyone who's ever felt the urge to contort themselves to fit—into a gig, a room, a conversation, or someone else's expectations. Unshrinkable is about resisting that urge. In this mini-series, I unpack three real moments where I felt myself start to shrink—and chose not to.   This series is about clarity, resilience, boundary-setting, and choosing integrity over appro...

This three-part series is for anyone who's ever felt the urge to contort themselves to fit—into a gig, a room, a conversation, or someone else's expectations. Unshrinkable is about resisting that urge. In this mini-series, I unpack three real moments where I felt myself start to shrink—and chose not to. In Part One, I catch myself shapeshifting for a potential opportunity before I even knew what w...

So you've found yourself the bearer of bad news and you don't know what to do?   This episode is for you.    I'm discussing the art of sharing hard truths: How to get your energy right, how to open up the convo, and how to sit with someone else's discomfort.   No one likes to see someone else uncomfortable, sad, or grieving due to news or a truth you've shared, but doing this WELL can lead to more...