Ill-Advised with Jessica Ell

Send us a textFor the first time in my life, I'm experiencing the magic of soul-level collaboration and partnership. This episode is an unscripted, unorganized reflection on partnership, work, and how to attract magical opportunities by attracting the people who are meant for you. Informally, it's an audio celebration of my friend and collaborator and Human Design guide Jenn Gray. Book your own 1:...

Send us a textAre the things you're doing leading you down the road and in the direction that you meant to go in? What about the things you leave behind when you aren't discerning about how to spend your time and energy? If you easily fall prey to the seductive "just one more" lie (just one more habit, just one more spiritual practice, etc. etc.), this episode is for you! Key takeaway? Before you...

Send us a textToday's episode dives into the power of committing fully - like, to a 90-day relationship?? What the hell, why not? Jessica is sharing insights from a 90-day relationship experiment, emphasizing the benefits of going all-in, whether in relationships or other life decisions. Key Takeaways:The Power of Commitment: When you fully commit, “then Providence moves, too.”Find Out FAST: When...

Send us a textIn this episode, Jessica discusses the importance of getting good at staying in uncomfortable situations before making a leap of faith. Key Takeaways:Taking leaps of faith is a skill… and so is staying when you want to leaveYou can learn to harmonize staying and leavingThe personal growth you experience by staying is wildly helpful when you do take a leap of faith ---Work with me 1:1...

Send us a textThis is such an easy thing to forget when you're in the thick of change (big or small), but it's KEY to your ability to keep going:Remember that CHANGE IS HARD IN THE BEGINNING.That's it. Simple and obvious, but oh-so-easy-to-forget when you're struggling to make something work. In this episode, Jessica is talking about tough beginnings, what to expect, and what NOT to do when the Dr...

Send us a textIn this episode, I’m questioning the “Big Why” as a prerequisite for success and the silly pressure to define a grand purpose for our goals and lives. Key TakeawaysThe Neverending Quest for Purpose - Not every ambition needs a profound reason behind it. Keep It Simple - “Because I want to” is a highly valid - if not the best - reason to do something. Start Somewhere - Honoring our de...

Send us a textWhat does a kitchen renovation have to do with problem-solving and possibility? Everything! Key Takeaways:It’s SO important to get out of constant problem-solving mode. Instead of dwelling on limitations, wipe the slate clean and imagine the highest potential outcomes. Presume a positive outcome. By expecting the best and bringing your best self to situations, you increase the likeli...

Send us a textFinding calm and emotional neutrality during times of chaos isn’t just “nice.” It’s the most important, most USEFUL thing you can do to navigate the uncertainty of Square One. Key Takeaways:Square One is a place of upheaval and uncertainty emotionally, mentally, physically, and often financially. It often comes during times of loss, like a breakup or divorce. The impulse in Square On...

Send us a textMy free guidebook on starting over, “Now What?” will be out this week, so in this episode I’m talking about one of my favorite ways to approach a new beginning - coddiwompling. I chose “coddiwomple” as my Word of the Year in 2020 as my relationship was imploding. I now believe wholeheartedly that embracing uncertainty and wandering with purpose can lead to unexpected growth and oppor...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about starting over and the very beginning of new beginnings: Square One. Tough beginnings are par for the course when you make a major life change. You'll know you're in Square One when you look around at your life and think things like, "WTF," and "What has happened?" and "OMG" and "Now what?" Key Takeaways:Square One starts with a catalytic event, and...

Send us a textI went off-script in this episode to talk candidly about what I believe. This episode is the kind of conversation we’d have over dinner or drinks - how I make sense of the world and how I understand “purpose” and “meaning” when it comes to living a rich life. Takeaways:Destiny is an experience of life that is meant for you, and it’s always there, waiting for you to align with it.“Wha...

Send us a textI love it when my fiction writing and coaching overlap. In this episode, I have some fun exploring the concept of the willing suspension of disbelief and its relevance to personal growth and taking leaps of faith. Suspending disbelief can open up new possibilities and help overcome self-limiting beliefs, and you don’t even need to go Full Delulu to get the benefits. Key Takeaways:The...

Send us a textLet’s talk about change and transformation. One thing about the process of reinvention is always the same: Bursts of change are preceded by periods of stillness. And the change you want comes when you believe you're good enough for it. If you’re impatiently waiting for the next version of you, tune in for a conversation on navigating periods of stillness, making the most of them, and...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about my favorite way to live a life of deep, continual transformation without feeling like you're in constant chaos: Bloom where you're planted. And if you're looking for the secret to attracting better and better things into your life, it's making the best of where you are. Key Takeaways:Months and years can be spent in limbo if you're always "on to the...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about another major lesson learned in the first half of my thirties: I have to do things My Way. After years of following other people’s plans and instructions, I believe that the path to your most vibrant, interesting, fulfilling life is found by committing to do things Your Way. Key Takeaways:Personal success often comes from doing things your way, resi...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about another major lesson learned in the first half of my thirties: style matters. Up until my early thirties, I thought style was a vapid waste of time. Now, I believe that the things we wear go far beyond clothing, influencing how we approach life and how life approaches us. Key Takeaways:Style as a reflection of self-perception and confidence. Dressin...

Send us a textTo celebrate entering the second half of my thirties, I'm sharing five lessons learned from the first five years of this decade. The first lesson: Clarity comes from action, not from thinking. You don't need to "figure things out" before you move forward--in fact, if you're trying to get clear before doing anything, you've got it backward. In this episode, I'm sharing how obsessing o...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about the four-stage cycle you can expect to go through when you embark on a personal or professional reinvention. Personal reinvention isn't easy (and it often isn't pleasant), but knowing what to expect can make it much easier to go through. Bookmark this episode and come back to it the next time you feel confused and bewildered (Square One), excited bu...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about ending 2023 on a high note by expressing my authentic self--a version of me some might call a "b*tch." I'm sharing a couple anecdotes from my dating life to illustrate mistakes I've made by being accommodating when I wanted to be rigid, and "chill" when I wanted to be intense. I'm discussing the lesson that every time I've downplayed the tough, braz...

Send us a textIn this episode, I am talking about a new paradigm for setting goals that doesn't include timebound metrics or obsession with things that are not strictly under your control. If you're tired of SMART goals and the frustration of not hitting metrics, here's a new approach to experiment with. I'm sharing my own struggles with lacking holiday spirit and motivation this year, as well as...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm bringing you behind the scenes of the lessons I'm learning - RIGHT NOW - about reinvention, building a business, and going all in. I'm talking about marketing experiments, frustration, branding, and why calling experiments "failures" might actually be a good thing. AND how all of my failures and lessons can serve as a mirror for you in your pursuit of cool things...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm sharing the best career advice I've ever gotten--and it wasn't even about my job; it was about buying my first house. Listen in for life-changing advice that you can apply to your career right now, whatever stage you happen to be in. ---Work with me 1:1 - JessicaEll.com/bookJoin my group coaching program, What She's Having - JessicaEll.com/SheJoin the Ill-Advised...

Send us a textIf you want to change your career, you have to change your career narrative. The story you tell about your work experience--and yourself--is the most powerful tool you have in creating the career of your dreams. In this episode, I discuss why it's important to write a strategic career story that is aligned with the outcome you want--using the experience you have--as well as tips and...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about the approach I've often taken to my career--which is to go all in on myself and my dreams. From giving up a scholarship at a top ten law school in favor of making thirteen bucks an hour as a nonprofit "events girl" to leaving behind a six-figure job to start a business from scratch, my career has been filled with leaps of faith and bets on myself. T...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm offering a few practical tips and journal prompts so you can make the journey toward your goals as fun and easy as possible. So often, we're told we have to "enjoy the process" but aren't told HOW to do that. Here are some ways to reduce suffering, stress and overwhelm as you pursue your goals. ---Work with me 1:1 - JessicaEll.com/bookJoin my group coaching progr...