Ill-Advised with Jessica Ell

After six years, I finally have a permanent address and all my belongings under one roof again.

I sheepishly raise my hand and acknowledge that I have been known to repeat a cycle one too many times. I'm in awe of those of you who get burned once and stop touching the stove. How are you spending all that free time that isn't spent on wound dressing? But since I seem destined to learn the hard way, I was mercifully given the gift of being outrageously intelligent and able to learn my...

Ever think about recapping your life by the numbers? Here's my life in October, by the numbers.

In this episode, I'm chatting with Kim Langling, a former marketing and sales director turned author and podcast host.  We're delving into Kim's journey of overcoming fear, adapting during COVID-19, and launching the 'Let Fear Bounce' podcast.  Kim shares her insights on making significant life changes, trusting intuition, and the power of faith and kindness.  Tune in for an inspiring conversation...

In this episode, I'm talking to Genea Barnes, a performance coach who helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses and have fun doing it by expanding their Success Zone.  Genea is also the host of the Be The Wolf podcast, where she talks to inspiring entrepreneurs about how they’ve created success by being the most authentic expressions of themselves.  Tune in to our conversation about leaps of f...

Send us a textWondering why you feel so stuck over a decision? This episode highlights three common reasons it's hard to decide. It'll help you understand your debate at a level that goes deeper than simply weighing pros and cons and moving options around the table. By the end of this episode, you’ll have more awareness on your situation, and awareness is the first step to getting out of the indec...

Send us a textThree Characteristics of a "Right" DecisionAre you feeling overwhelmed by making big, life-altering decisions? In this episode of the Ill-Advised podcast, we delve into the question: "Am I making the right decision?" Learn about the three qualities that define a right decision - timing, intuition, and values alignment - to help you make confident and courageous choices. Whether you'r...

Send us a textFeeling trapped by outside circumstances? Big decisions seem even harder when we feel trapped or at the mercy of other people and our current reality. But stuckness is often a portal to decision-making magic and alchemy. Drawing from research, client experiences, and my own difficult decisions, I’ll share three steps to using stuckness as the catalyst from indecision to action. Learn...

Send us a textEver feel like you can argue both sides of a decision? And does it ever feel like an absolute curse? You're probably high in trait ambivalence. In this episode, we explore how to feel better in states of uncertainty and indecision, especially if you have high trait ambivalence. We touch on the Frost Indecisiveness Scale and trait ambivalence, examining their impact on life's satisfac...

Send us a textDo you ever feel overwhelmed by making big, permanent decisions? This can be anything from choosing where to live or who to marry (or who to leave). Join me for this episode of Ill-Advised for another way to choose when you feel trapped by high stakes options. ---Work with me 1:1 - JessicaEll.com/bookJoin my group coaching program, What She's Having - JessicaEll.com/SheJoin the Ill-A...

Send us a textAre you hesitant about making a hard decision and taking a leap of faith because it might not go as planned? That's what I'm talking about with my guest today. Mercedes Collins is the owner of Neurogen Brain Balancing East Valley in Chandler, Arizona. She provides high-performance neurofeedback therapy in downtown Chandler, but before opening this business, she took a leap of faith q...

Send us a textIn this episode, I dive into the deep pain of indecision and the struggle of walking away from something that isn’t right for you. I reflect on my personal journey, including a pivotal moment when I chose not to attend law school, despite the immense pressure and expectations. Through this story, I explore the loneliness and complexity of making difficult decisions and the importance...

Send us a textHow often do you overlook feelings of unease? Don't - it's one of the most important decision-making tools in your "right life" kit. Recognizing and honoring a persistent, subtle sense of unease can indicate when you're veering off your path. Key Takeaways:Unease as a Decision-Making Tool: Unease, a quiet and persistent feeling, can serve as a crucial indicator that you’re moving in...

Send us a textOne of the most profound shifts you can make in your orientation toward life is going from the burden of doubt to existing in a state of faith. And one of the best ways to make this shift is through leaps of faith. Key Takeaways: Putting down the burden of doubt often feels like relief. Freedom feels like relief."Drop your end of the rope" to experience being whisked along by life. M...

Send us a textThis episode is about the discomfort of indecision, how to relieve the pressure to make the “right” decision, fear and missed opportunities, and insights on being an Enneagram 6.Key TakeawaysExhaustion from Indecision: Indecision can be exhausting and maddening. The constant vacillation between options can drain your energy and hinder progress. No Right Decision: There's no such thin...

Send us a textLet’s talk about the Side Hustle Catch-22, where it feels like your side business would succeed if you had the time to devote to it, but your day job actually pays the bills and it’s sucking up all your time and energy. It feels like you can’t let go of the job, but you NEED to let go in order for your business to grow. In this episode, we’re talking about this tricky place that many...

Send us a textWe're always told to go after our dreams... but HOW? HOW are we supposed to do that? I've certainly wondered that, and so do many of my clients. They feel trapped in a Catch-22; one that's usually about time and money. So in this episode, we explore the "HOW?" behind taking a leap of faith, whether that's to transform your career, start a business, leave a relationship, or move to a...

Send us a textToday, we dive into the powerful and sometimes challenging process of leaving behind unfulfilled goals when what you want changes. Key Takeaways:Understand the significance of changing your mind and adjusting your goals. Learn to recognize when to let go of outdated desires. The balance between commitment and freedom to changeEmbrace new aspirations and take steps toward them, even w...

Send us a textToday's episode is about the infrastructure that keeps you feeling "trapped" and how to break free from the things holding you back. If you feel stuck or unable to take a leap of faith, this episode is for you. Key Takeaways:Identify Your Golden Handcuffs: Recognize what’s making you feel stuck and understand both the benefits and costs of your life infrastructure. Start with Small S...

Send us a textThis episode is a little bit of inspiration for when you’re thinking of taking a leap of faith. Listen to it when you’re standing at the precipice of a major change, you’re about to jump, and you aren’t sure what things will look like on the other side or if you’ll even make it to the other side. From the other side of the cliff, my wish for you is that the next time you are at the P...

Send us a textIn this episode, I'm talking about the number one advice I give about taking leaps of faith, starting a new business, moving to a new city, or basically anything else you want to do that seems "crazy":Tune out the noise. Tune out other people's opinions. Tune out social media and what other people seem to be succeeding at. Stop consuming, watching, listening to anything that infects...

Send us a textI used an old blog post as the springboard for this episode on self-pride and how useful the emotion of pride can be. And then I went on a bit of a side quest…So here are the two key takeaways from this episode:Takeaway A, from the blog post: Feeling proud of yourself is the best way to maximize your productivity and make progress on your goals. The secret is asking yourself the magi...

Send us a textWe need to talk about what happens when you get everything you want. We spend so much time striving and efforting and wanting that we barely have time to consider what happens AFTER the “getting.” What happens when you finally HAVE all (or most of) the things you want? Not happily ever after, but that’s okay. In this episode I’m talking about what happens when you get everything you...

Send us a textI'm talking today about Future Regret, a concept that has radically changed the way I live my life, from the criteria I use to make decisions, the guardrails that determine my behavior, and how I feel living in an uncertain world. In your past, if you regret not taking the risk, not moving to the city, not betting on yourself, not choosing love, those are flashing neon signs about ho...

Send us a text"Stop being old before you're old," and other lessons on living a damn full life from Jane Fonda. ---Work with me 1:1 - JessicaEll.com/bookJoin my group coaching program, What She's Having - JessicaEll.com/SheJoin the Ill-Advised email list: jessicaell.com/join Instagram: @thejessicaelljessicaell.com