How Married Are You?

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY Is wanting vulnerability the same as being ready to hold it? A newlywed (90-something days in!) loves her husband but admits his past trauma makes openness slow. Then the Holy Spirit hits her with two checks: “Can you handle what he gives you?” and “Steward well what he gives you.” We unpack what “safe space” really costs: capacity, patience, and practice. 💛...

A brother wrote in after a three-year long-distance rollercoaster where tough talks turned into silence and her parents turned hostile. He prayed for an approval and called it a sign while every other sign said no. We laugh, we side-eye, and we keep it loving but honest. 😂🙏🏾 We talk: 🙅🏾‍♂️ Stop over-spiritualizing dating. God is not a vending machine or a green light on command. 🚫🏠 Racism i...

A 27-year-old listener in a three-year poly relationship wants simple guardrails—tell me when you’re out with someone else, if you’re spending the night, and shut it down if they try to edge me out. He resists, agrees begrudgingly, then doesn’t follow through. She’s financially stuck, sharing a cramped place he pays for, and wonders when it’s time to plan her exit. 🛡️💔 We talk: “You wrote us know...

Is God’s will bigger than girl code? ✝️ When a listener in her church circle and her friend’s ex catch real feelings, the trio dynamic—and a friendship—hangs in the balance. She’s prayed the feelings away, he confessed he wants to pursue her, and everyone’s watching to see whether wisdom or worry wins. 💔 We talk: “They didn’t guard their hearts.” Staying close after a breakup kept hope alive and...

What do you do when the man you want to be feels out of reach? 💍🇯🇲 Recorded in Montego Bay while Glen and Yvette celebrate 15 years 🎉, a listener writes in before his own 10-year anniversary: he’s lost motivation, avoids hard conversations, and feels inconsistent in faith and intimacy after weight gain. Without a positive male role model, he’s under a heavy cloud and asking how to lead his famil...

What do you owe a friend when romance enters the chat? 💔 A listener matched with a guy and told her girls how excited she was—only to learn weeks later that one of them secretly liked him, talked to him, and went on a date. The friend admitted it only after he ghosted her and showed zero remorse. Now the question is clear: where’s the line between shooting your shot and protecting the friendship?...

What happens when the "perfect boyfriend" suddenly explodes? 😳 A listener writes in about her kind, generous dream man—until he shouted, cursed, and loomed over her at 3 AM after she said she felt left out of his hobby-club mixer. Childhood memories of an angry step-dad came rushing back, and now she wonders: if rage shows up once, will it move in after I do? Glen and Yvette weigh safet...

Can a prophetic word outweigh chemistry that’s already lit the fuse? 🕯️ One listener writes in torn between a four‑year, on‑again‑off‑again love and the fear he’s missing the real woman God promised. Childhood trauma, church expectations, and a couple of busted boundaries all collide as he wonders: am I the problem—or am I over‑spiritualizing everything? We talk: 🗣️ Make a decision—then make it ri...

Can love survive emotional whiplash and a husband who leaves you on the curb? 😶‍🌫️ One listener kept chasing a woman who ping‑ponged between “just friends” and “let’s try again.” Another rushed into marriage for a missions trip—only to discover her new spouse measures quality time in bedroom minutes and once made her walk home after a joke. Both are wondering: Am I crazy for calling it quits—or c...

A 26‑year‑old listener feels sparks 🔥 with a 35‑year‑old pastor, but her dad and step‑mom insist, “He’s too old!” Now she’s weighing wisdom, faith ✝️, and a widening generation gap 🕰️. Can she trust her own maturity—and God’s timing—over her family’s fears? We talk: 🙏🏾 Why shared faith, values, and life vision matter more than the number on a birth certificate 🚩 How repeating “much younger” pa...

What do you do when you realize nobody’s coming to save you? 🧠💔📉 In this episode, we hear from a 24-year-old man who's been in a relationship for almost a decade—but feels like he’s barely shown up for any of it. He moved across the country to be with the love of his life. She’s held down the bills, the home, and the hope. And while he battles depression, anxiety, and a lack of discipline,...

What do you do when the glue of your family is gone—and everything starts to come undone? 🕊💔 In this episode, we hear from a listener grieving the loss of her mother… while also navigating a painful shift in her relationship with her sister. They’ve survived so much together—abusive relationships, single motherhood, and even the loss of their fiancés just weeks apart. But now, in the wake of thei...

When your parents’ lifestyle makes you uncomfortable—what do you do? 🤯 In Episode 248, we read an email from a woman trying to navigate a very complicated family dynamic. After growing up loosely Christian, she’s now leaning more into her faith—but her mom and stepdad have recently entered a polyamorous relationship and moved a third partner into the family home… a woman who also happens to work...

What do you do when the creativity dries up? 🎤📱💭 In this episode, we hear from a female rapper who’s feeling stuck. She went from writing multiple songs a week… to barely one every few weeks. She’s working in a beige windowless room, caring for a loved one recovering from a stroke, and feeling creatively drained—while also lowkey addicted to her phone. She’s asking for help. For hope. For a spa...

This week, we’re responding to two emails—both full of tension, questions, and heart. First up: A man writes in, self-conscious about being seen as a “toxic male.” 😓 He wants to correct things in his relationship—like how the house is cleaned—but he’s struggling with how to say it and whether he even should. He’s worried about being part of the problem… But is he overthinking society’s expectatio...

What do you do when your marriage feels like your biggest regret? 😔 This week, we hear from a husband who’s at his breaking point. He says he can’t be himself around his wife. He loves her, but he doesn’t like her—and after years of deception, emotional distance, and barely any intimacy, he’s not sure there’s anything left to fight for. She's told some big time lies about about finances and d...

What if your family background feels like something you’ve had to escape—like you came from bad cloth—and now you’re trying to build a life from something new? 🧵 That’s the story behind this week’s email—from a man who cut ties with his manipulative, chaotic family and is now dating a woman whose family seems to have it all together. Respectable. Traditional. “Good cloth.” But the longer he’s aro...

This week’s email hits deep. A wife writes in, asking for advice on how to encourage her husband to go to therapy to address childhood trauma. But he’s resistant—and it’s not just personal… it’s cultural. 🌍🧠 Glen & Yvette open up about the stigma around therapy in Caribbean communities and how that resistance can impact marriages, healing, and connection. 🇯🇲💬 They also get real about their...

Sisters. Podcasts. Beef. And… a flying water bottle?! 🥴💥 This week, we’re diving into a wild email from a listener caught in some serious sister drama. Two sisters started a podcast together, but when one decided she was done, things got messy. 👉🏾 One sister wanted control. 👉🏾 The other was tired of being told what to do. 👉🏾 Then came the accusations—flaky, bossy, better-than-you vibes. 👉...

Are all the husbands out here flopping… or are we just not hearing the whole story? 🤔💭 In this episode, we read another email from a wife who’s had it. Her man’s doing the bare minimum, communication is a mess, and she’s at her breaking point. But after reading a bunch of emails like this lately, we had to pause and ask: Is it really always the man? Or are we missing something? We talk about how...

Sometimes you gotta move to find your peace. 🏡✨ Last year? Whew. It was a whole lot. We moved out to the farm thinking it was gonna be this beautiful new chapter for our family… and listen — some of it was. 🌻 But some of it? Straight up survival mode. 💀Fast forward to now — we’re in Fallbrook. And it finally feels like home. 🖤🌴 We’re breathing different. Living different. Smiling different....

“My man only brushes his teeth once a week… and still wanna kiss me in the mouth?!” 😩🪥 This listener wrote in with a situation that had us both shook—and honestly? Sis, you’re not asking for too much. She’s pregnant 🤰🏾, in PJs most days, not feeling her cutest—and her husband is still calling her beautiful and trying to love on her real close. The only problem? His breath is breathin’. 💨👃🏽...

He gave up his best friend for love… but was it worth it? 💍💔And what do you do when marriage hits hard just four months in? 😬 In this episode, we’re diving into two real-life relationship updates that had us both nodding... and hollering. 😭😂 First up: remember the fiancé who asked her man to choose between her and his female best friend? 👀 Well—he called back with an update. Spoiler: there's...

What do you do when God is the one exposing the truth in your marriage? 😳💔 In Episode 237, we’re diving into one of the wildest calls we’ve received yet. A woman finds out her husband has a hidden child, a secret past, and no desire to tell the truth—so God starts revealing it in her dreams. 👀 We talk trust, spiritual red flags, emotional safety, and the power of redemption—even when it feels i...

Feeling like you’re always the bigger person in your relationship? The optimist, the problem solver, the one carrying all the weight? 😮‍💨 In this episode, we’re talking about how to handle that dynamic—how to keep going without burning out, set boundaries without resentment, and create balance in your relationship. Because love shouldn’t feel one-sided. Tap in and let’s talk about it. 💬 Ever fe...