HerCanary

Chain of Command | HerCanary My brain has a clipboard. My heart has a crush. My hormones have apparently staged a hostile takeover. And my therapist? She's definitely taking notes. So who's actually making the fucking decisions? This week we're talking dopamine, attraction, self-trust, and what happens when your body, brain, past experiences, and values all start giving conflicting ord...

I keep seeing red. And for once, that’s a good thing. This week, we’re talking about red cars, blueprints, the stories our brains build before we have all the information—and what happens when reality gives us something we weren’t expecting. Because lately, dating has surprised me. Not with some giant romantic revelation. With little things. Long conversations. Thoughtfulness. Reciprocity. Laughin...

What if your empathy is actually interrupting someone else's growth? From dating nutrition labels to disappearing hoodies, we're talking accountability, uncomfortable truths, and why loving someone doesn't mean protecting them from their own choices. 💛 From Silence to Song. #HerCanary #StealingTheConsequence #Accountability #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipTalk

But What If the Next Pull Is the Jackpot? Why do we stay when we already know something isn’t working? Because it wasn’t bad every time. Sometimes, he showed up. Sometimes, you got the apology, the affection, the perfect weekend, the version of him you’d been waiting for—and suddenly all those losses felt like they might have been leading somewhere. That’s the slot machine effect. In this episode...

I put the fucking hose down. Turns out, I wasn't low-energy. The bitch was allocated. This week we're talking emotional bandwidth, hyper-independence, the science of self-silencing, 47 emotional Chrome tabs, and what happens when you stop pouring all your water in one direction. Also, apparently Facebook is kind of a snitch. There are a few things in this episode worth putting in your pock...

What happens when being capable turns into doing absolutely fucking everything? This week, we’re talking gardens, boundaries, hyper-independence, invisible labor, and the uncomfortable realization that sometimes nobody picked up the hose because… we never actually put it down. When does loving become over-serving? When does helping become anxiety with an apron? And how much of yourself can you pou...

Over the last few weeks, I've been trying to understand what my nervous system has been trying to tell me. What started as a conversation about relationships slowly became something much bigger. It led me to my sisters, a room full of Swifties, old forests, invisible networks, and the women who kept showing up for me in quiet, ordinary ways. Somewhere along the way, I realized I'd been loo...

Depending on who you ask, this story either started with a first date... or two friends taking a walk. What followed was one of the funniest, most unexpected conversations I've ever had about attraction, intimacy, and the stories we tell ourselves about connection. Somewhere between questionable adjective choices, debates over values, and redefining what intimacy actually means, we stumbled in...

This week’s episode started as a conversation about sex… and somehow turned into a love letter to the female body. We talk about PMS, hormones, cycles, cravings, exhaustion, and the strange realization that the more I started listening to my body, the less crazy I felt. Somewhere along the way, I stopped treating my body like a problem to solve and started treating it like a language to learn. Bec...

A quick Canary update. This week marks a pretty exciting milestone. When I started HerCanary, it was just an idea, a microphone, and a hope that maybe a few people would find something meaningful in these conversations. Somehow, it's grown into something much bigger than that. Because of that growth, episodes will be moving to a bi-weekly schedule. Not because we're slowing down. Because w...

Artemis. Cassiopeia. Gravel roads. Little sisters. A conversation on mythology, instinct, protection, and the strange ways women hand each other survival stories without realizing they’re leaving instructions. Maybe this issue really is as old as time. Maybe it’s written in the stars. ⭐ If you’ve got stories, questions, or warnings you wish someone handed you sooner— 📩 hercanarypodcast@hercanary...

A Tinder date once agreed to solve riddles across multiple bars to find me… which means ; player two accepted a side quest. 🎮🧩 There were bartenders 🍻 A required rock 🪨 Girls’ night 💅 A cow costume 🐄✨ This episode kind of wandered into: dating, confidence, awkwardness, friendships, maps 🌻character building 🌻 and whether some of us got so focused on reaching the next level… that we forgot...

EPISODE 3:🎣 ..... was supposed to be about where to meet people… …but somehow turned into nervous systems, emotional grocery shopping, object constancy, red flags, green flags, relationship ecosystems, elk hunting, and asking ourselves a much bigger question: “What do I actually want?” This episode dives into familiar patterns, boundaries, why some relationships feel peaceful while others feel li...

EPISODE 2: PHASE TWO — YOUR LANDING SYSTEM Phase Two is about your landing system—the people in your life who hold you steady when dating (or life) doesn’t go the way you hoped. Because it’s not just what happens to you…it’s what you land on after that shapes you. In this episode: Why friendships are the foundation, not the side story How support systems protect your sense of self What happens whe...

Mini Series: Dating Episode 1: Not Yet Tarzan Tarzan energy is a maybe . Trust first is a requirement. Dating right now? Confusing. Exhausting. Slightly unhinged. Same people. Same apps. Completely different experiences. So before we fix dating… We start with you. 📩 Want the values tool? Message me 💌 hercanarypodcast@hercanary.com — send me your dating stories

You’ve been asking for more—more depth, longer episodes, more time in each topic… and I really do hear you 🤍 So I sat with it for a minute. And I realized something… my brain doesn’t really work in long, linear conversations. It jumps. It wanders. It connects things quickly… and sometimes forgets where it was going in the first place. And instead of forcing that into something it’s not— I want to...

Before you set it on fire…this might help. We’ve all had those moments—where something small hits way too big,and suddenly you’re snapping, shutting down, pulling away…or ready to burn the whole thing down. In this episode, we’re talking about what’s really happening in those moments. Something in you learned to survive that way. This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding yourself…...

My sister texted me the other day and said— “I feel ugly.” sitting there like… …since WHEN?? But it opened up a bigger question— how do we forget who we are? How do we go from feeling confident and solid… to second-guessing ourselves, shrinking.... This isn’t about blaming people or being dramatic—it’s about paying attention to how you feel around someone. Because the right people don’t confuse yo...

Have you ever been in a situation where someone told you the truth…but you still felt like something was off? In this episode, we’re getting into the difference between honesty and transparency…and why that difference matters so much in dating, friendships, and connection in general. Because “I didn’t lie” and “I told the whole truth” are not the same thing. This one also touches on choosing your...

HerCanary is a space for real conversations— This isn’t about having all the answers. None of us do—but we each carry pieces that might help someone else. It’s about getting a little more honest about how we communicate, how we show up, and what it actually takes to build something that feels like real community. Because wanting community… and knowing how to be a community member aren’t the same t...

Breakups don’t just hurt… they mess with your brain. In this episode, we’re talking about why you feel a little unhinged after losing someone—and why that’s actually normal. From “checking their last active” to imagining the version of them that never fully existed… we’ve all been there. You’re not crazy… you might just be in withdrawal. Have a story? Send a canary: hercanarypodcast@hercanary.com...

Some nights don’t go the way you think they will… and some lessons don’t land until after midnight. In this episode, we’re talking about the Cinderella Rule — the idea that things can start to shift after midnight… and what happens when you don’t take that seriously. From a chaotic first date (yes… involving ducks) to the moments we ignore our instincts, this episode breaks down why boundaries mat...

HerCanary is a community-driven project focused on helping women find their voice, build meaningful connections, and grow into who they want to become. This podcast explores honest conversations about life, relationships, community, and personal growth. The kind of conversations we don’t always say out loud— the ones that stay quiet until they find a safe place to sing. For women who haven’t alway...