HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

Barry describes how Gratitude creates positive focus, dispels negative emotion and creates a healthy state to meet and attract a healthy partner,, or connect lovingly with a current partner. He walks you through two short gratitude exercises for healthier, more empowered relationships!

Barry talks about how attention os a developmental aspect of our psyche from infancy, through our childhood and teenage years, and how it affects our adult relationships. We don’t want attention, we need it. Here’s how to start getting it in a healthier way.

Barry describes how ambition is a positive but can be viewed as a negative in dating & relationships. He teaches us how to spot partners who lack ambition, how some men fool themselves into thinking they can handle ambitious women but end up feeling insecure with them, how to spot partners who have the right type of self esteem to be in a healthy relationship with an ambitious woman, and how to be...

Going Too Fast Or Too Slow In Relationships

Barry explains the concept of emotional dysregulation, how it contributes to reactivity and cause problems with dating and relationships, and offers methods to emotionally regulate so you and any partner have less stress, anxiety, fear, conflict and anger and more love, joy and connection.

Barry reviews how to effectively use “Affirmations For A Healthy, Empowered Relationship”. He describes why affirmations used incorrectly don’t work, and how to use affirmations more effectively.

Barry describes Pre-Flirting, an approach to being ready to flirt. He gives you one inner emotional action and one outer action to effectively prepare for great flirting! Enjoy!

For single and coupled people alike, this episode gives you the three keys to being deeply in love without losing your self, without putting your own needs aside. Barry explains how the union with another person feels amazing but can threaten our needs and boundaries, then he teaches the three steps to being a healthy empowered woman in a relationship!

In “Getting Men To Initiate (So You Aren’t Always The One Doing It)” Barry describes why many strong women end up doing all the initiating, what’s really going on with men who don’t initiate, and how to get men to initiate everything from dates, to romance and intimacy.

Barry describes how the body is a conduit between our emotions and feelings and our conscious mind. He explains how experiences and feelings about love and relationships are stored and remembered in our body. He shares how to pay attention to what our body is telling us. Understanding what our body is important for us to have healthy, empowered relationships!

Barry describes a simple approach to effectively flirting and building attraction, whether you’re single and dating or in a relationship and keeping the spark alive with your partner.

Barry reveals an often overlooked quality a good partner must possess. He gives examples of how to spot this quality, and why it matters if you want a healthy, empowered relationship!

Barry describes how the type of people we attract into relationships tell us something about our own core emotional patterns and wounds — he gives the top three examples of types pf men and what they say about our own subconscious patterns. If you want to truly understand why you are with the person you are with, or attract whom you attract, you have to listen to this!

Janice’s Story (Strong, Independent and Sensitive!)

Barry shares one quick question that can turn around any negative situation in your life! Seriously! Give it a try — it works for dating, relationships, and all your life’s challenges.

Today, Barry covers how we learn about boundaries, the differences between healthy and unhealthy boundaries, what boundaries really do for you and relationships, and how to practice having healthier boundaries today! If you want healthy boundaries, listen! to this!

The One Most Important Thing You Need To Know About Men

Feeling understood is a critical human need, fostering a sense of connection and significance. Barry reviews the ways we can feel understood with someone who ‘gets me’. He covers examples of meeting and dating people, and long term relationships. He lists some common obstacles and solutions to feeling understood by a partner.

Releasing Insecurity

In “Your Relationship With Yourself (Self-Connection)” Barry describes how our restless mind can disconnect us from ourself through distraction, busy-ness, racing thoughts, a story of loneliness, people pleasing and attending to others’ needs instead of our own. He shares how to create a strong foundation for creating a healthy, empowered relationship by connecting deeply with ourself first!

Barry explains why “Letting Someone In” can be difficult. He explains the attachment style behind this and what you can begin to do to let someone into your heart without fear of being hurt.

At a recent talk Barry was asked whether there is really such a thing as a healthy relationship. “Aren’t all relationships co-dependent?”, the audience member asked. In this episode Barry explains why that’s not the case - and the difference between codependency and healthy interdependence.

Barry describes how our EXPECTATION of happiness in dating and relationships can actually get in the way of BEING happy. He shares an exercise to reveal expectations and beliefs, and how to trace the origin of our needs through expressing them and being happy ourself first. That’s how we attract, create and maintain a healthy, empowered relationship!

Barry explains The Importance of Human Touch, then goes through the various types of touch that are healthy and needed. He suggests how to bring more loving, healthy, nurturing touch into our lives today!

Barry explains how Embracing Imperfection improves dating and relationships and gives one simple action to take today to embrace imperfection!