Heartdrops with Suess

In today's video I'm talking about something I see every single week in my counseling practice which is how unhealed trauma silently destroys relationships. I cover: why you attract the same people, how triggers hijack your reactions, why intimacy feels dangerous, the cycle that keeps repeating, and what healing actually looks like. My new e-book 'The Wounds We Carry' goes even deeper. You can fin...

Why do so many Christian women keep choosing the wrong men? In this video, I break down the real reasons godly women enter unhealthy relationships, from emotional wounds and loneliness to spiritual confusion and lack of discernment. If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong man?” or “Why do my relationships fail?” this conversation is for you. We’ll talk about dating mistakes Chris...

Conflict are inevitable in relationships. I think of them as a necessary evil. We may not like them, but they provide a better understanding of each other as well as ourselves. Conflicts can reveal hidden trauma and pain that trigger us. The Bible says in Amos 3:3 that two people cannot walk together without agreeing on a direction. Some times, we need to disagree to agree on a destination, and ho...

Are you constantly saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’? Do you feel guilty setting boundaries? In this episode, I dive deep into the heart of people-pleasing—where it comes from, why it’s exhausting, and how to break free while still being kind and Christlike. It’s time to stop living for approval and start living in your purpose. Tune in, take notes, and let’s grow together!

Building a sustainable marriage isn’t just about finding love, it’s also about nurturing it every day. In this episode, I talk about the key elements that will help your relationships last, from communication and trust to the little things that keep the spark alive. I also share valuable tips from a perspective of the love of God on how to centre love in purpose and growth. The best time to prepar...

Valentine's Day often focuses on roses, chocolates, and grand gestures, but as Christians, we know that true love goes far beyond that. Secular love can be fleeting, selfish, and conditional, focused on feelings and temporary moments. But God's love is something deeper, unwavering, and eternal. It’s unconditional, sacrificial, and rooted in Christ. It’s the love that calls us to serve, forgive, an...

It’s my birthday in a few days, and I wanted to share some things about myself. In this episode, I answer 25 personal questions about myself, my marriage, and my podcast. Whether you're a longtime listener or a new one, this episode will give you the inside gist into who I am and what I do as a relationship counsellor.

Are you truly ready for a relationship, or are there signs you are overlooking? In this video, I discuss key signs that you might not yet be prepared for a relationship. From emotional baggage to personal growth, I explore the important factors determining whether you are ready for a relationship. Whether you're recovering from a past relationship or still focusing on yourself, recognising these s...

Are you stepping into a new relationship this year or looking to strengthen the bond in your existing one? In this episode, we dive into the heart of godly connections, sharing practical steps for embracing new beginnings with purpose, faith, and love. Whether you’re seeking a fresh start in your love life or refining your approach to a current relationship, this conversation will inspire you to b...

Christmas is here! But amidst the lights, gifts, and festivities, have you ever paused to ask yourself, What is the real essence of Christmas? In this heartwarming episode, Suess dives deep into the true meaning of the season—a celebration that goes far beyond the decorations and holiday traditions. Christmas is about Christ, the Savior born to bring hope, love, and redemption to a broken world. J...

Are you navigating the ups and downs of relationships and need clear, honest answers to your burning questions? In this episode, I’m tackling the most common *Relationship FAQs*—from communication struggles and conflict resolution to building trust and maintaining boundaries. Whether you’re single, dating, or already in a committed relationship, this episode has something for you! I break down pra...

In this week’s episode, we dive deep into Call It Karma and explore the key lessons it teaches about relationships. From love and relationship values to friendships, betrayal, domestic violence and personal growth, we break it all down! If you haven’t seen this movie, please do so you can relate the review to the characters and get the full experience. Tune in to hear our thoughts, and don't forge...

Are you tired of focusing on all the red flags in relationships? Let’s flip the script and talk about what actually works! In this episode, I'm diving deep into green flags—those telltale signs that you’re in a healthy, loving, and God-honoring relationship. Whether you’re dating, courting, or just dreaming of your future partner, recognizing the good stuff is just as important as spotting the bad...

What do men really want in their relationships? 🤔 In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of the matter with my special guest KeleChukwu, a Christian creative and entrepreneur, who understands the nuances of love, respect, and emotional connection. We also explore key points like emotional support, communication, trust, and how faith plays a role in building a strong, God-centered partnershi...

Breakups are tough, but healing is possible—and you don’t have to go through it alone. In this episode, I sit down with Faith, an incredible abuse-related trauma therapist to discuss how to navigate heartbreak from a biblical perspective. From letting go of pain to embracing God’s promises for your future, we’re diving into the steps to move forward with hope and purpose. Whether you’re dealing wi...

Welcome to the first episode of our movie review series! In this episode, K.C and I explore the relationships in Diane Russet's Love Notes. This film takes us on a beautiful journey of friendships, the ups and downs of love and marriage. In Love Notes, we meet characters like Maris, Tami, Kenny and Ose who have a strong and close-knit relationship, living through relatable struggles and heartwarmi...

In this episode, I dive deep into the heart of what women truly need in a relationship. From leadership and kindness to spiritual connection and trust, I explore the key elements that make a relationship fulfilling for women. Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this conversation offers valuable insights for both women and men seeking to build healthy, God-centered relationships. Tune in as...

In this episode, I sit down with Boluwarin, a Christian husband and dad, to explore a topic that often sparks conversation and controversy: submission vs. servitude in marriage. What does the Bible truly say about submission, and how is it different from servitude? Together, we break down the biblical meaning of submission within marriage, focusing on mutual respect, love, and leadership as modele...

In this powerful episode, I sit down with a courageous young woman who bravely shares her journey through an abusive marriage that ultimately led to divorce. Her story is one of resilience, strength, and the difficult decision to walk away from a toxic relationship. Through her candid and heartfelt account, she opens up about the warning signs she overlooked, the fear and shame that kept her silen...

We all make mistakes in dating, but the key is learning from them! In this video, I’m sharing the biggest dating mistakes I made during my 20s and how they shaped my approach to love and relationships today. Whether you’re in your 20s or beyond, you’ll find valuable insights that can help you avoid the same shege 😩😩. From settling for less to ignoring red flags, I’ve been through it all. I’ll op...

Have you met couples who are so different from each other? Are you one of them? Is being different from your partner such a bad thing, or can it help your relationship be better?

It's our second year anniversary today. Whew! The past two years feel like 2 months and 2 decades at the same time. On this episode, we spoke about how we met (my version is the correct one), what our relationship has been like and how we got back together after we broke up 5 years ago. This episode is low-key chaotic because my roommate is a hoodlum as you will soon find out.

Marriage is an incredible journey, and we are grateful to experience its joys and challenges firsthand. In this episode, we discuss some unexpected aspects of marriage and how we navigated those initially murky waters. This episode is a must-listen for anyone planning to tie the knot. If you're preparing for your upcoming wedding, this conversation provides valuable insights to help you and yo...

Long time no solo episode 💃🏽💃🏽 I know I can’t be the only one who believed some of these myths and even projected them. Thank Jesus for wisdom. Which of these myths did you believe? Which ones were new to you?

Have you seen the Netflix series? Yes? No? Not to worry, we dey for you. Join us on this special episode as we discuss our favourite characters and the relationships in The Queen Charlotte series. It is definitely worth a listen. Meanwhile, NEPA and my neighbours almost frustrated me on the day we recorded, but I prevailed.