Heal Your Heartbreak

In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and author of the new book Safe (out today!). We dive into what it truly means to feel safe in relationships, why so many of us struggle with this, and how our attachment styles play a huge role—whether we lean anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. Jessica breaks down the origins of ou...

In today’s expert episode, I’m so excited to welcome back Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV sexpert, and now author of the brand new book “How Do You Like It?” We dive deep into the shifting narratives around sex and relationships, especially for Gen Z, and talk about how younger generations are redefining what it means to be sexually empowered and communicat...

In today's solo episode I’m diving into the topic of your breakup story—what it means, why it matters, and how the way you tell it can shape your healing. I explore how sharing your breakup experience is an important part of processing, but also how we can unintentionally make our stories more painful by filling in the gaps with negative self-talk or assumptions. Whether you were cheated on, ghost...

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Anna Runkle, better known as the “Crappy Childhood Fairy” on YouTube, whose new book, Connectability , just launched. We talk all about what it really means to be dysregulated, how childhood trauma—not just the “big T” trauma—can play out in our adult relationships, and why so many of us find ourselves self-sabotaging or struggling to connect. Anna dives...

In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back one of my favorite guests, Rory Uphold, to talk all about her brand new book The Final Girl’s Guide to the Horrors of Dating , out tomorrow (October 1st)! Rory and I dive into what inspired her to write the book—combining her own wild relationship stories with her love for horror movies. We break down what it really means to be a “final girl” in both scary mo...

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of my all-time favorite tools for breakup healing—letter writing. I share why this practice has been so powerful for me, how I integrate it into my coaching sessions, and exactly why it helps with those obsessive post-breakup thoughts and the void left by no contact. I go over different types of letters you can write—to your ex, to yourself (including y...

In today’s episode, I’m talking to Laura Behnke, whose story is such a powerful example of resilience, hope, and what it means to build a meaningful life regardless of the “rules” we think we need to follow. Laura shares openly about not having her first real relationship until age 35, what it felt like to reach milestones later than she expected, and how she learned to imagine a future that didn’...

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into what I call the final 10% of breakup recovery—that last stretch where you feel mostly healed, but still find yourself thinking about your ex, feeling frustrated, or just not quite “over it” yet. I talk through why this stage can feel so uncomfortable, how it's completely normal to still have lingering curiosity or sadness, and why rushing through it doesn't...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by internationally bestselling poet and author Courtney Peppernell to talk about her deeply personal new book, Out of the Ashes . Courtney opens up about her seven-year relationship that ended in emotional abuse and infidelity, and what it was like to recognize the toxic dynamics only in hindsight. We explore how she navigated feelings of shame, guilt, and even impos...

In today's episode, I'm joined by international best-selling author Amber Rae of the book Loveable , who shares her incredible story of breaking free from a nine-year sexless marriage after realizing she was living out a "good girl" narrative that kept her needs and desires suppressed. Amber and I dive into the difficult process of coming to terms with a relationship that looks good on paper but i...

In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for g...

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routin...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening .” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I talk abou...

In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “ How To Love Better. ” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about s...

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-est...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bob Rosen—psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and business advisor—to dive into the concept of attachment, and specifically, how our attachments can hold us back in breakups and beyond. We explore key themes from his latest book, “Detached,” including the attachment to stability, the past, control, and even perfectionism. Dr. Rosen shares h...

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotterapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feeling “stuc...

In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotiona...

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or numb ourse...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author Laura Day to dive into her newest book, The Prism , through the lens of heartbreak and healing. Laura and I talk about why breakups are so uniquely painful, what happens in our brains and bodies when we lose a relationship, and how intuition and ego both play a role in how we cope. We get into the seven centers of the ego,...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Judith Belmont , an experienced therapist and author of multiple self-help books, including her latest, “ 110 CBT Tips and Tools .” We dive deep into the practical side of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how its tools can help you through a breakup. Judith shares the most common unhelpful thought patterns people get stuck in after heartbreak, like al...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You . We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a breakup...

In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Marc, a man in his early 40s from the East Coast who is sharing the story of his recent breakup after an eight year relationship. Marc opens up about navigating an incredibly rare amicable breakup and what it really looks like to end things with kindness and respect—even when it’s still deeply painful. We talk about how the loss of his mom a year and a...

Today I’m taking you solo through a topic that hits close to home—reclaiming the things that feel lost after a breakup. Whether it’s a favorite song, a restaurant, a hobby, or even an entire part of town, breakups often leave us avoiding things we used to love. In this episode, I’m sharing stories from listeners and my own experience about what we feel our exes “took” from us, and how I learned to...

In today’s episode, I’m chatting with forgiveness expert Dara McKinley. We’re tackling a topic that’s come up a lot in breakups but rarely gets broken down: how do you actually forgive? Dara shares her personal story about searching for step-by-step advice on forgiveness and realizing that most resources only tell us why we "should" forgive—and not how. Together, we unpack common misconceptions, l...