Heal Your Heartbreak

In today’s expert episode, I’m sitting down with Lauren LaRusso , a psychotherapist specializing in extramarital affairs and author of "Beyond Infidelity." We go deep into the complex world of infidelity—why it happens, how it affects everyone involved (the betrayed partner, the unfaithful partner, and the affair partner), and the unique challenges of healing from relationship betrayal. Lauren sha...

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of the most common breakup questions I get: are you actually missing your ex, or are you missing being in a relationship? I walk you through how to recognize the difference between missing specific things about your former partner versus the general comfort of companionship. We talk about how feelings of loneliness can show up even long after your break...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Margaret Rutherford , clinical psychologist, author, and host of The SelfWork Podcast, to dive deep into the topic of “perfectly hidden depression”—a term she coined and explores in her bestselling book and TEDx talk . We discuss how those who seem “put together” on the outside can silently struggle beneath the surface, why high-achievers and caretakers...

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Dr. Paula Freedman Diamond , a licensed clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of the new book “Toxic Striving: Escaping the Stress and Burnout of Hustle and Diet Culture.” We talk about the many faces of people pleasing and perfectionism, how these patterns show up in dating and relationships, and how suppressing your own needs can eventually lead t...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by John Kim , a licensed therapist, speaker, and author you might know as The Angry Therapist on Instagram. We dive deep into his brand new book "Love Hard on Purpose" and break down the idea of “love blueprints”—the subconscious definitions of love we’re operating from, often shaped by our upbringing, movies, and social media. We discuss how these definitions...

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into one of the most nerve-wracking parts of post-breakup life: seeing your ex for the first time. Whether you're anxious about a possible accidental run-in, panicking over a mutual friend's wedding where you know you’ll cross paths, or just stuck in a cycle of "what if I see them?", this episode is for you. I break down the three scenarios—imagined encounters,...

In today’s episode I’m joined by Brooke Taylor , transformational career coach and author of the new book Healing the Success Wound . We dive deep into the concept of the “success wound”—the hidden pain that comes from tying your self-worth to achievement, productivity, and external validation. Brooke shares her personal story of hitting rock bottom while working at Google, dealing with burnout, s...

In today’s expert episode I’m interviewing Oona Metz , a therapist and author who has spent 17 years specializing in divorce support. We dive into why women initiate nearly 70% of divorces, the persistent shame and stigma around divorce, and the five phases of divorce grief that Oona Metz developed for her book, Unhitched . We also discuss why letting go and mending are essential steps to healing,...

In today's solo episode, I'm walking you through a workshop-style reflection meant to help you pause before texting your ex. I share five key questions to ask yourself any time you feel that urge to reach out, whether it's wanting to send an innocent meme or a long, heartfelt message. We explore the deeper motives behind wanting to contact your ex, the likelihood of getting the response you hope f...

In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Vacchiano , author of Soft Launch , who shares her story of getting married young, going through an early divorce, and the journey of starting over in her late 20s. We chat about the shame and guilt that come with leaving a relationship that looks “good on paper,” and how healing isn’t always immediate or linear—sometimes you just need to focus on ot...

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Leslie John , Harvard Business School professor and author of the new book "Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing ." We dive into why sharing—especially the messy, vulnerable stuff—is so crucial to building trust and intimacy in relationships. Leslie shares fascinating research about why people tend to choose honesty over secrecy (even when the...

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by Barnet Bain —award-winning filmmaker, author, and teacher—who just released his new book, "How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World." We dive deep into the art of adult friendship, why so many of us struggle to build fulfilling connections, and the common self-awareness gaps that hold us back. Barnet shares compelling personal stories, including a pivotal...

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the all-too-common “trap” so many of us fall into: not believing someone the first time they tell us they aren’t ready for a relationship or don’t see themselves wanting the same future as us. I share my own experiences of ignoring red flags, holding on to hope that someone might change, and how that leads us to lose parts of ourselves over time. We talk ab...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Liz Tenuto , also known as the Workout Witch, a leading expert in somatic exercises with over 230,000 students and millions of followers and out with a new book When The Body Speaks. We dive deep into what actually happens in our bodies during periods of long-term stress, trauma, and heartbreak—including the science behind fight, flight, and freeze response...

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by grief coach, author, and podcaster Shelby Forsythia , who is returning to talk about her new book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now . Shelby breaks down her powerful framework for how to truly support someone who is grieving—not just what NOT to say, but exactly what you can say and do, whether their grief comes from a breakup, divorce, job loss, or the death of...

In today's episode, I'm interviewing Mal Glowenke , host of the Made It Out podcast , who's been a pioneer in the lesbian podcast scene. We dive into her recent breakup—not only with her romantic partner but also her podcast co-host—and how that experience has shaped her healing journey. We talk about the unique challenges of navigating a breakup while untangling both a business and a mutual frien...

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Hiroko Yoda, a Japanese cultural historian, journalist, and author of the new book " 8 Million Ways to Happiness: Wisdom for Inspiration and Healing from the Heart of Japan. " We dive into how anyone can use the principles of Japanese spirituality to help heal from grief and heartbreak, regardless of their background. Hiroko shares her own journey of rec...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Alina Kastner , a Vienna-based psychotherapist and author of Break Up with Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free . We dive into what really happens after a breakup with a narcissist—beyond just identifying the red flags. Dr. Alina shares her perspective on the often-missing conversation about the true healing journey: rebuilding self-esteem, facin...

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Faith Freed , a licensed psychotherapist, spiritual guide, and author of the new book DIY Spirituality: Chart Your Own Sacred Path . We dive into the intersection of spirituality and relationships—especially after heartbreak—and discuss how connecting with your own sense of spirituality can be a key part of healing. We get into what spirituality really m...

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In today's expert episode, I'm joined by one of my all-time favorite guests (and yours!), Guy Winch , psychologist, TED speaker, and author of the brand new book Mind Over Grind . We dive deep into the topic of how workplace stress and burnout can erode our relationships, sometimes leading to breakups and heartache. We talk about the unconscious ways that work stress spills over into our home live...

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by journalist and author Amanda McCracken to dive deep into the topics of longing and limerence—those intense, ruminating crushes or obsessions that can stick with us for years, even decades. Amanda shares her very personal journey with limerence, what it was like to struggle with it long before the term became widely known, and how it intersected with her rom...

In today's solo episode, I'm sitting down and sharing off the cuff about something unexpected that came up for me in therapy this week—old pain from a toxic relationship I was in over a decade ago. Even though I haven't gone through a breakup in years, this experience reminded me how healing from heartbreak, especially from trauma and narcissistic abuse, happens in layers and isn't always linear....

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing returning guest Thais Gibson —best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the Personal Development School—about her powerful new concept: the six stages of every relationship. We unpack each stage, from dating and the honeymoon phase, through the power struggle, all the way to commitment and the everlasting stage. We talk through the specific lessons...

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Kati Morton—licensed marriage and family therapist, bestselling author, and one of the most trusted mental health voices online. We dive into her newest book, "Why Do I Keep Doing This?" and explore how our desire for control impacts everything from relationships to mental health. In our conversation, we talk about the many ways control can show up—beyond t...