Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts

When is the right time in childhood to bring up the topic of sex? The answer is pretty much from when they can talk! Listening to Amy Lang's podcast "Just Say This" has taught me so much about how to be open with my son about his body, his feelings, and his sexual health. It's helped me learn how to take the shame out of sexuality so that I can keep the lines of communication o...

Re-Release: My first episode describing Emotional Self-Care (New episodes starting next week!) Many of you have probably listened to this episode, because it's the most downloaded, being my first and all. My podcast started as "Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma" in November,  2021. Since then I've shared a lot about what self-care means to me.  I take breaks at work to take dee...

Re-Release: This is my rawest, most truthful episode. I have contemplated deleting it a few times, but I feel it's an important validation for others going through this similar, taboo, subject. Listen if you are someone who has a difficult relationship with your mom. Let me know what you think.  Healing is possible! I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/ Please...

Re-Release! My most-dowloaded episode! Enjoy! Have you experienced emotional abuse? I sure have, and it can be really tricky to detect. It took me a lot of reading, rewiring my brain with therapy, and coming out of denial to be able to recognize emotional abuse. I share a story today about a time I felt icky in my love relationship. I unpack what went on there and validate what was being said and...

Re-Release! My first, and most-downloaded interview! I'm proud to share with you this conversation between me and my wise friend, Susan Tuttle, who just published her first book in October, 2023!  (Link below) Susan is a life coach and teacher of all things recovery. She  shares valuable advice about her journey to find balance in her life and to learn how to stop self-abandoning. We speak ab...

I have three interviews schedule for the month of October- a memoirist, a trauma-informed money coach, and a sex therapist that can help us navigate difficult conversations with our children surrounding sex and our bodies. Those interviews will be coming soon! Please rate and review my podcast to help me know you are listening and enjoying it!  Here are some past episodes that you might enjoy: Wha...

~Re-released popular episode from 2022~ Do you believe that the emotional injuries you suffered in childhood stick with you until they are processed?  Or do you think we can just "keep them in the past" and deny they exist?  I know from experience that I'm not able to sweep what happened to me as a child under the rug.  I've been suffering from a lot of insomnia related to my p...

I'm celebrating my 100th episode this week!!!!!!! I thought long and hard about how to make it extra special. I decided to invite someone I look up to, someone who is always curious and interested in new things... someone who loves me... my DAD!  We philosiphize about two of my dad's favorite things: football and mathematics. Listen to hear why learning math is important for every person...

What do we do after we put our foot in our mouth, or overreact to something someone says? Do we bury our heads in the sand and pretend it never happened? Do we just wish it away and lie to ourselves that it was really no big deal? No! We REPAIR.  I love this concept of repair being part of intimacy in relationships. We are flawed humans, so we will always do things to hurt others unintentionally i...

Did you have an abuser from your childhood that you haven't seen in many years? I did, and I ran into them a few weeks ago.  NOT  a fun experience.  I went into a fawning response and took their lead, acting like everything was cool. Inside, I was wanting to gag or yell out in anger, or shake them like, how can you act like this is normal for us to be talking right now?!?!?  I share my though...

Do you have the belief that following your dreams, making more money, or getting that dream house/car/job you have always wanted will be extremely difficult to accomplish? I used to, as well. I'm here to tell you today that you can prime your brain for abundance by creating a morning routine for yourself and changing your thought patterns. I've trained my brain to move from those negativ...

"Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into."  -Dr. Wayne Dyer Do you have an abundance mindset? Are you open to receiving... Love?  Energy?  Time? Attention? Money?  At times I've been too much of a giver to the point where eventually, it made me resentful. The other bad part about giving codependently is that it closes us off to receiving gifts from others...

MY FAVORITE EPISODE YET!!! I think you'll really love this one, if you're fascinated by intergenerational trauma! I'm super pumped to share my interview with author and breathwork practicioner Melissa Pennel of "Questions You'll Wish You Asked Yourself." After losing her parents and grandparents at a young age and getting sober before college, Melissa walked a path of...

Have you found a great therapist for your child? For me, it was a long rode to find a trauma informed therapist that understood my son and I. It was tricky to figure out what exactly my son needed and what I needed to feel safe, heard, and understood.  One therapist unexpectedly gave me some amazing advice that I share with you today.  I also share a parenting win that demonstrates how all the wor...

Today's guest,  Jen Towns, has a PhD in Clinical Social Work and recently published a book that gives advice for queer lovers navigating trauma. The book is called "Our Deepest Roots: Navigating Past Trauma to Build Healtheir Queer Relationships." https://www.amazon.com/Our-Deepest-Roots-Navigating-Relationships/dp/B0C6R9CCZD/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1691354079&am...

You you have to have ten good reasons to buy something, or is the reason "because I like it" enough?  I have a tendency to be cheap. In life this has helped me stay out of debt and probably lessened my carbon footprint, but it has also stopped me from listening to my intuition and feeling joy! Because I supress my desires at times, I've decided I can be "dysfunctionally frugal....

Erin Tagan is an ontological life coach, which means she often ponders the question, "Who do you want to be?" (Emphasis on BE-ing)  Erin and I discuss how to go about creating the life you've always wanted and what roadblocks you might encounter along the way.  Erin Tagan is offering any Grace + Boundaries podcast listeners a COMPLIMENTARY coaching session to help you get out of you...

Do you have mother wounds? According to Mark Wolynn, 85% of us do. I am definitely one of that statistic. Today I share about how I've changed and grown in terms of my relationship with my mother, and how I realize now that it has very little to do with her anymore. It is up to me to do the healing work on my own, to heal my own heart so I can share grace and love wherever I go and attract a...

I'm excited to share with you an interview with the captivating Gloria Zhang!  Gloria Zhang (based out of Canada) is a renowned relationship coach, entrepreneur, and former psychotherapist known for her signature style of translating esoteric ideas into everyday wisdom. Gloria hosts the global sensation, 'The Inner Child Podcast,' a self-help series which has captivated audiences ac...

Today's episode could be considered a little "woo-woo." But the truth is that invisible energies are circulating around us at all times, influencing our lives and magnetising our environments.  This is the first of three episoes that I share about my therapy session with author, researched, and therapist Mark Wolynn. You can learn more about him here  https://markwolynn.com/ or list...

Welcome to the first episode of my re-titled podcast!  This podcast, formerly known as Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma, has been RENAMED Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma!  I'm fascinated by studying Intergenerational trauma and I wanted to share with you all why it's been the key to me learning how to be more graceful in all my relationships.  On today's epi...

My renamed podcast is coming soon! On Sunday I will drop new episodes for my reimagined podcast. Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma has now become "Grace  + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts."  I've grown so much in the past two years that I was ready to rename and move forward into being more graceful as I navigate relationships with family and loved o...

I'm changing the podcast title and artwork, coming soon! This will be my final episode of the podcast under the name of Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma.  My updated version will also be about trauma, through another lense, so stay tunned!  Today I share what it's been like to join Hinge, the dating app, for my first time. I tried it out Friday-Sunday this weekend, and learned a lot abo...

" Start before you're ready" can be great advice if you're trying to make progress on life's bucket list.  I share about what it means to me to start before I'm ready. I give examples of how you can break down your goals into hour-long tasks to put into your calendar each week. I also share a story about me starting dating before I was ready, and what happened with th...

I've struggled with binge eating most of my life. I don't have a severe eating disorder, but food issues have been a part of the coping mechanisms I developed during my childhood traumas of sexual abuse and emotional neglect. Binge eating, because I'm of an average weight and it's a taboo topic, is not something I've talked about with many friendsBut this past weekend, I m...