giving (un)bothered

In this episode, we’re getting into the messy, relatable realities of queer dating and identity from unpacking internalised homophobia to dealing with rejection in queer dating, we explore how to tell if you're genuinely into women or just curious. Plus: how the hell do you define the line between friendship and flirting between girls? 👀 Whether you're newly out, questioning your sexuality, or de...

Breakups are hard—but sapphic breakups? They hit different. In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of ending a queer relationship. Whether you’re healing from your first lesbian breakup or navigating the messy end of a WLW situationship, we’ve got you. Expect raw advice, personal stories, and healing tips to help you move on (without texting her at 2AM). If you’ve ever Goog...

We sit down with married queer couple Aaron and Ryan to talk about being kicked out of an Uber for being gay during Sydney Pride. We dive into the realities of LGBTQ+ discrimination, traveling while queer, and how to maintain healthy communication in relationships and marriages. From navigating homophobia while traveling to sharing tips on building strong partnerships, this episode is packed with...

In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on all things dating — the good, the awkward, and the (un)bothered. From decoding body language and making eye contact to navigating first date etiquette (who gets there first?!), we’re covering it all. We talk about:  - How to flirt like a pro - Who makes the first move — and why it doesn’t matter - How to communicate your intentions without freaking o...

This week, we’re joined by the iconic Australian duo Aaron and Ryan with powerful, heartfelt, and hilarious stories to share.  In Part 1 of this deep and chaotic two-part episode, we talk about: Their personal coming out stories What it’s like growing up queer in Australia The complicated relationship between religion and LGBTQ+ identity Dealing with homophobia and finding chosen family The i...

In this unfiltered episode, we're talking cheating, U-Hauling, and role-play - aka the chaotic trifecta of queer dating. Through “Would You Rather ” questions and relatable scenarios, we unpack it all: What to do if your partner’s kissing style isn’t it? Thoughts on role-play and strap-ons. Is cheating always a dealbreaker? And yes… how fast is too fast to U-Haul? Whether you're deep in your situa...

This week, we sit down with Zan Moon—women’s rights activist and founder of sapphic events in London. Zan takes us through her coming out story, from realising she was a lesbian in boarding school, to navigating a religious upbringing and internalised homophobia. She opens up about the challenges of finding queer community in London and why she started organising sapphic events to create safe spac...

In this episode, we talk about how the male gaze shaped our fashion and behaviour to gain validation. Since coming out, we’ve stepped away from these influences, reclaiming our confidence and dressing for ourselves. We discuss how shedding the male gaze has allowed us to express our true identities authentically and embrace freedom in our style and behaviour.  Find us on:  Instagram: ⁠ @...

This week, we’re breaking down iconic lesbian stereotypes—from vegans & carabiner code to tattoos and rock climbing lesbians—We’re decoding the ultimate signs of sapphic energy and asking the real question: are these just fun tropes, or are we all guilty?  Find us on:  Instagram: ⁠ @giving.unbothered⁠ Tiktok: ⁠ @giving.unbothered⁠ Youtube: ⁠ @givingunbothered⁠ Hosted on Acast. See ac...

In this episode of Let’s Get Naked, we’re getting real about sapphic sex! We dive into all the juicy details—strap-ons, scissoring, tantric sex, and some hilariously awkward sex stories. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just here for the laughs, we’re breaking down the myths, sharing personal intimacy experiences, and spilling the tea on what really goes down in the bedroom. Find us on:&nbs...

Your 20s are a wild ride, and in this week's episode, we’re spilling all the hard-earned lessons we’ve learned along the way. From navigating friendship breakups, realizing the importance of family time, and embracing the ultimate post-breakup glow-up, to taking risks and chasing your dreams—we’re covering it all. Plus, we dive into how your friendships can shape your sexuality journey in ways you...

In this week’s episode, Alana shares her journey of self-discovery, mental health, and embracing her identity. From being diagnosed with OCD, anxiety, and depression as a teenager to understanding how her struggles were tied to her sexuality, Alana opens up about the challenges she’s faced and the resilience that got her through. Join us for a powerful and unfiltered conversation about mental heal...

Would you stay unbothered if your partner was still close with their ex? What about “networking” on dating apps? In this episode, we’re playing a game of Bothered or Unbothered? with our guest Chloe Barker, debating relationships scenarios that blur the line between harmless and sketchy. From liking thirst traps to still wearing an ex’s hoodie, we’re spilling all the tea. Find us on:  Instagram: ⁠...

This week, we get real about everything related to sex, relationships, and all those juicy topics we’re told to avoid with another round of Let’s Get Naked. We’re talking about sex drought struggles, first-time experiences, and diving into fetishes. Plus, we’re opening up about our experiences with one-night stands and discussing what we truly enjoy when it comes to intimacy—whether that’s using o...

Is she making you a mixtape… or just being nice? Does that deep eye contact mean she’s into you, or is she just an intense listener? This week, we’re diving into the chaotic world of decoding sapphic signals. From reading each other’s birth charts to writing love poems "as a friend," we’re breaking down the fine line between flirty and friendly. Are lesbians just naturally romantic, or a...

In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on the icks and dealbreakers that make us swipe left on dating apps like Hinge, Raya and Tinder. Join us as we reveal our top dating app pet peeves, discuss how our profiles can make or break a connection, and laugh at some of the most outrageous dealbreaker moments we’ve experienced. Get ready for a real talk on online dating and how to avoid the biggest pr...

In this episode, we unpack Trump’s two-gender policy and our thoughts on it. We also get real about homophobic encounters, how to handle them, and why some people still feel the need to show up at Pride just to hate. We share our experiences traveling abroad, the challenges we’ve faced, and why queer-friendly spaces feel so important to us. Find us on:  Instagram: ⁠@giving.unbothered⁠ Tiktok: ⁠@gi...

This week, we’re raising the temperature with another round of Let’s Get Naked —the ultimate card game that sparks bold, unfiltered conversations about sex, intimacy, and modern relationships. From jaw-dropping confessions and expert tips to navigating open relationships, this episode is packed with laughs, insights, and all the juicy details you didn’t know you needed. Whether you’re curious, exp...

In this episode, we’re getting brutally honest about the biggest relationship mistakes we’ve made and how they’ve shaped us:  That time we stayed in a toxic relationship (oops) How our attachment styles turned conflicts into chaos Why jealousy and silent treatments were so toxic (and how we’ve learned to handle conflict better) The lessons we’ve learned about love, healing, and setting boundaries...

In this episode, we’re reflecting on the highs and lows of 2024—turning all those hot mess moments into valuable lessons. From setting boundaries to leaving behind toxic habits, we’re sharing our resolutions for 2025 and how we’re embracing personal growth and self-love. We talk about everything from ending the year with lessons learned to entering the new year with a fresh mindset. Get ready for...

As 2024 comes to a close, we’re taking a stroll down memory lane—or should we say, the dating battlefield. In this episode, we break down our “Dating Wrapped” stats: the best moments, worst dates, unexpected sparks, and total flops. From lessons learned to love lost (or found?), we’re getting real about what this year taught us about the wild world of modern romance. Buckle up for some laughs, a f...

This week, we’re turning up the heat with  Let’s Get Naked —a provocative card game that dives into all things bedroom! We answer juicy, hilarious, and downright awkward questions about intimacy, sex, and relationships. From shocking confessions to spicy tips, this episode is packed with unfiltered fun and fresh perspectives on love and desire. Find us on: - Instagram: @giving.unbothered - Tiktok:...

In this episode of giving (un)bothered, we took a quiz to uncover our own attachment styles and reflect how they shape the way we communicate through texts. We share our personal reactions, dive into what these styles mean for our texting habits, and explore how they affect romantic communication. Find us on: - IG: @giving.unbothered - Tiktok: @giving.unbothered - Youtube: @givingunbothered Hosted...

In this episode, we’re sharing some of our most shocking and uncomfortable workplace experiences. Alana opens up about the time her boss crossed all kinds of boundaries. Meanwhile, Jelka spills on the dark side of the modeling industry. Buckle up for a jaw-dropping ride through the chaos behind the scenes of our careers! Find us on: IG: @giving.unbothered Tiktok: @giving.unbothered Youtube: @givin...

In this episode, we’re diving into the little things that give us the “ick” and the surprising quirks that make us swoon. From awkward first-date habits to oddly specific turn-ons, we’re sharing the moments that make us question—or double down on—our dating choices. It’s a rollercoaster of cringe, laughs, and maybe a few unexpected confessions. Find us on:- IG: @giving.unbothered - Tiktok: @giving...