Free From P*rn

What if the thing you call “failure” is actually the key to your freedom? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young and Justin Khoe dismantle one of the most dangerous beliefs Christian men carry: “If I mess up again, it’s over.” That mindset doesn’t protect you… it traps you. We unpack why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the cycle—and how a simple shift can change ev...

If you’ve ever asked, “Why is this happening to me?”—this episode will completely reframe how you see your struggle. In this episode, we break down one of the biggest mindset traps keeping men stuck in cycles of shame, guilt, and pornography—and how to finally step out of it. What if your struggle isn’t random?  What if it actually makes perfect sense based on everything you’ve walked through? Ins...

What if your worst mistake wasn’t the end of your story—but the beginning of transformation? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Justin shares a raw and unforgettable story from his teenage years—getting arrested for shoplifting on a military base in Las Vegas. What follows isn’t just a story about consequences… it’s about conviction, identity, and the kind of moment that sticks with y...

What happens when you finally bring your struggle into the light? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Richard shares a powerful excerpt from the Death to Life Podcast featuring Samuel, a member of the Free From Porn coaching community. Samuel opens up about his journey from secrecy and fear to freedom and boldness in Christ. For years, Samuel believed the truth about his identity in Ch...

Most of the struggle with porn—and honestly, most of the struggle in life—isn’t the behavior itself. It’s the psychological torment happening in our minds. In this episode, Richard Young talks about the power of perspective and how our minds often trap us in unnecessary suffering. We spend so much time trying to manipulate our circumstances so we can finally feel “okay.” When things don’t go the w...

Most men trying to break free from porn believe their biggest problem is their urges. But the real issue runs deeper. It’s their relationship with their mind. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young breaks down the three stages every man goes through in his relationship with his thoughts—and why understanding this changes everything. In stage one, you believe you are your thou...

What if you’ve been starting in the wrong place this whole time? For years, I thought freedom meant climbing. Climbing out of sin. Climbing toward peace. Climbing into God’s approval. But there was one idea that broke everything open for me: In Christ, you start where He finished. You don’t begin your spiritual life at the bottom of the mountain trying to reach God.  You begin seated with Christ....

What if the urges you’re afraid of are actually the key to your freedom? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young flips the script on how we think about urges. Instead of fearing them or trying to suppress them, he explains why urges are actually doing important work—revealing the unresolved emotions, beliefs, and wounds we’ve learned to cope with through porn. You’ll hear why...

Most people think their struggle with porn is about willpower, discipline, or self-control. It’s not. In this episode, Richard breaks down a deeper issue that keeps people stuck—not just in pornography, but in anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and constant inner turmoil: the illusion of control . We talk about why porn is rarely the real problem, but a coping mechanism for unregulated emotions… and ho...

What if trying to outthink your porn habit is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young breaks down why willpower, mental debates, and “inner dialogue” are the worst tools for overcoming urges—and what to do instead. You’ll learn: Why your mind isn’t equipped to solve addiction How inner arguments actually drain you and strengthen temptation The diffe...

What does it actually mean to be free from p*rn —and how is that different from trying to be “sinless”? In this episode, Richard breaks down Romans 6 and explains why real freedom isn’t about white-knuckling behavior change, but living from the ontological freedom Christ has already given you.

Every January, we make resolutions we don’t keep—especially when it comes to quitting porn. In this episode, Richard Young explains why freedom doesn’t come from trying harder or setting negative goals like “I won’t do this anymore.” Instead, real change starts with intention . You’ll learn why intentions formed in clarity are stronger than resolutions made in emotion, how fear and desire derail y...

The holidays have a way of stirring up old thoughts, old emotions, and old coping patterns. Family gatherings, financial pressure, grief, loneliness, and anxiety can all collide at once—and when anxiety rises, the mind often reaches for the same “solution” it always has. Porn isn’t the problem. It’s the relief valve we’ve learned to pull when tension feels unbearable. In this episode of the Free F...

Justin shares two hilarious stories of almost joining a cult—and we use them to unpack why old thoughts, temptations, and guilt still show up even when you’re walking in freedom. Learn how to “unsubscribe” from old mental patterns, retrain your mind’s algorithm, and stop taking every thought personally so you can keep walking in the freedom Christ already gave you.

n this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, host Richard Young dives into one of the most overlooked pressure-cookers of the year: the holiday season. For many, Thanksgiving and Christmas bring joy… but they also bring stress, old triggers, family dynamics, and emotional weight that can feel overwhelming. But what if those very triggers were invitations—not setbacks? Richard unpacks why moments...

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Justin and Richard kick things off with a hilarious question: “What’s the manliest thing you’ve ever done?” What starts as jokes about peeing standing up and awkward gym compliments quickly turns into a story that nearly ends in disaster—Richard almost drowning at a Hawaiian beach because he fought the waves instead of letting himself float. But that...

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young unpacks one of the most counterintuitive truths about freedom — that trying harder often makes things worse. Drawing from psychology and Scripture, Richard explains the “law of reversed effort,” showing how willpower alone can reinforce the very habits you’re trying to break. You’ll learn why striving, white-knuckling, and obsessing over...

What happens when freedom turns into permission? In this raw and hilarious episode, Richard and Justin unpack how a single conversation years ago threw Richard off course and why it’s so easy to swing between guilt and license when you’re learning to live free from p*rn. From a wild story about a dad discovering his son’s “Free From P*rn” charge on the family bank statement to a deep dive into Gal...

Have you ever noticed that the moment you start doing something new, stressful, or outside your comfort zone, the urges to look at p rn suddenly show up again? In this honest and vulnerable episode, Richard opens up about why launching the Free From P rn coaching program actually increased his urges. Joined by Justin Khoe, they unpack why stress often becomes a hidden trigger and how to process it...

Most people would rather hide than admit they’re struggling with porn—but what if talking about it is the very thing that breaks its power? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Justin and Richard get real about embarrassment —why we feel it, how it keeps us stuck, and what happens when we finally stop pretending. Joined by their friend David Hunte , who battled porn for over 40 years, t...

We kept the awkward cold open on purpose—because today’s conversation starts messy and turns miraculous. Justin is back after an emergency C-section and a week in the NICU with baby Ezekiel (“Zeke”). Out of that whirlwind, he shares a gospel reframing that changes how you think about sin, shame, and why white-knuckling never sets you free. Richard and Justin unpack Romans 5 and Titus 2 through a p...

Real freedom starts when truth leaves your lips. In this episode, Richard unpacks radical honesty —why saying the real thing out loud (to safe, gospel-anchored people) exposes the lie beneath a porn habit and opens the door to healing. You’ll hear how confession isn’t shame— it’s surgery —and why many of us only realize what’s true as we say it. In this episode you’ll learn Why isolation keeps the...

Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release. Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpack...

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, lau...

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again. You’ll learn:  • Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation)...