Forever Love

In this episode, I talk about the importance of processing negative emotions before cultivating positive emotions. Processing negative emotions is a critical step that creates the space you need to honor your God-given desires. I'll share with you the negative emotions I had to process over the holidays and why it was extremely difficult. Plus, I'll let you know which word I chose as my word of th...

In this episode, let’s talk about who you want to be in the coming year. Especially as it pertains to becoming a Godly wife. Today, I want to remind you not to get hung up on your current identity because through our relationship with Christ, we have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves daily. When we die to self daily,  we have the ability to become the next version of ourselves. This invol...

Not every question is a good question for you to use your brainpower on. And there’s one question, in particular, that is especially dangerous. “What’s wrong with me? This question has undoubtedly kept you up many a night, searching for the answers in some vain hope of finding the problem and being able to fix it. This is one of the biggest traps of the enemy. To keep you diving deep into that poo...

An exclusive behind-the-scenes look at what's inside my signature course Ready For The One. In this episode, I'm breaking down my paid program RFTO, module by module so that there is no doubt in your mind that this program is for you.  It's an extra special episode because I want to show you exactly why this is such an exciting opportunity for you to learn everything you need to know to make...

https://www.proverbs2426.com/secrets being alone is a powerful choice you’ve made and you can honor where you’re at while also preparing for your future as a wife. Being alone may not be amazing. You might be bored. But it can be honest and clean Don’t make being alone worse by comparing yourself to people in relationships. In this episode, I talk about how to deal with loneliness in a way that is...

This is a very special episode because it’s our 50th episode and to celebrate, I wanted to introduce you to the love of my life, my husband Lovingson Mtongwiza. Lovingson has been my biggest supporter and best friend along this journey and today I thought it would be fun to let him answer some of your questions. Thanks for joining me today, and I'd be so grateful if you can share this episode with...

Who am I to deserve love? Who would want to be with someone like me? What kind of man would want to spend his life with me?  In today's episode, I'm talking about the ways in which those feelings of unworthiness creep into your life and sabotage your efforts to honor your God-given desire for a Christ-centered marriage. I'll show you where that feeling is coming from and what you can do about...

How are you preparing for the challenges of marriage? Are you terrified of making a mistake and making a fool of yourself? Or do you believe that no matter what, you and your husband will find a way? The unfortunate reality of marriage is this, on the other side of that altar, you're still going to be human. You're still going to face all the challenges and trials of life on Earth, and that doesn'...

Should we work together? Welcome to the Forever Love Podcast; I’m your host and relationship coach Lily Mtongwiza Have you been thinking about working with me? If so today, I wanted to talk with you about what being a coaching client is all about. In this episode, I’m going to share with you a process for making important decisions about how and where you invest your time, energy, money, and effor...

Kaity left her last relationship over 5 years ago. There is a new man in her life, but there's still a question of whether or not God is calling her back to her past. She feels scared and doesn't want to make the wrong decision. She came to me because she believes that she hasn’t gotten a green light from God to move forward with this new relationship. But as we peel back the layers, you’re going...

Norma wants Herman, but Herman is a widower who needs time to grieve. She also has a couple of suitors who have been interested in her for some time. Should she be patient and understanding as she waits for Herman to go through the grieving process? Or should she explore other options? Norma is 57 years old and wants to be married again. She has very strong feelings for Herman and believes he is t...

How to make the transition from banging your head against the wall, because nothing you're doing with regards to love is working, to being engaged to an equally yoked and Christ-centered partner. Today I brought on a very special guest, my client Vanessa, who recently got engaged. She's here to tell her story and talk about how coaching made a difference in the way she showed up for love and honor...

Oftentimes, people assume that the best part about being a relationship coach must be working from home or setting my own hours.  While those are both true, and AMAZING perks of this job, I’d have to say that my very favorite thing is bearing witness to the transformative journey my clients take when they work with me. They almost always come in thinking there's something wrong with them and...

Today I want to talk about our attachment to our stories. I talk to clients all the time who are extremely sentimental about their stories even though they are painful and holding them back. Just the other day, I was working with someone who wanted to tell me all about how everything was against them. Statistics, the church, friends, books, podcasts, everyone, and everything. This viewpoint was cl...

There comes a time in every woman’s life where she finally believes wholeheartedly that she is going to be a wife. Sometimes it happens on her way up down the aisle. But usually, it happens somewhere between heartbreak and daydream. For me, it happened while I was still very young and naive. I just knew that I was meant to be married. That the best version of myself happened to include being a wif...

What’s your favorite excuse? For me, it’s that I don’t have enough. I hate to admit this, but I wake up in the morning, and the first thing I think is, “I didn’t get enough sleep last night.” Then it’s “there’s not enough coffee or milk for breakfast.” So now I’m not going to have enough energy to do all my work. And I don’t have enough time to go get more. And even if I did have the time, I don’t...

In today's episode, we're talking about how to pause and embrace joy in the moment. Allowing ourselves to experience joy often seems self-indulgent, but I want to assure you that it is one of the most effective ways to enter into a place of worship and praise.  The second benefit is the amount of clarity we can gain. Our vision of the future is often clouded with fear and worry, but joy actua...

I wanted to help women prevent divorce ever since I realized how good the right relationship could me. But learning how to pursue such an important ministry didn't come easily. But God always provides teachers and opportunities to learn from those who have gone before us. That's why it is my pleasure to introduce you to my friend and mentor, Amy Porterfield. Amy is the brains behind Digital Course...

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly trying to figure out how to overcome the overwhelm? Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is...

Getting tired of the waiting game? Sometimes it can feel like you are stuck spending some of the best years of your life just waiting for your "real life" to begin. But, Thobile Mogorosi, my guest for this episode, and I are determined to show you that there is a better way. Talking about your desire for marriage shouldn't be something we hush or try to hide. I know... You've been told to just wai...

As a human, you are bound to make mistakes. You will sin, fall short and fail. And chances are, you'll do it over and over again.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels...

There's nothing more important in a Christ-centered marriage than having compatible core values.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this...

Want to embrace this season of singleness, instead of just enduring it?  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells, this podcast is for you. In th...

Knowing who you are in Christ is an essential step in your journey towards a Christ-centered marriage.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling head of heels, or hearing wedding bells,...

A candid conversation about some of the unexpected twists and turns that have occurred along Lily's path towards a Christ-centered marriage.  Each week, Lily Mtongwiza, your favorite relationship coach for women pursuing their God-given desire for marriage, shares her best coaching tools and insights to help you navigate this season of your life. Whether you’re single as a pringle, falling he...