Fix Yourself First with Dr. Kristie

Join us for an insightful exploration of the intricacies of sexual connections and relationship dynamics. Renowned sex educator Emily Nagoski teams up with Dr. Kristie Overstreet to unravel the complexities of sexual satisfaction, self-discovery, and navigating societal expectations. In this episode, Dr. Kristie and Dr. Emily Nagoski delve deep into the importance of self-connection, pleasure, and...

It can be tough whether it's starting for the first time or maybe even restarting the steps towards your goals. Most of the time it's the 3 P's that get in the way of forward movement. In this episode you'll learn how to identify and overcome the 3 P's: Perfectionism People Pleasing Procrastination Dr. Kristie will share examples from her life as well as others to help you make the changes you nee...

Are you ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth? We explore common behaviors hindering self-connection and growth. In this episode, Dr. Kristie talks about 10 common behaviors that can get in the way of having a good relationship with oneself, such as self-criticism, perfectionism, negative self-talk, and avoiding self-reflection. Dr. Overstreet provides suggestions for "fixing"...

Discover the Secrets to Healthy Relationship Learn how to assess your relationship health and avoid staying in unfulfilling connections. Explore the key dynamics that make a relationship thrive, from mutual respect to effective conflict resolution. Discover the importance of quality time, shared values, and trust in nurturing a loving partnership. In this episode, Dr. Kristie dives deep into the w...

How can constantly seeking other people's opinions prevent someone from trusting their own judgement and decision making? In the episode, Dr. Kristie gives five steps someone can take to start trusting themselves more: reflecting on their core values, practicing self-compassion, cultivating self-awareness, looking at their past progress and small goals, and learning to say no. Mindfulness is also...

How do we define fidelity? What's cheating even in non-monogamous relationships? How do you deal with the feelings that come up? How do you have conversations about them and everything in between? We tend to think of being jealous in such a bad light, but there are some good things that can come from it. In the same way, there are a lot of different types of relationships, from monogamous to relat...

Do you ever experience feelings of rejection, abandonment, emotional abuse, physical threat, or even holding content? It may indicate a problem with emotional safety. If you want to feel more emotionally safe in a current relationship or a future relationship. In this episode, we will discuss emotional safety, what truly occurs when we lack it, how to restore sex and intimacy when they are lacking...

No one could be harder on me than I am on myself... I beat myself up harder than anyone else ever could... With a loud inner critic which often masquerades as "motivation," it's easy to forget the importance of self-compassion. This episode offers empowerment to cultivate healthier relationships, not just with yourself, but also with others. We dive into the power of self-compassion and how to dev...

Wondering how to navigate the highs and lows of embracing your unique identity, especially in the face of societal norms? Join us as we engage in a heartfelt and honest discussion with the inspiring duo, Lindsay Boccardo and Lauren Moffatt. Our guests delve into their personal experiences of overcoming internalized homophobia, religious and spiritual trauma, and complicated family dynamics. They s...

Facing life-altering decisions like starting IVF and getting engaged made me explore a unique six-step decision-making method. This method is not just about me; it's about you finding your way through hard choices, about embracing the empowerment that comes with making them, and about keeping an open heart and open mind. I'll unpack my process of talking, writing, researching, and seeking answers,...

Examining our sexual template, these are the messages we received growing up through young-adult and adulthood that shape how we see ourselves and our sexual selves. In this episode, we talked about rewriting that template, examining our needs for emotional and physical closeness, confronting sexually demeaning messages, incorporating sexual touch into relationships, communicating desire, having w...

Have you ever felt lost? Not just getting lost when driving or hiking somewhere; It means getting internally lost? Are you living a life where you feel connected to who you are? And where do you want to be in your relationships? In this episode, we're talking about what you do when you're feeling lost in your own life. Whether you're questioning your relationship or the sense of losing who you are...

Is true love a reason to be monogamous? What happens when a relationship ends? If we think there's only one person for us, what would happen if they died? What if we ended our relationship with them? Why did those connections end? Does that mean the relationship meant nothing? In this episode, we're talking with Stephanie Sellars,a writer, filmmaker and performer who holds an MFA from Columbia Uni...

How's your relationship with your mother? Do you need to set up boundaries with your mom? There are a lot of problems that can arise in relationships with parents. Depending on how well that relationship is going, there can come a time when you really need to consider how it's impacting you, your family, and others close to you. My guest today is Abbey William a behavioral health therapist who pro...

The voice in the back of our heads, which troubles 70% of individuals, is mental chatter. And it results from having low self-esteem. They developed a negative acceptance of themselves as well as a lack of a positive inner voice. This 70% number is significantly lower since I believe that more individuals battle with that mental chatter. In this episode, we'll discuss the distinction between your...

Discussions about trauma are everywhere. That's because almost everyone has gone through a traumatic event at some point. Everyone deals with it and reacts to it differently. Yet what unites us is the idea that trauma results in dysfunction in how we respond to it. and the fact that the trauma response is a sign of strength, not weakness. In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. MaryCatherine McDona...

Ever feel like your relationship is harder than it’s suppose to be? That no matter how hard your try it feels like you just can’t make it work? You could be missing one of the lessons I’m sharing with you after 16+ years of working with couples. In this episode we’re going to take on the 5 lessons. It can be overwhelming to be in a relationship. But when difficulties arise, they make you feel help...

How can you communicate more effectively in your relationships? Start by accepting that you have no control over anyone else. You only have control over yourself, and that means being fully and authentically responsible for how you communicate. Your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and experiences effect how you show up in your relationships. Are you taking what someone says personally? Are...

Achieving your goals doesn't always require hard work, determination, or willpower. What's more important is your process or steps to complete the goal. Although you have had willpower in the past, did you achieve your goal? You've put a lot of effort into it and worked really hard on it, but did you achieve your goals? Did having determination make your goal happen? Even if you put forth a lot of...

Do you ever get so lost in overthinking that you can't focus or make good decisions? Whether you're worried about what you said, that fight with your partner that y'all haven't worked out, fear that your job will be cut, or about what could happen to your children? These are areas that do deserve attention especially when problems need solving, but getting stuck in your overthinking will buckle yo...

Sexual desire, arousal, and differences in desire happen, especially through changes in our life experiences. Dealing with these issues can cause shame, embarrassment, and anxiety. The messages we've received through the years contribute to our self-talk, especially when it comes to our sexual selves. We begin to believe that something is wrong with us or that our desire is directly connected with...

Why We Have To Uphold Boundaries In Relationships? What are boundaries in relationships? How do you uphold your boundaries? What happens when your boundaries aren't respected? In this episode, Dr. Kristie shares examples of boundaries in relationships. It may sound simple, but there are three steps involved in creating healthy boundaries. Without these three steps, boundaries can feel overwhelming...

How's the foundation of your sexual self? What were the messages about sex and your body that you were told growing up as a child? What were the messages about sex and your body that you were told growing up as a teen? What were the messages about sex and your body that you were told growing up as a young adult? Is your sexual template affecting your present relationship? Or your previous relation...

If you're in a relationship, or, single, ask yourself the following: How do I define intimacy? What are my intimacy wants, needs, and desires? Which ones are important to my partner (or future partner)?Which do I need to prioritize for my current (or future) relationship? In this episode with Dr. Kristie will take you through the final 6 of the 12 types of intimacy. Because it is never too late to...

When you consider the various types of intimacy, which types of connection do you prefer in your relationships? Are we changing alongside with a relationship? Or are we changing opposite of the relationship? If you're single, think about which ones are top priorities for you as you look for a partner in the future. In this episode, Dr. Kristie will help you better understand intimacy and how to us...