Finding Family

Join me for this last episode this season on MUSIC.  I was so excited to walk you through my own experiences of music and family that I went fully unscripted for this (although I had a short list of talking points).  Music is part of my every day and my connection to it runs super deep.  Take a listen and let me know what you think!

How do promises show up in your life?  What did a promise mean to you growing up?  Did your parents promise things to you or make you promise something?  If your parents or family members are no longer here, can you still make promises to them?  What promises have you made to a spouse, partner, or other important person? I didn't think I had a lot to say about promises but something in me, af...

I know it's a big strange to say but hair played a big part of my family memories.  How we talked about it, how we styled it, what other peoples' hair looked like... join me as I explore the many facets of hair and family.  And share yours with me!

How did you get around in your family - blood or chosen?  What did you experience in a car, train, bus, plane, or something else?  How did these family memories impact you and what do those experiences mean?  This week, I reflect on transportation which wasn't something I gave a lot of attention to until I heard stories of others and how they got around.  Take a listen and let me know what yo...

In this episode, I share some experiences with family through the lens of family.  Growing up, money - whether we talked about it or not - always has a presence.  It was something that made or broke dreams, caused a flair of emotions, and even drove up into our driveway unexpectedly.  Whether we had it or not, money's presence was there.   How about you?  How did money show up in your family...

We're back for season three but we're trying something different.  Take a listen and let me know what you think.

It's been about a year or so since I recorded this session with Terry, my friend Shaun's father.  His wife, Lesley, reached out to see if I'd record a session with Terry about his life.  While I'd met Terry multiple times through the years, this was the first time I sat down with him at any length to get to know him better and learn more about his life in South Africa and in th...

Paul is my oldest friend.  We met when we were three years old when we lived in the same neighborhood in Cedar Grove.  We've always been in each other's lives, through the ups and downs of coming out, losing our parents, and everything else life threw at us.  I've never known my life without this person and in so many ways, he's a brother to me.  Take a listen.

This week's episode is with Kelvin who I met more recently but now have a great friendship.  Kelvin was the prior Convention chair for ACPA the year before I held that role and gave me a lot of great advice, support, and real talk about the role.  He hasn't stopped.  In this conversation, I learn more about his life growing up and we explore our mutual love of K-Pop.  

This week's episode features Dr. Daisy Pitel, someone that I've gotten to know through ACPA, College Student Educators International.  She's been a role model leader for me in the Asian Pacific American community there but this is our first true conversation to get to know each other.  In this podcast entry, you'll hear more about her life as a Filipina/Pinay woman, her educati...

This week's episode features Dr. Sang Chi, one of my college friends who saw me through a really interesting time in my life.  He's one of those friends that I don't talk to regularly but we can always pick up from the last time we spoke, which I think you'll see in this conversation.  He talks about his life growing up in a Korean American household in Philly, going to Penn St...

This week's episode is with Dr. Rosie Perez, an amazing professor, teacher, wife, mom, and so much more.  Our conversation covers her early life, education, and her journey into student affairs.  Take a listen! Music by Yung Garaje Guapo Editing by We Edit Podcasts

WE ARE FINALLY BACK!  After some major procrastination and the realization that I needed some help with editing the episodes... Finding Family is back.  I'm calling this Season 2 Part 2.   We return with a conversation with Patrick, a former co-worker/friend from Seattle University.  Patrick shares his story of his family and upbringing, the complexities of being Catholic in a modern world (w...

What a privilege it was to interview Goddexx.  In this episode we visit their complex family history and the many facets of chosen family.  I met Goddexx during their graduate school years on campus and have been honored to watch their transformation through the years.   To learn about Goddexx's coaching and other services, please check out their website: https://iamgoddexx.com/ and  https://...

In this week's episode, I check in with my colleague and friend, Vernon.  He shares his story about growing up in the south, the child of educators, and the ongoing impacts they have on his life.  We also get to touch base about our chosen families including the moment that he and I became intentional friends.  Take a listen and let me know what you think.  

I've been so incredibly lucky to marry into a family who accepted me so openly from the beginning.  We live far from the rest of Ryan's family so most of our interactions are through phone calls, social media, and text messaging.  So I was really excited to spend some time with Jason, my brother-in-law, and learn more about how he thinks about family.  We had a really sweet conversation...

Jen, as many know her "Jen Cruz," and I met during her time as a student at Seattle University.  She was always outstanding and we bonded pretty quickly.  Jen would often call Ryan and I her gay dads.   While we've spent a lot of time together, I appreciated learning more about her time in her hometown of Wapato, WA, her multicultural upbringing, how she developed her sense of famil...

This season I wanted to start branching out to folks I don't know and Mylene was my first interview of someone I truly did not know.  We chatted about the podcast and about her interest once before meeting up again to record this session.  So much of her story resonated with me and I was in awe to be interviewing someone who is so accomplished as a business woman.  Take a listen and hopefully...

Welcome to season 2 of Finding Family.  We’re starting this season off with an avid listener and a friend, Kevin, who was student when we first met.  Through the years we’ve kept in touch and I’ve had some of the most amazing conversations with him, including this one.  He shares some pretty sensitive experiences with his family so I thank him for being candid and honest.  What an amazing story to...

My final episode of season 1 featuring... me.  A lot of you asked to hear more of my story and while it was woven into the other episodes, I thought I'd share more about me, growing up with my family, and be a little more vulnerable with you.  It made a lot of sense to end this first season (I still cannot believe I'm saying this) with my stories and reflections from this season and star...

This week, you get to hear a conversation with Ryan, my husband of over ten years.  In his session, which takes place in a cabin in the woods (no joke), we talk about his life before we met, his family dynamic, and his reflections on his white identity through it all.  Unlike the other podcasts, I found myself filling in some of the gaps because, after all, I was there.  So, this episode felt a li...

About : Finding Family is a podcast dedicated to exploring the concept of family, its ups and downs, benefits and challenges, and how people navigate the influence of family as people of color.  In college, I was lucky to find my family in a group of mostly Asian American friends.  In Tagalog (Filipino) this was my  barkada.   No matter how much time passes, I know they are there for me, no matter...

About: Finding Family is a podcast dedicated to exploring the concept of family, its ups and downs, benefits and challenges, and how people navigate the influence of family as people of color.  This week's episode is with my friend, sometimes co-worker, sometimes perceived wife, Sara.  We met doing some volunteer work with a national organization many years ago and have grown as friends since...