Figuring Sh*t Out with Dr. Nikki Neretin

In this episode I talk about supporting Lili in her hopes and dreams and figuring out how to navigate my own disappointment for similar dreams that never came to fruition.  It is a journey to not either resent your children or try to live through them.  There are so many opportunities to work on those disappointments that happened when we were young.  Remember what I always say: &nb...

Hello Lovely Parents,   This week I wanted to preview my recent interview that Rae Tsai did on her podcast the Asian Life Coach Collective.  We really try to unpack the struggle that parents are dealing with for their teens and tweens and the special version of it that comes with how oppression and racism plays out within this society.  It is a dynamic and heart felt discussion that...

In this episode we explore the idea that all thoughts about possible future events are delusional and we can chose which delusion we want to direct our energies.  For example: I have two possible thoughts: 1) my message is important and reaches far and wide or 2) no one is listening and it isn't helping anyone.  I don't have all the evidence yet so I get to chose which one serves you and...

In this episode I talk about the time in the fishing village and how I am vegan there.  I also discuss how there are more choices in our life if we are willing and able to risk feeling the emotions of discouragement and disappointment.  When we are able to go towards the discomfort to ask for the things that we want, need and desire and can handle any emotion than we are unstoppable in g...

Come join me on a journey through a Nome wind storm, a few wonderful parent stories and the reason's to give up being right so that you can stay connected, curious and learn new things about your children, your family, yourself and the world.  Head on the transformational journey that brings joy and fun through curiosity and not diffing your heals in and being right.  Please get in touch...

In this episode of the teen and tween parenting podcast we talk about why harshness happens at home for communities which are marginalized and oppressed and the need to do the exact opposite at home with a warm, loving and fun environment so they are confident and secure enough to take on the challenges and equipped to change it.  Otherwise they generally will feel angry, insecure and unsafe....

If we tell a child that what they are feeling is not real, or not that big a deal it sends a message that they are not believable or they can't trust their.  experience in the world and sets them up for a lot of confusion.  Our hope when we do it is to make the hurt go away but the hurt ends up staying and being wrapped in a ball of confusion that they can't figure out.  Stay in and...

We continue family month to get the inside scoop on what it's like to raise children with my very new and continually evolving philosophy.  Ted was really great at following my lead and trusting my progressive and different methods.   My newest song, Growing Old Together,  won the best song for 2021 on WNIR and I wanted to include it on the podcast.  It is a love song about dai...

In this episode I talk to my son about what it was like for him growing up in this family with very alternative ideas.  He talks about his theory about what makes him not have to lie and what he likes to see happen.  I want your lives to go well with peace and connection at home and avoiding worrying and fighting. Change the future of your relationship before the new year with the specia...

My 20 year old daughter Lili talks about what it was like to grow up in our house with all of the traditional and non traditional parenting styles.   Lili tells all of our secrets and we disagree about whether she believes that I actually practiced what I preach.   I want your lives to go well with peace and connection at home and avoiding worrying and fighting. Change the future of your...

It's my birthday!!!  Woohoo 57 years old and going after my biggest life possible and want to take you along with me.  Back from Nome and my whole family is Covid positive and quarantining and I have to find a temporary home.  I am at my parents house which is the quickest way for me to return to the feelings of my early childhood. The other easy way to quickly return to the feeling...

In this episode we talk about my recent trip to Shishmaref, a small fishing village in the Bering Strait, grounded airplanes, no showers and shitting in a honey bucket.  We talk about true self-confidence which includes being able to handle any feelings, fail forward and having your own back which means that we don't trash talk ourselves when things don't go as we imagine.  I want your l...

Hello lovely parents.  In this episode we talk about real stories from the moms side and unpack it all.  We talk about people pleasing and how often it can breed resentment and judgement and doesn't help us achieve the results we are looking for which is a loving and connected relationship with our children. Change the future of your relationship before the new year with the special prom...

In this episodes I share numerous stories from the "Mom's" side.  We talk about why teens lie and how to harness our powers of empathy and curiosity to keep the lines of communication open. I talk about he 4 easy ways to talk to your teens in order to stay close and connected.   Change the future of your relationship before the new year with the special promo code "stopworrying" to buy t...

In this episode I talk about what it means to be at the 18th episode from a Jewish numerology definition.   I talk about Mel Robbin's new book "The High 5 Habit" and how to start to do a High 5 practice daily. Take the free High 5 Challenge and start on the journey to cheering yourself on and becoming your best friend.  We will High 5 each other in support through this important, wonderf...

In this episode we discuss the fear of rejection when it comes to going towards your teens and tweens and believing that the boat has sailed and there is no going back. Our fear of rejection will lead to the double D's disappointment and discouragement which will shape the risks and behaviors in the future.  I teach you how to allow any emotion and once you can handle any emotion there is not...

Hello Lovely Moms, Hope you are enjoying the new intro song, Come Swing With Me,  which was on my last album called Elemental by Nikki and the Human Element.   Just came back from Hawaii and a scary surfing adventure which I pushed myself to ride the wave.  It's important to try new things and push through discomfort in order to move our big lives forward. We can all ride...

Hi all, Don't know if you realized but the new intro music is a some from my last album called "Come Swing With Me" which is about how quickly we make friends when we are young and can just play, play, play.  Would love for us to all assume that we are all friends without any expectations and that we have each other's back.  I am in Hawaii and want to make sure to keep in touch and recor...

In this episode we talk about that the only peace we truly find is the one within ourselves.  We cannot control the people around us, although we really try, or the circumstances of the world but we can find peace within our own minds.  Peace that will radiate out and then possibly create a more peaceful home.  I also talk about the importance of saying goodbyes and. not running awa...

Hello lovely parents,  In this episode we talk about my difficulty sleeping and fear of flying while heading to my small fishing village on the bering strait, Shishmaref and how I deal with it.   I talk about young people's oppression as the first time in our lives where a bigger person has authority over a smaller person and how that sets us up for future oppressions and particularly ho...

In this episode we explore the feeling of worry and how to work on it so that it doesn't keep us crushed and small.  We are going to learn how to become a Jedi warrior calm and capable in the eye of the storm.  Sign up for the amazing "Get connected to your teens to avoid fighting, screaming and worrying even if you think it is not possible", automated boot camp. Get your copy of  "...

In this episode we discuss my return to Nome and the wildlife outside my window in the tundra.  I am in love with Musk ox and ravens! Understanding parents oppression and how it works to make the job of paren"teen"ing harder and how we were set up to not be able to live out and support our children, and ourselves,  in their pursuit of hopes and dreams.   We discuss how trying to fig...

Join me, Dr. Nikki Neretin for a fun exploration into the importance of play not only for your teens but for yourself.  Be a fun-lover and not a fun-crusher.  Start a special time practice with your teens in order to build trust, open up the lines of communication and have some fun.  

In this episode we explore opinions and what makes us say them even if we don't get the desired results of a closer connection with our teens.  I explain how our opinions come to be, where they can be detrimental and how to work on changing our communication to get closer to your teens and have a lifelong harmonious relationship.   The quick and effective stay connected and avoid screami...

In this episode we are exploring the idea of being your teens main person.  This doesn't mean that they want you to be with them every moment or not have other friends or will even tell you everything.  What it does mean is that they know that they can come to you if things get really bad and that they won't have to worry about taking care of your worry, anxiety and feelings.  It is...