Figuring Sh*t Out with Dr. Nikki Neretin

Join me for all of the news.  Lili is making it to the big time and we get to share in each others joy.  Please if you are in any of the cities where my daughter is performing please visit her and say hi.  It is great to all boost each other.  Go to HITS the Musical website for the tour schedule.   By the way if you want more joy and connection than you ever thought possib...

Hey Lovelies. In this bonus episode we watch Ms. Congeniality, 2000, with Sandra Bullock and do a deep dive into sexism, what feminism is and toxic masculinity in the work place. Pull up a couch and a fun mock-tail and watch  Ms. Congeniality.  Listen to the podcast and discuss. If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxiety so that you can be super-connected with you...

Hey Beautiful Humans,  Today we take a little detour from Gossip Girl to have some fun with Amy Schumer's "I Feel Pretty".  Join us for the important conversation with the brilliant Author and Tic Tok influencer, Kathryn Ver Brugge, to discuss the intersection of Sexism and fat oppression and where it completely derails our hopes and dreams and even our health.   The same night we p...

Hi all,  Let's really get to know your feelings and the fact that you can handle any of them.  Joy and connection is available to you know.   By the way if you want more joy and connection than you ever thought possible I invite you sign up for my newsletter so that you can dive a little deeper into the way in which you can do thought work. If you want a big, fun life with less worr...

Just home from the fishing village in the Bering Strait and this time I actually was able to change my perspective and had a much easier and joyful time. I also was worried about a Bear as I was hiking in the tundra and how to negotiate.  Didn't have to use bear spray and honestly didn't even come in contact with the bear.   In this episode we talk about how changing perspective can chan...

Hello lovelies,  We start with a positive parenting rep while listening to your breath.  Then we explore the ways to raise an independent and joyous children which is different than the ways in which we were taught.  Through closeness and being there while your children attempt hard things, staying close with failures and fears your children will feel secure and safe enough to explo...

Hello all,  We start with a great breathing exercise segmental breath.  8 breaths in sipped through the mouth and exhale through the nose. do that for 3-11 minutes to cleanse out the system.  We also talk about the idea of not giving into the idea of "not knowing" which sounds simple enough but leaves us feeling like we don't have the answers and feels discouraged and hopeless. &nbs...

In this episode we go over Sitkari Breath which is a cooling and cleansing breath.  Breath in through your teeth and breath out through your nose.   We go into depth about victim behavior and how it will only give you crumbs of attention and some self pity but not the love and true attention you have been craving and did without when you were young. Let's give up the victim identity and...

Tic tok phenom and influencer and I talk about the recent women's we went on in order to fight for birthing bodies autonomy.  It was a great discussion about ways in which to stay involved and the thought work that will help to not get burnt out of feel hopeless.  We talk about the feeling of hope and whether it is helpful to really keeps you moving forward or the belief that you have no...

Today we are doing Lion's Breath which is a breath of fire with your mouth open and tongue out.  it will help with: Do it initially for 1-3 minutes and increase to 11 minutes.  If you are pregnant or menstruating just do long deep breathing with mouth open and tongue out.  alleviate stress and anxiety improve sleep quality enhance mindfulness lower blood pressure boost lung capacity...

One Year anniversary and episode 52!!!  We have been together for a whole year and loving it.   This weeks breath is Cannon breath which is like breath of fire a rapid inhale and exhale that is powered by the naval center with an open O mouth breath.  It helps to cleanse the blood and activate the parasympathetic system of relaxation.   Start with 1 minute and work your way up...

Today we continue with out 5th breath of the series.  a new type of breath called Sitali Breath where you turn your tongue into a straw and breath in through the open straw and than breathe out through your nose.  This breath is cooling during the summer and calms down high anger and anxiety.  Reach for it when you are really upset or angry with your teen or practice it daily to pre...

Hello Paren-teen and tween-ers In this episode we do the 5th breath in our continued breath series called Breath of Fire. which is a fast equal and exhale, 2-3 breaths per second like a panting motion with your mouth closed. It is powered by the navel point.do it for 1-3 minutes at a time and as many times as you like.  If you are pregnant or on your period just do long deep breathing. ...

In this episode we explore another breath pattern so you have enough resource available to call on when necessary.  Practice and make it become your go to rather than holding your breath.   We talk about what it is like to ask either one of your children or their friends for rent.  Decide your reasons you are asking and how to communicate it.  Know your reasons and the why and...

Back in Nome for this episode and the 21 hours of light is amazing. The ocean and Tundra has melted and the weather is warm.   We explore a new type of breath called "suspending the breath in and out" This breath will help keep control and regulate the nervous system.  When the breath is mastered than you are on the road to mastering your life.   Breath Retention on Exhale Inhale de...

Hi all,  In this episode with start with a long deep breathing exercise which will help get the day started, stay calm and healthy.  Ted and I got together before I headed back to Nome to podcast together.  Podcasting together definitely helps us stay more connected and remember the great times we had as a family.  If you want a big, fun life with less worry, overwhelm and anxi...

Hello Lovely Parents,  In this episode we start by learning our first breath series.  Once we master our breath we can control how we want to move through our day, our emotions and vitality.  Seems like a tall order but I have 100 different breaths to work with so you get to chose the one that resonates the most.   The word of the day is FUN!  When you start incorporating...

In this episode we talk about my time at New Orleans Jazz-Fest  and doing something every day to blow your own mind.  Challenge you're thinking and embrace some discomfort to do big things.   We talk about how to allow your children to work on their hard feelings without attacking you.  You will be able to handle any feeling and not take what is happening personally.  No r...

Hello Lovelies,  I've been pushing the envelope and trying new things and found myself at an improv class.  While hanging out after I asked the young adults do they tell their parents anything that is bothering them and across the bored they said no.  When asked why?  The response was "I don't want them to worry".  One young person said that the unsolicited opinions of the...

In this episode we never stop figuring stuff out.  We talk about the difficult transitions of being a young adult and what an unsettled and confusing time it is even though everyone will tell you it's the time of your life.  We explore the power in the thoughts:  My destiny requires more of me than thinking about ... (fill in the blank) Everything that irritates us about others lead...

In this episode I talk about the new name of the podcast or at least the new subtitle called "Figuring Shit Out", which is really what we are all trying to do in this unpredictable world.   Just got back from my coaching mastermind in Austin Texas, should out to Brooke Castillo and The Life Coach School, and shared the pearls of wisdom that will help to make yours and your family's lives go b...

In this episode we are still checking the temperature and bringing on the heat!  I talk about the reason's why you take the emotional temperature in all situations and whether you like those reasons. If you are taking the temperature in order to feel safe and not deal with any. bad emotions you will often compromise your true self by people pleasing and avoiding. If you are check the temperat...

Hello Lovely Parents,  In this episode we talk about where we get to set the thermostat in our own home and not let other people or external forces change it.  We get to have the truly only control we have which is over our minds.  That is the most empowering thing ever.  Watch everyone else climatize to your temperature while modeling how to manage your mind to your young peop...

Ted and I talk about a new habit that we are developing to help parents connect and be able to listen to each other.   The Shared 10 minutes will help create an opening and routine to working on your relationship.  The system is being fleshed out through experience, trial and error, wins and losses.  We want to share this with you all so that your life goes better and are able to wo...

When our children are angry it seems like our connection is broke.  In this episode we learn the how to stay connected and move past this difficult and unbearable situations.  Check out the newsletter to get even more great nuggets so that you can stop worrying, and fighting so that you can have more fun and connection and ultimately keep your kids from risky behavior.   If you want...