Every Shade

He tells you you’re being "insecure." He says he’s just "looking." But the algorithm doesn’t make mistakes, it is actively training him to find you boring. In the old days, if your partner stared at someone for far too long in a coffee shop, you’d call it out. So why do we let them do it for two hours a night under the covers? In this episode of Every Shade, Nina stops the cap on digital infidelit...

Are you dating a human or a chatbot? You’re using a Large Language Model to flirt, to connect, to tell your spouse you love them, then wondering why the spark is dead. You haven’t just outsourced the ‘work’ of your relationship; you’ve outsourced the soul. In this episode of Every Shade, Nina rants about the rise of the Relational Outsourcing. We are benchmarking our real-life connections against...

Want kids? 'You'll regret losing your freedom. Your career will never recover. Your body will never be the same. Say goodbye to sleep, spontaneity, disposable income, and any semblance of the person you used to be.' Don't want kids? 'You'll regret it when you're older. Who's going to take care of you? What's the point of your life if you don't leave a legacy? You'll die alone and childless and ful...

What if everything you've been told about healing from loss is a lie? We're all searching for 'closure,' that definitive end to our pain, but what if that very search is keeping us trapped? Chasing answers might be the biggest obstacle to true peace. We're holding onto ghosts (waiting for closure) while failing to nurture the living. We're stuck in the past (chasing answers) while the present atro...

Your Bumble profile says "no kids, no debt, no drama", but what if you’re bringing a bag of unhealed trauma and emotional unavailability to the table? In this episode of Every Shade, Nina rants about the "No Baggage" delusion. We explore why 'visible baggage' (kids, debt, illness) might actually be a safer bet than the 'invisible' baggage people - the ones with mommy issues and avoidant tendencies...

You are not going to climb Kilimanjaro this year and you probably also will not learn Chinese. This episode, Nina explores why your 2026 goals are as good as the half empty bit of butter at the back of your fridge that you are too lazy to throw out or replace. SELF-SABOTAGE. This episode is a largely  judgment-free zone where we tackle your inner JUDAS. Designed to betray you at every turn, this g...

Welcome back to the one place where we promise not to apologize... for anything. This episode, Nina explores why women feel the need to say “sorry” for everything from existing in a shared space to having an opinion, and how we can, you know, maybe stop? Or not, sorry if that offends you. We’re taking back our “sorrys”! This episode is a judgment-free zone where we dissect the art of the unnecessa...

In this episode…..Nina explores why the female midlife crisis appears to be ……putting it kindly…..a bit of a snooze fest. Why women are expected to be productive even while they feel the bottom falling out from their lives. You’ll learn: - Why your female midlife crisis needs a kick up the backside - What your reading clubs and walking circles won’t tell you - A simple way to take ownership of you...

If you feel stuck right now - whether it’s with your partner, yourself, your imaginary boyfriend, your AI girlfriend, - this rant is for you. Today, you’re getting shock therapy that helps you stop wasting time on the wrong people. Make the right choices and build a better life. You’ll learn: -Why love isn’t everything its cracked up to be -What the Poptart Effect is and how it will change how you...

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In this episode of "Every Shade," Nina delves into the glaring double standards of aging in society. 🎙️ Why is George Clooney a "Silver Fox" while Madonna is dubbed a "cradle-snatching wench"? Nina humorously yet incisively unpacks the biases that celebrate men's age as a mark of distinction and deride women's age as a decline. 🦊💔 Tune in as Nina explores the absurdities of "aging gracefully," c...

In this episode, Nina dives into a surprising encounter with a naked man on a London bus, using it as a springboard to discuss our societal desensitization . She explores how, bombarded by constant exposure to extreme situations and media oversaturation, we've developed a Teflon coating that allows too much to slide right off us without leaving an impact. From ignoring everyday absurdities to...

Tactical Resilience Amidst Daily Microaggressions What exactly should you say, how should you respond to an insult, a putdown, being passed over again, not getting a shot because of your (insert suitable attribute here)? In this episode of Every Shade, Nina tires of strategic resilience  and demands something for the nasty here and now. She dissects what it means to be tactically resilient amidst...

"🎙 So they've Kidnapped Your Goat!🐐 | They have kept you hanging, promising the job, the promotion, the commitment,  to be better, to be present.  Dive into this episode where Nina explores the hilarious yet poignant truths of how life sometimes feels like a never-ending goat-hostage situation. Be it jobs or relationships, why are so willingly to give away the best years of our lives? A...

Motivated by the woman and her primani purse ..who saw me coming and then attempted a quick dash across the street. Let's talk snap judgments and premature assessments! God forbid, that there is more to the person that your premature evaluation! Can we learn to suspend judgment and embrace curiosity? #LaughReflectGrow" in this episode , "Premature Evaluation"!  Follow Nina’s jo...

Who gets to decide who is attractive and who isn't? Who is the lord marshall that will invite us into the club of power, value, beauty or tell us our application has been denied? What does it mean to be beautiful, attractive, in a world that's obsessed with appearance? Laugh , reflect , and challenge societal beauty norms in this episode, "Judge Ye Not My Pimples"!  Join Nina A...

Random conversations with even more random people. In this episode, Nina talks navigating awkward cross-cultural, cross-everything conversations. She shares her experiences so far while building @voueeskin and shares 'how-not-to-connect'.... Follow Nina's startup journey on @ninaatimah . Delays between episodes due to #@&&*(*! This is a public episode. If you would like to d...

Why bother trying to coerce people to manage their biases when we can all just pretend to like each other ? This episode was inspired by a friend and her ' Start with Why' by Simon Sinek exercise book that I was forced into joining. What is the difference between your passions and purpose? Does it matter? How have you ended up where you are, loving what you love, doing what you do? What...

Women, women, wooooommmeeennnn!!! @GaryVee gets an honorary mention, we giggle, we talk raising Black boys in America,  Child Q, duct tape, systemic roadblocks, and blended families! In honor of #IWD, I talk to Danielle, a woman for other woman. She drives, she supports, she lifts other women….because women! An avid gamer, never far from her cosplay society, Danielle uses gaming to connect, to ra...

Expats, Immigrants, Refugees, Asylum seekers - all just words right? In this episode, Nina explores our use of terminology to build, to separate and, to divide. Where does the dichotomy begin and where does it end? Why are migrant domestic workers not expats?  In the last episode, Sticks and Stones, we talked about the words we choose and what they mean. Here are two examples - expats and immigran...

What is the obsession we have with skin tones? Why is the shade of your skin, marriage criteria and why are people so dissatisfied with their skin, that they take to creams, drugs, lotion and potions to shed their natural hue? And what happens when your baby girl or boy isn't a shade you like?  In this episode, Nina rants a little bit about skin tones - the names we call people that refer to...

The words you say, versus what you mean, versus what people actually hear. In this episode, Nina delves into some of our embedded phrases - from things that get you unfriended and unfollowed to things that get you fired. Why we use different phrases when speaking to people of different genders, age groups, races and ethnicities... Also listen to the amazing Spoken Word section by KSoul - listen to...

How many times have you heard that comment where a person's attractiveness is linked to the shade of their skin?  What skin tones are allowed to be described as beautiful or attractive? Why do we even care about skin tones? Why, within a race, do we apply value to a person based on their skin tone? What does it mean for the kids you are raising? In this episode, Nina talks about colorism acro...

Generations of skincare.. ...everything from argan oil to shea....what did you learn from your mama's dressing room? :-) Y'all remember Dettol baths????? Why Lordt Why? What are the habits that we have now and where do we think they came from; including the dangerous one of not using sunscreen... Every time you lift your hand to pop or poke or prod your face.... In this episode, Nina tak...

'Black don't crack'.. ..but it does sag....eventually. Probably the most common thing said about melanated skin tones and yet there are still many more.  There are  so many myths, misconceptions and misunderstandings about darker skin tones from ' invincible melanin' to   ' no need for sun protection ', to thoughts on ' what we can and can't use' ...