Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. The first step in changing your life is to decide that you want to get better. All wellness begins from the inside out, so if you are ready to change your worldview and your life, reach out to Keith or Sheila Hittner for an initial conversation, so they can steer you...

Today I am joined by Keith and Sheila Hittner from Our Healthy Homes. Keith talks with us about his experience with divorce and raising his five children with Sheila. He talks about the struggles that he went through and how he supported his children through difficult circumstances. Sheila discusses how she bonded with Keith’s children and what got her started on her Healthy Homes program. Togethe...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week’s guest Rosie Wilby suggests that when you are going through the thick of a breakup or a difficult circumstance, move your body. Physical activity, exercising, and self-care connect you with your body and the world. What a great way to feel at peace! Like w...

Today I am joined by award-winning U.K. comedian, author, and podcaster Rosie Wilby. Rosie delivers an empowering view of the unexpected joy of heartbreak. She offers the perspective of opportunities one can gain post-breakup and how society can begin to normalize that breakups can be positive and amicable. Rosie shares with us the idea behind her book, The Breakup Monologues, where she shares abo...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During this week's episode, Brian Burns talks about loneliness and the importance of connection. As humans, we are hardwired to seek connection, so it can be difficult when it isn’t easy to come by. When experiencing loneliness, Brain suggests reaching out to someone. Don...

Valentine’s Day can be tricky when you are single, especially after a divorce or breakup. Today, I have family therapist Brian Burns on the show to give some great tips about battling loneliness and knowing when you are ready to move on to a new relationship. We touch on the difference between grieving the loss of a loved one and experiencing heartbreak because of the end of a relationship. Lastly...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today I want you to remember that life is 50/50. It isn’t always going to be rainbows, sunshine, and sparkles; difficult circumstances will arise. However, reducing how much you suffer during those circumstances is possible. When you decide how to respond to a negati...

Each month I am joined by life coach and founder of Self-Made U, Tracy Pleschourt. This month we talk about worthiness and walk through a recent circumstance that made me second guess my own worthiness. Tracy talks about the best ways to shift your thinking and turn a negative situation into a positive one. Life will always come at us with difficulties. However, if you have the right tools in your...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today’s guest Janet left us with two pieces of advice. First, remember that you can only show up the best you can each day, so if you are struggling, give yourself a break, take a breath, and remember that tomorrow is another day. Secondly, understand that co-parenting is...

Today I am joined by divorce specialist Janet Price. After being a child of divorce and then going through a divorce of her own, Janet has some excellent tips on navigating a co-parenting relationship. During today’s episode, she talks about her experience through her divorce, her difficulties, and the healing that took place, which left her with a huge a-ha moment. Janet provides some excellent a...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Lisa Zeiderman’s number one tip is to become financially savvy. It is crucial that you understand your finances and that someone else isn’t doing it for you. If you need assistance walking through your finances, Savvy Ladies is an excellent free resource that pairs w...

Today I had the honor of talking with a high-conflict divorce attorney from NY, Lisa Zeiderman. During this episode, we discuss how Minnesota and New York divorce processes are similar and different. She discussed her divorce journey and how she and her ex-spouse could co-parent. She shares a story of a high-conflict divorce that she worked through and the lessons learned from that divorce. Tune i...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Sarah Armstrong advises focusing on your North Star through the divorce. Have a picture of what you want the divorce to turn out like and have that in your mind each time you are dealing with pieces of the divorce. Step back and keep your child(ren) in focus as well....

Today I am joined by Sarah Armstrong, the author of The Moms Guide to a Good Divorce . Sarah wrote this book to empower other moms to focus on partnering with their ex-spouse to keep the peace for their child(ren). She gives some incredible tips on preparing your child(ren) for divorce, handling the “firsts” post-divorce, and continuing a solid co-parenting relationship. Sarah shares the impact of...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Forgiveness does not excuse what somebody did, however, it is a way for you to feel freedom after difficult situations. As you work through forgiveness, you will gain an understanding of what happened, and you set yourself up to move forward. It doesn't mean you won’...

On today’s episode of our monthly session with Tracy Pleschourt, we discuss the importance of forgiveness. Tracy walks us through the Four N’s of forgiveness and how to work through each step. Holding on to resentment can cause a lot of turmoil in life, affecting your friendships and relationships. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that the person is correct; it just means that you are letting go of...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. In this episode, we hear from three of our guest experts on how you can do divorce differently. The first piece of advice is to focus on forgiveness. Holding on to resentment can negatively affect you and keep you from moving on in your life. Next, working on your lo...

Today I am so excited to share my interview with Keith and Sheila Hittner from the Our Healthy Homes radio show. In this dynamic episode we talk about why I became a mediator and how I work with and support my clients. We also discuss one of the biggest stressors in relationships, why mediation is so important, and who is a good fit for mediation. Tune in to learn more about the mediation process...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During this week's episode, Brian Burns shares the five stages of grief and how they are similar when going through a divorce, as you are experiencing the death of the marriage. He talks about how important it is to utilize talk therapy. Finding someone you can confide in...

Today, we are joined by marriage and family therapist Brian Burns to discuss grief. Brian starts the conversation by defining grief and the five different stages that someone goes through when experiencing grief. He explains what complicated grief is and how grief ties into getting divorced as it is the death of your marriage. Brian provides excellent tips on noticing the signs of getting stuck in...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During part two of our episode on narcissism, Tracy shares three pieces of advice. First, protect yourself emotionally through this long process. Next, don’t give up hope; this will end one day - focus on the fact that you are free from the abuse and able to move on with...

Today we have part two of our Divorcing Your Narcissist episode with Tracy Malone. During this portion of the episode, one of Lesa’s clients comes on to ask questions regarding what she is experiencing in her divorce. Tracy helps the client navigate how to handle triggers and keep herself from shutting down. How to decide what is worth fighting for and knowing the rights around large items like pe...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During part one of our episode about narcissism, Tracy said that the most common indicator that someone is narcissistic is that they have no compassion for you. Narcissism is on a broad spectrum, so if you feel like a narcissist has impacted your life, I encourage you to...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Author and Private Coach, Tracy Malone.  Tracy has dealt with narcissism her whole life with her family and relationships. Today she talks to us about the signs of narcissism. Tracy covers what it can be like when someone becomes aware that they are in a relationship with a narcissist. Many people may be unaware that their loved one is a narcissist and don...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today we talked about truly loving yourself and creating a thought you believe in. Lesa’s thought is, “I am a woman learning how not to care what people think when I jump into a pool in a bathing suit with my grandson.” Next, set up boundaries for yourself! Hop on my...