Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

You don't need a weekend retreat to feel close again. You need six seconds. In Episode 24, Scott and Brittney break down the research-backed micro-rituals that keep connected couples close — and that disconnected couples have quietly stopped doing. These aren't elaborate date nights or weekend getaways. They're small, repeatable practices that take ten minutes or less, and the science behind them...

What if the reason your sex life feels stuck has nothing to do with what you're doing — and everything to do with what you're feeling? In Episode 23, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most powerful frameworks in intimacy: Core Desires. These are the emotional experiences you're actually craving during sex and closeness — and most people have never once named them out loud. They walk through...

It's one of the most Googled questions in the history of relationships — and one of the least talked about honestly. In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle the penis size conversation head-on, cutting through cultural myths, porn-fueled distortions, and the silent insecurities that quietly affect men and their partners every day. They break down what peer-reviewed research actually says — incl...

Most couples don’t struggle with intimacy because they don’t love each other — they struggle because they’re making common mistakes without realizing it. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we break down the top 10 intimacy mistakes couples make in long-term relationships and marriage — and what to do instead. We talk about: Why waiting for spontaneous desire doesn’t work How resentment quietly...

If we had to narrow everything we’ve learned about intimacy down to just three things, this would be it. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we share our top three foundations for better sex: Communication — understanding each other’s erotic style and emotional needs Curiosity — staying open, evolving, and willing to try new experiences Confidence — the energy and presence that create true attr...

We’ve been building something new inside Coelle — and this week, we’re giving you a preview. In our next app update, we’re launching two brand-new categories: Warm-Ups and How-To (Instructional) Sessions— eight new guided audio experiences designed to make intimacy more accessible, flexible, and confidence-building. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we share: Why we created these new categori...

In this episode of Do You Feel That? , Scott shares three of his favorite guided audio experiences from Coelle — the ones he personally returns to and why they work so well for him. We talk about: What each session creates emotionally and physically Why certain styles of guidance support confidence and presence How guided audio removes pressure and decision-making Why different partners naturally...

Last week, we introduced guided audio intimacy — what it is and why it works so well for couples. This week, we’re taking it one step further. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , Brittney shares three of her favorite guided audio experiences from Coelle — the ones she returns to most and why they resonate so deeply with her. We talk about: What each experience creates emotionally and physically...

What if intimacy didn’t require figuring out what to do, what to say, or who should lead? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we introduce guided audio intimacy — what it is, how it works, and why it’s been such a powerful tool for couples who want deeper connection without pressure or overthinking. We talk about: Why so many couples struggle to stay present during intimacy How guidance reduces...

Have you ever wanted closeness… but the moment things turned sexual, your body pulled back? Or wanted desire… but suddenly felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or numb? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we introduce the concept of toggling — the ability to move back and forth between safety and stimulation, comfort and edge, without shutting down or pushing through discomfort. Because great intima...

Most couples think intimacy is shaped by what happens before sex or during it. But research and experience tell a different story. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore why what happens after sex plays a powerful role in emotional safety, bonding, and whether you’ll actually want intimacy again in the future. We talk about: Why the moments after sex are emotionally vulnerable (even whe...

If you’ve ever noticed that one of you almost always initiates intimacy — while the other rarely does — you’re not alone. This dynamic is incredibly common in long-term relationships, and it’s far more about how desire works than how much someone wants their partner. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we unpack the initiation gap — why it forms, why it hurts so deeply, and how couples can reba...

Curious about sex toys but not sure where to start — or how to bring it up without making things weird? You’re not alone. Most couples are interested in using toys together… they just don’t know how to talk about it. In this week’s episode of Do You Feel That? , we break down everything you need to know to explore toys in a way that feels fun, connected, and completely pressure-free. We cover: Why...

Why do some things turn you on instantly… but do nothing for your partner? Why does one of you want slow, sensual connection while the other wants direct, intense, sexual energy? You’re not mismatched — you’re just speaking different erotic languages. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we break down Jaiya’s 5 Erotic Blueprints — the Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter — and how...

Raising kids changes everything — your time, your energy, your body, your identity… and yes, your sex life. If passion feels harder, less frequent, or basically nonexistent after becoming parents, you’re not alone and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we dive deep into why desire shifts so dramatically after kids and what you can actually do to rebuild intimacy in a...

Mismatched desire is one of the most common (and misunderstood) challenges couples face. One partner is in the mood… the other isn’t. One wants connection… the other is overloaded. And suddenly intimacy feels complicated, emotional, or even tense. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore what’s really happening when you and your partner want sex at different times and why it has nothing t...

Every couple feels it — that magnetic spark that makes everything come alive. But what happens when the energy between you goes flat? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore masculine and feminine polarity — the energetic dance that fuels attraction, connection, and chemistry. We break down what these energies really mean (beyond gender), why balance is essential, and how to reignite tha...

Feeling sexy has a lot less to do with how you look — and everything to do with how connected you feel to yourself. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we dive into what real confidence looks like in the context of intimacy. From body image and aging to self-talk and the energy you bring into the bedroom, we explore how true sexiness starts from the inside out. We share personal stories about l...

Intimacy doesn’t begin and end in the bedroom — it’s built in the small moments of everyday life. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we talk about what real intimacy looks like beyond sex: emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual connection. We share the ways we’ve learned to stay close even when we’re not being physical, and how those deeper layers of connection actually make the sexu...

What if foreplay didn’t start five minutes before sex — but five hours before? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore what foreplay really means and why it’s so much more than a quick warm-up. From small gestures and emotional connection to playful anticipation, we talk about how desire starts long before clothes come off. You’ll hear how we each experience foreplay differently, what tr...

You love your partner — but sometimes, you’re just tired. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we talk about what really happens when life, work, and exhaustion get in the way of intimacy. From mental load and stress to the myth that desire should always come first, we unpack why being “too tired” isn’t a sign of disconnection — it’s an opportunity to redefine what intimacy looks like. We share...

We all want to be honest about what turns us on — but saying it out loud? That can feel tricky. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore how to communicate your desires in ways that actually build connection instead of shutting it down. From side-by-side conversations (as Dr. Charlie Glickman recommends) to asking better questions inspired by the Libido Fairy, we share how small shifts in...

Is putting intimacy on the calendar the secret to keeping your connection alive — or the fastest way to kill the mood? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we dive into one of the biggest debates in modern relationships: whether sex should be spontaneous or scheduled. We explore why spontaneity feels so exciting, why scheduling might actually increase satisfaction, and what the research really s...

What happens when you invite a stranger’s voice into your bedroom? In our very first episode of Do You Feel That? , we share the story of pressing play on a guided intimacy session for the very first time. Was it sexy? Awkward? Surprisingly deep? Maybe all of the above. We talk about how it felt to set the scene, what surprised us during the experience, and the honest conversation that followed af...