Divorce: What I Wish My Parents Knew

Tamar Burris is an author, divorce coach, and co-parenting concierge. Her tagline is, "co-parent without blame, shame, or games." In this episode we talk about how she decided to write a children's book called, A New Special Friend to help kids comprehend when parents start dating new people. We also discuss how she co-parents her son and what strategies she uses to stay sane, and no...

This episode is the FIRST OF ITS KIND! I interviewed a divorced couple, now remarried to others, along with their daughter. Julianna Smeltzer is the daughter, and I met her in college. I was always fascinated by the way she talked about her family. She would say, "My Moms and Dads are coming to watch me perform!" I thought to myself... what? Their blended family seemed too healthy to be...

Hi everyone! Welcome to Season 2 of this podcast. I can't believe we are here. Thank you for your continued support ♥️ In this episode I interview Wendy Sloane. She is a mom of two and hosts her own divorce podcast. Her divorce process was long and full of being dragged back to court for financial issues. In this episode she reads a two different letters that her daughter and her daughter'...

In this episode I interview 19-year-old child of divorce, Jake Herzberg. You may have heard of his mother, Jessica Klingbaum (co-founder of the exEXPERTS ). Jake is honest, real, and blunt-- the perfect mix. I love his maturity and perspective at such a young age! You don't wanna miss this. Topics we discuss: When parents stay friends Step-parent divorces When breakups feel like divorces Paren...

In this episode I got to interview my first Dad on the show, Rob Roseman! Rob is the creator of WTF Divorce - a hilarious page made to engage those quickly with the topic of divorce as they scroll. Rob divorced in 2020... CRAZY RIGHT?!?! He talks about what it was like getting divorced during that time, his relationship with his co-parent, and how he's learned to step up as a dad. Rob also tal...

WOW! What an honor it was to interview child of divorce, divorce coach, podcast host, and co-parent: Kate Anthony. Kate hosts the podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide and gives her audience a plethora of resources on how to heal during/after divorce. In our conversation we talk about her experience as a child of divorce and one that grew up in the world of acting. We also speak on how that shaped h...

In this episode Alyssen tells us what finding out about her mom's second divorce was like. This was a bigger deal since Alyssen grew up with her mom and stepdad. Her parents got divorced when she was too young to remember. We discuss what it's like when you lose a stepdad to divorce and how to navigate that relationship post divorce. We also talk about how poorly the divorce was communicat...

In this episode we hear from my anonymous friend, "Jim". Jim thought about his episode a lot and gives us five major things that divorce entails. These five things are things that parents need to consider their kid's interest in. Those five being: The initial conversation The move out process What he calls "inevitable fall out" that happens with your kids Making your child...

I was very honored to interview the exEXPERTS: Jessica Klingbaum and T.H. Irwin this week. Their stories are wild ! They have been best friends since college and their exes were best friends; however, their individual divorces could not be more different. With Jessica having kids at ages two and four and T.H. with a four, six, and eight-year-old at the time of the divorce, they know a thing or two...

In this episode, Camille walks us through how she found out about her parent's divorce at age 16 and how it created a barrier between her and her dad. Now she and her dad Marco Polo each other almost every day. How did it happen? Listen in as she explains the transformation of accepting her father as human, and letting him in her life again. Very proud of Camille, and I cannot believe the step...

Mother, Coparent, Cancer Survivor, and Entrepreneur. These are the descriptors that just scratch the surface when talking about my guest Sara Olsher. She is the creator of Mighty & Bright Co. This company provides magnetic calendars with magnetic options to fill your week with. This idea came to Sara when she put her daughter in counseling after she and her husband divorced. The counselor expl...

Divorce and Children, created by Christina McGhee is one of the most comprehensive resources for parents. I was honored to interview the founder, Christina, in this episode. She is a child of divorce herself and also a bonus mom! She and I speak about the importance of language when speaking about divorce. For example, "step-mom" can easily be replaced with "bonus mom". She als...

In this episode, Harrison "Red" Rankin brings us into the last year of his life. Back in February of 2022, Red found out his parents were separating. Red is 25 years old, yet he is a child of divorce. We are lucky to hear Red's story after such a new change for him and his family. He speaks about how his role as a son has changed with his mother. He talks about how many young men rea...

The collaboration you have all been waiting for... Bella + Grace! Bella Duncan, the founder of "A Kid With Two Homes", tells us what it was like growing up. She explains her heart behind creating her blog and why she thinks divorce deserves the same attention as other childhood traumas. In this episode, we discuss the drama of swapping parents in the middle of parking lots, why co-parent mutual re...

In this episode, Fiona Kong shares what it's been like co-parenting after parting ways with her former partner. They have a now 6-year-old son, Emile who was two when they split. Fiona was sad to be missing out on her child's life half the time. It was hard to find out what he and his dad did together since he was only two years young. So, she bought a journal from the dollar store and asked if he...

In this episode, I interview 34-year-old, Katherine Randolph. She speaks about what it was like growing up as the oldest sibling. Divorce has impacted her in ways that she still exemplifies today, like being on time. Katherine's parents were very protective of THEIR time with her and her sister. She could not be late. Katherine had to have a super-efficient map planned out in her head of how to le...

In this episode, Dr. James and his wife Ginger share about their resource: "The Family Core". Both of them had been divorced and had children before meeting one another. Blending a family is always hard but for them, faith was a huge component of how they found healing and hope. We talk about their experience of being a blended family, what they see their kids go through, and how they came up with...

In this episode, 23-year-old JJ Zykan explains what her childhood was like as a child of divorce. We talk about mom and dad swapping houses, bad therapy, watching her mom enter into a toxic relationship for her second marriage, and how we need different parents at different times of our lives. Overall, JJ is grateful for the divorce. It allowed her family to be fully free and not walk on eggshells...

Isabel had to grow up fast. She is the oldest of six kids, two of which have disabilities. Her relationship with her mom has always been difficult to navigate. However, her dad has been a safe haven for her, giving her space when needed. Buckle up as we tackle narcissistic moms, abusive step-parents, switching houses midweek, and the power of giving kids their space.  Subscribe/Follow the pod...

We're back with the sibling duo, Grant and Haley! If you haven't listened to part one, do so now!! In this episode, we talk about what their parents did well with split custody. We also discuss what research says is best, practicals for going from house to house, and resources for you. I loved this conversation and I am so honored to have interviewed these two. Enjoy this gift! Subscribe/Follow th...

This episode is SPICY! We talk about parents dating, triangulation in family relationships, and more. I've never interviewed siblings before. Grant and Haley were such a treat to have on. Not only are they vulnerable but they are well educated in family systems. Haley is currently studying to be a marriage and family counselor due to her experience as a child of divorce. We talked so much that we...

Toyin was graduating high school and found out her parents were getting a divorce on the same day. It was a day of wild change for her. In this episode, she explains going through her parent's divorce as an 18-year-old. Through therapy, Toyin learned to draw healthy boundaries with her parents and learned how to heal from the divorce. Let Toyin tell you what her parents did well and what they coul...

Hi listeners! Thanks for being here today. This episode I interview 23-year-old Trevor Brown. He breaks down what his divorce story was like and how he chose to push away his dad. However, his dad relentlessly pursued him and now he and his dad have a relationship. Listen in as Trevor shares wisdom on when it's the right time to talk about the reason behind the divorce, how to forgive, and how it'...

Carlie's story is a wild, unique one. She has had upwards of six "parents". She has witnessed two divorces and went through it all under the age of 18. Despite her chaotic upbringing, Carlie's story is filled with hope. She explains what her mom did well, what her dad did well, and where they both could've grown. Divorce was a part of what brought healing to Carlie and her mom's relationship. List...

In this episode, David talks through what it was like having multiple custody mixups, finding out the reason behind the divorce, and feeling the pressure of making sure both mom and dad are okay. He also talks about what went RIGHT between his parents post-divorce. David is one of my closest friends and his optimism and the way he tells stories is so entertaining. So sit back, go on a drive, or wa...