Disability After Dark

In Minisode #16, I talk with my friend Claire AH about disability, sexuality and how academia perceives that intersection. She tells us about her experience putting her sexuality and disability into an academic paper, and how academia looks at sex and disability. If you want to send in ideas for a minisode, send an e-mail to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I look at the way we talk about technology advancements with respect to disability. We love seeing wheelchairs that walk up stairs as ways to fix ableism, but other forms of technology like sex toys treat disabled people like sad, poor people who can't ever get laid. I wanted to change that conversation and so by looking at sex dolls, virtual reality sex consoles and teledildonics...

In minisode 15, we hear from Tea, who highlights ableism around be autistic in the lgbtq+ community, and the effects that has on them. They talk about chronic pain, kink, knife-play, CPAP machines, and I offer them some important advice. Remember, if you want to write in for a minisode, submit your thoughts/questions and anything about disability to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I talk with actor AJ Murray , about sex, race, disability, acting work, fantasies, surrogacy, relationships, ass massages, and so much more. This interview was jam-packed, but I think it was really important and I hope you enjoy it.

In this minisode, I get e-mails from Aaron and Erin. Aaron tells me about a time when hot disabled sex took on a whole new meaning, and I offer Erin my thoughts on how to make museum culture more accessible. If you have a story/letter/thought about disability that you'd like to share, e-mail our inbox at disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I interview musician/activist Scott Jones about sex and disability. Specifically we talk about his experiences becoming disabled, navigating sex and disability, his new documentary "Love, Scott" and so much more. The word "Cocksultant" is born in this episode. You can follow him on instagram: www.instagram.com/scjns, www.instagram.com/lovescott_film , w...

In Minisode #13, I get some crip confessional e-mails, from a listener who talks about converting to Christianity for a love interest, their mom thinking they had no sexuality b/c they were disabled. They also write their feelings around disabled men getting able-bodied people pregnant and trying to get a vibrator adapted! Enjoy. If you want to write into w/ a minisode letter, send them to disabil...

Hey y'all! In this episode, I review the 2012 movie about sex and disability that won over the world, "The Sessions." I have a lot of feelings about this indie darling that introduced the world to sex, disability and polio! I have an included an essay written by Mark O'Brien, the central figure in this film who works with a sex surrogate to have sex for the very first time. The m...

In this minisode, we get a letter from an anonymous person who tells us about their experience with an older partner, anal beads, and trying to keep their voice "lust-free" when their mom calls in the middle. If YOU have an idea for a minisode, send it to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I reflect on my past year of sex and disability. I come out with some things I want to share with the audience. I also share with you what scares me as a disabled person, and the kind of sex I want to have as your #1 Queer Cripple as I approach 34. Enjoy!

In this minisode, I get an e-mail from "Pup Ori", who loved Episode 079 about Pup Play and shares with us how this kink has helped him come to terms with his disability. Remember if you want to write in for a minisode, e-mail disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I decided that I wanted a record of some of the shitty things I have done as a disabled guy in bed, to show that we can fuck up too, and it isn't always guys saying ableist shit, it's me being an asshole. I wanted to call myself out so that I can grow and NEVER do it again! Enjoy!

For this minisode, I got 2 e-mails from a listener who wanted to talk about his experiences being disabled in a frat house, and some of the sexy, crazy, hypermasculine hijinks that can go on. If you wanna contribute for a minisode, be sure to e-mail disabilityafterdark@gmail.com .

In this episode, I speak with Spoken Word Artist and Sex Educator, Nathan Say about everything from being a disabled nudist, to poly identities to poverty, to attendant care to glory holes and sucking dick! This was a great interview, although there were some audio glitches in this one... sorry!

In this episode, I go back in time to my summer days as a camper at camps for youths with disabilities. I share with you more awkward moments as I was coming out to myself, realizing that I could date other disabled people, and almost making out with counsellors...

In this minisode, I get an e-mail from Edward who asks, "Is it okay to draw images of disabled people enjoying queer sexuality, when I am not disabled? Is it appropriation or not?" I let him know my thoughts in this minisode! If you want to write in for a minisode, please e-mail disabilityafterdark@gmail.com with anything you want about disability and I'll do my best to make it a great t...

In this episode, I have a super-sized conversation with essayist Kayla Whaley. She wrote an essay on body image, disability and her own experiences losing the ability to swallow food, and how that affected her weight and her view of herself. Here it is : We also talk about writing about the disabled body and so much more. Twitter: @punkinonwheels Instagram: @punkinonwheels Website: kaylawhaley.com

In this minisode, I asked you to write in about "everyday ableism", and I got an e-mail from Daniel who tells about a time that he went in for a job interview and was treatly poorly by the interviewer because of his disability. If you want to write in for a minisode, send it to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I let you in on a kinky little secret: I am into Puppy Play. I share some thoughts on how Puppy Play and Disability connect with one another. I share why I think Puppy Play needs to do more to include the disabled community, and why I think Puppy Play can help the disabled community.

For minisode #7, I asked you to send in your hilarious sex stories that incorporate disability. Wow, I got some good ones; unwanted visitors, things you never thought you'd hear during sex, some unexpected acrobatics and seizure sex. If you wanna write in for a minisode, write: disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I talk with creator of the Keela Cup, Jane Hartman Adame, about the difficulties finding products that are accessible when you are disabled and menstruating. She shares why she created the Keela Cup, her experiences with EDS, and of course, we go off on several tangents about disability. Enjoy this one, it's important! Here are the links to Keela Cup and Jane's work: Facebook: htt...

In this minisode, I get an e-mail all the way from Finland from Maria, who wants to learn my views on what you need to know to become a sexual assistant. I share some of my uneducated thoughts on the issue here. Also, if you want to contribute to a minisode, please e-mail: disabilityafterdark@gmail.com

In this episode, I decided that I wanted to review the big blockbuster romance "Me Before You", and also shed light on why this trash-fire of a movie was so ableist and depicted sex and disability so poorly. Along with my review, I have included Youtube clips of disabled people discussing the book the movie was adapted from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9bkWJtm-mU and amazing look at...

In this minisode, we get a facebook thread from Olivia about how ableism affects all types of relationships. She offers a few key examples including ableism from family members, shitty accessibility options, and exes who employ ableism to make themselves feel better. If you want to contribute to a minisode, send all your thoughts and feelings about disability to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com Thank...

In this episode, I talk about my experiences going to an event and dancing, and what dancing has meant to me as a disabled person. I share how the way we talk about dancing and sexuality is ableist and how when we talk about dancing and disability, we usually don't talk about sensuality, but rather, rehabilitation. Ugh. Take a listen on why I think dancing as a spastic, gimp can be sexy and sensua...