Disability After Dark

In this episode, we review the 2016 Netflix feature The Fundamentals of Caring, starring Paul Rudd as a Personal Support Worker who takes his client Trevor, who lives with DMD across America in his wheelchair accessible van. We talk about the importance of seeing PCAs on film, how some of the movie is still hella ableist, and why I want Paul Rudd to care for me. Enjoy! Be sure to support our spons...

I just wanted to give a shout out and say Happy International Day of Persons with Disabilities and thank you for your support with Disability After Dark!

In this episode, I invite Youtube star and porn creator Davey Wavey & Queer Sexuality Coach Finn Deerhart to answer the question, "What would happen if You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" We talk about how their lives would change, how their sex might change (and discover if their partners would help them douche out), and what they would be most scared of. You won't want to miss this one! You can f...

In this episode, I sit down w/o voice over artist and visually impaired person Audrey Amar as we talk about her experiences being visually impaired and dating, as a teen in health class, why she once had to scream "No, you can't F**ck my Eye Socket" and a whole lot more. Enjoy! Be sure to follow Audrey's work: https://www.facebook.com/SeventhMethodProductions/ Be sure to support our sponsors: Get...

In this episode, I sit down with Vilissa Thompson as we take a deep, deep dive into our race issues within the disability community. We look at race and anti-blackness in the disability community by exploring Season 4, Episode 4 of Queer Eye. We talk about Wesley Hamilton and his company, "Disabled, But Not Really" and the unspoken nuances of blackness and disability. We also talk about Vilissa be...

In this episode, I look at some of the history around the forced sterilization of disabled people. We examine the landmark case of Carrie Buck, and explore other cases wherein intellectually disabled people were sterilized/castrated against their will. We also explore how forced sterilization still happens in 2019. You can hear more about The Eve Decision by clicking this link. You can also read N...

In this minisode, I asked you to write in all about your stories of being medicalized or hospitalized as a disabled person and you did not disappoint. We hear stories of people who were neglected by hospital staff, sent home to die because doctors wouldn't listen, laughed at and more stories of the kind of medical ableism that we experience. Thank you all so much for sharing! If you want to write...

On this episode, I sit down with standup comedian and author Nina G. We talk about her experiences as a stutterer, and she gives us some facts about stuttering, and tells us that Marilyn Monroe was also a stutterer. Nina explains how stuttering helps her comedy, as well as how it has played a role in her dating and sex life. Enjoy! You can find out all about Nina, her books and her comedy at www.n...

In this episode, I sit down with queer disabled war veteran, bootblack and stripper Geoff Millard. We talk about his experiences becoming disabled in wartime and how that affects both his body and his mind. We then shift gears and talk about leather, kink and boot-blacking help him to engage with his sexuality and his disabled body. There's a lot going on in this episode you won't wanna miss! Be s...

In this episode, I sit down with my friend The Lady Pim, a pro domme and host of The Bedpost Podcast out of Toronto, to look at particular kink toys like paddles, floggers, chokers, gloves and more to see if they are actually accessible. This was a hilariously fun time, and made me think about sex, access and kink in a whole new way. Enjoy! Be sure to follow Lady Pim on Twitter: @TheLadyPim1 Be su...

In this episode, I do another Seasonal Sex Tips and Disability as we start fall. This time I look at all the coupley/date type things we do in the Fall and examine whether or not they are accessible. Find out what would happen for me as a disabled person if we went camping in October, went horseback riding, tried to build a bonfire together, tried pumpkin carving and so much more. Be sure to suppo...

In minisode 27, I asked you to send in your letters and e-mails that answered the question, "What Scares You About Being Disabled?" I share letters from listeners all about their fears around disability. Enjoy! Send in your minisode letters to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com.

In this episode, I sit down with bionic babe, essayist and editor Dayna Troisi. We talk about sex, disability and her experience being an upper limb amputee. She shares that she is a "slutty disabled person", we talk about why it's okay to be messy about disability and a whole lot more. Follow Dayna's work at www.daynatroisi.com . Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come A...

On this episode, I sit down with author and sex educator Kevin Patterson. We chat about his experiences being a partner to poly disabled people; how polyamory really works when navigating a disabled partners' needs, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! Follow Kevin's work on Twitter @PolyRoleModel. Buy his book "Love is Not Color Blind" Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As...

In this episode, I sit down with sex educator and host of Sex Out Loud, Tristan Taormino as we talk about her experiences with chronic back pain and working in the sexuality space. She explains why she loves corsets, why she switched from high heels to flats, we talk about why first class flying is indeed an access issue and a whole lot more about sex, disability and everything in between. Enjoy!...

In this episode, I sit down with a researcher from Toronto's Holland Bloorview Children's Rehabilitation Hospital to talk about a new study that she enlisted me and others to help her on, looking at how to talk to disabled kids and their healthcare providers about sex, sexuality and sexual health promotion. A whole lot of questions and conversation arise from this, as we talk about how we can comb...

Hey, hey! The minisodes are back! This is where you send in your stories about disability and I read them back to you. In this one, we hear from Sammy who tells us about their worst disabled traveler experience; Shawna tells us about the worst dating advice they have received as a disabled person, and Julia tells me how she lived through my worst sexual nightmare, and it was kind of awesome! You c...

For the three year anniversary of this show, I am so excited to share my very first LIVE episode ever of Disability After Dark. I did a show at Toronto's iconic Masonic Temple with my friend porn star (and repeat guest), Jay Austin. This time around, I look in his eyeballs and ask him "What Would Happen If You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" We talk about how his day to day would change, coul...

In this episode I sit down with Dr. Judith Glover from RMIT University who is one of the lead innovators and key members of the design team working with us on our Deliciously Disabled sex toy project. We talk about how she became involved and interested in sex toy design, how you create great sex toys, how sexuality and disability is a human right, and we explore what the future of sex tech and di...

In this episode, I sit down with activist, instructor and altogether disabled badass, Hannah Soyer. We talk about her experiences being a wheelchair using instructor, physical cues and consent, her This Body is Worthy campaign and so much more. Enjoy! You can follow Hannah on Twitter @soyernotsawyer You can also follow and support Hannah's This Body is Worthy Campaign at www.thisbodyisworthy.com B...

In this episode, I sit down with TV writer Esme Mazzeo as we talk about her experience at her 10 year high school reunion, writing about disability on TV and how we can do better, what independence means for her and so much more. We go off an a ktrillion tangents, and it was amazing. Enjoy! Make sure you follow Esme on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/EsmeMazzeo Follow our sponsors for this episode...

In the continuing series, "What If You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" I sit down with sex columnist and podcaster Dan Savage. We talk about his history of seeing gay disabled men at bars, how becoming disabled might change his life with his partner, how disability might change his working life and why he was a little scared to come on the show...and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Da...

In Episode 150 (wow), I sit down with Mike Matlock (aka The Crippled Critic) to talk about disability in the gaming world, how good he is at using a joystick, his journey with polyamory and Spinal Muscular Atrophy and so much more. Enjoy! Be sure to follow our guest at: https://twitter.com/CrippCritic Follow our sponsors for this episode at: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Sh...

In this episode we explore what it's like to try and get to a date if you are disabled and you don't drive. What are the challenges of going "on foot", using disability transit, conventional transit, etc. We also talk about how the idea of independence and sex plays into having a car and how disabled people who can't drive are affected by this. Enjoy! Be sure to support our sponsors: Get...

In this episode, we review the 2012 independent film "Morgan" all about a gay athlete who gets paralyzed and then falls in love with a non-disabled guy. We explore the ableist tropes in the film and the way sexuality and disability is portrayed... the film is super low budget and super not great. You can watch the full film here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwkyuJLFeQE Be sure to sup...