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Send episode requests here Part of the reason why you waste time on the wrong men is because you’re EASY. All it takes is for a man to pay you some consistent attention and now you’re his girlfriend.  And then you get big mad when you realized you invested months…sometimes years into a man who wasn’t worth all that effort There’s no wonder why you’re always so drained and disappointed with men Lis...

Send episode requests here “There’s not enough quality men out here for quality women.” That’s the lie we tell ourselves when we’re not ready to do the work.  The truth is that there are more than enough quality men for quality women AND quality women aren’t finding it hard to meet these men.  Why? Because they are doing the real work towards creating the love lives the desire And that work is dee...

Send episode requests here You finally have multiple men pursuing you, but now you don't know what the hell to do with them ... .so you're either picking whoever texts back fastest or stressing yourself out trying to be "fair" to everyone. Most women think the goal is just getting men's attention, but the real challenge is knowing how to handle it when you actually have ch...

Send episode requests here Last week, we talked about how Women of Faith tend to attract the wrong kind of men—the manipulative, irresponsible, and insecure ones… …and how those "good girl" habits can end up pushing away the intelligent, cultured, and emotionally available men who are actually ready for a real, committed relationship. This week, we're going step by step on how you c...

Send episode requests here That fear of doing all the work, showing up differently in dating, and still not getting chosen is keeping many women stuck in dating limbo…afraid to fully commit to finding love. If you've been consuming dating advice without applying it, deleting apps after two days, or hiding behind stories of being "too busy" or "not ready yet," you're n...

Send episode requests here Out of all the men we date…there’s always this ONE that we really like…but we find it hard to have him.  We wanna hear from him daily  We wanna see him all the time.  And we freak out when he’s being inconsistent, emotionally unavailable or even pulling away.  Some of us don’t realize that the ONE we like…is the one that feeds our addiction to dysfunction.  Like crack, t...

Send episode requests here We live in a time where women have more choices than ever before.  We can buy our own property…we can go to school for whatever…we can choose our own careers, we can play professional sports.  We can even go to war if we want to.  And  even with all of these modern freedoms…we still have societal chains that keep us in bondage… …that keeps us from TRULY being who we want...

Send episode requests here Been having a lot of interesting conversations with new clients about why they believe they haven’t been attracting quality men.  Funny thing is…when I listen to their complaints during our coaching sessions…summa the ladies don’t really have much evidence to support their beliefs.  They’re truly convinced that their biggest problem is not being able to attract quality m...

Send episode requests here Becoming the sun in your love life changes everything. Most women are floating through dating… Responding to texts because they feel like they have to. Going exclusive because he brought it up. Feeling overwhelmed because men want their time. Saying yes when they really want to say no. That’s not power. That’s the sunken place. In today’s episode, I break down what it ac...

Send episode requests here You've convinced yourself it's bad luck, that there are no good men in your city, that maybe you're just not the kind of woman men commit to.  But you don't have bad luck—you have untrained discernment. In this episode, I'm breaking down the exact framework to savagely vet a man in 30 days before you get attached.  You'll discover the four t...

Send episode requests here In this episode, I'm breaking down the W.O.R.D. Method …a four-step framework for when men break their word so you stop spiraling, over-explaining, or blaming yourself.  You'll discover why security doesn't come from men keeping their word (it comes from how fast you respond when they don't), the Good Girl Reflex that makes you audit yourself instead...

Send episode requests here Any woman can get married—that's not hard to do. The problem is the kind of marriages we walk into. Too many good girls are getting chosen because we're "wife material," which really means agreeable, low maintenance, and easy to keep. Then we end up crying on TikTok about husbands who forget our birthdays for 10 years straight or refuse to buy us carr...

Send episode requests here Earlier this week, I made a post about meeting 50 men per month if I wanted to go from no dates to engaged by the end of the year—and the girls lost their minds.  "Where are we supposed to get 50 men?"  "I can barely talk to two men!"  "This seems counterproductive!" So I brought on my friend Kimberly, a dating coach and matchmaker in Atlant...

Send episode requests here We've been told that at a certain age, especially as Black women, our options dry up. That if you're divorced, over 35, a single mom, or plus-sized, you should just take what you can get. But I'm 38, divorced, and I only date men who invest in me—emotionally AND financially. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly what shifted for me to get here. Y...

Send episode requests here You got more questions, I have more answers.  Tune into this week's Q&A where I cover real questions like how to know when a man has earned exclusivity (spoiler: it's not about how many dates you've been on) to why you keep attracting the same type of men over and over again. You'll hear what to do when you live somewhere with limited dating optio...

Send episode requests here It's January and you've probably already had the thought: "I want this to be the year I get engaged" Maybe you said that last year too….and the year before that. Every December you look back and nothing really changed. You went on a few dates, maybe talked to a few guys, maybe had something that felt like it was going somewhere and then it just... did...

Send episode requests here Most women are out here dating without any kind of plan….just swiping and hoping something works out, going on dates and hoping he's the one. But hope is not a strategy. Hope is how you end up years into this with nothing to show for it. In this episode, I'm breaking down my complete dating strategy for 2026—and it's totally different from last year. You&a...

Send episode requests here Most dating advice says to guard your heart, stay unbothered, and avoid getting too emotionally involved.  But for me, true connection means being fully open and expressive—I fall in love without holding back, and I do it without getting attached. In this episode, I share the mindset shifts and simple steps I follow to stay grounded and true to myself when I meet a new m...

Send episode requests here My client Dr. Juliet went from dating men who couldn't afford to send her an Uber to having wealthy men send her gifts just for rescheduling a date. In two months, she went from less than one date per week to 22 video calls in November alone with high-caliber men begging for exclusivity after the first date. In this episode, Dr. Juliet breaks down what actually shif...

Send episode requests here Wondering what it takes to be surrounded by men who invest in you mentally, emotionally, and financially?  This episode is full of gems of how to inspire men to adore you and add tangible value to your life.  OTHER POPULAR RESOURCES: Read my online essay on why the way we date is broken- Modern Dating is Hard   Learn the basics behind attracting quality men and what it t...

Send episode requests here My bestie Dr. Jasmyne went from never asking men for help with her luggage to having a pilot chase her through the airport offering to buy her whatever she wants.  The shift happened in less than one week—and it started with something as simple as letting a man put her bag in the overhead bin. In this episode, Dr. Jasmyne joins me to talk about what actually happened on...

Send episode requests here I can talk to 40 men in a week, carry on conversations with five or six at a time, swipe multiple times a day, run a multiple six-figure business, go to pole class, date, and live my life…all without getting drained or frustrated. When I tell people this, they ask "Torah, how are you not burnt out?"  The answer? It's my mindset.  I think differently about...

Send episode requests here I've been posting all the evidence this week on my Instagram stories…the caliber of men reaching out to me, the quality of dates I'm going on, the matches I'm getting…and many are asking "Torah, how are you doing this?” In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the exact things I do outside of my profile to make sure quality men pursue me...

Send episode requests here You've been told dating apps don't work, but what if the problem isn't the apps—it's how you're using them?  I used to delete Tinder every few months out of frustration until I figured out the skill that changed everything.  Now I go on intentional dates whenever I want (from the comfort of my couch) with men who plan, pursue, and show up like gr...

Send episode requests here I just went on five dates in one week—including a man who drove six hours just to meet me and another who planned a seven-hour experience complete with private dining.  Three of these men… met them on Hinge.  When I posted screenshots, women flooded my DMs saying "that can't be my Hinge" and "dating apps don't work for me."  But here's...