Come Together with Erin + Abe Lichy

Brooke Taylor — career coach and author of Healing the Success Wound — comes on to talk about the thing high-achieving women don't want to admit: that the drive to do more, be more, and accomplish more is sometimes a wound dressed up as ambition. She breaks down the five types of unfulfilled achievers (Erin immediately claims "work hard, play hard" and "grinder," which tracks), why dopamine hits i...

September was a lot. Erin's been running around nonstop, Abe's been holding down the fort, and Levi got himself on a yacht. They kick things off with the Stassi Schroeder show — what Abe related to about Beau, why a man suffering on camera is actually not that complicated, and the five-second editing format that might be changing reality TV forever. Then it's audience questions: spacing out your k...

Erin's out. Abe's in charge. What could go wrong. This week Abe takes your questions solo — and doesn't sugarcoat a single answer. Should your spouse come before your kids? Yes. Is it okay to go to bed angry? Also yes. Is a little jealousy healthy? Absolutely. Are men actually simple creatures? Mostly, but they need more hugs than they'll ever admit. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A...

For a long time, Erin has been waiting to open up about how grief has shown up in her life. But the time wasn't right, until now. If you've ever lost someone and tried to keep moving anyway — you'll recognize this. The repressing, the distracting, the moment your body finally forces you to stop. Erin shares what happened after her dad died, what showed up physically when the grief ran out of place...

Serena Kerrigan is in the building, and she has a book, a boyfriend, and approximately 600 men worth of dating experience to draw from. We cover all of it. We get into why wanting a relationship has somehow become embarrassing, why the talking stage is ruining everything, and why butterflies might actually be a red flag. Serena makes the case for rebranding dating as fun — and explains why the wom...

Okay, hear us out... Erin's not here this week. So naturally Abe brought in a very special guest: Claude. Yeah, the AI. We're honestly just suprised it took him this long to do it. Together, they cover AI relationships, consciousness, mortality, the three things quietly killing most marriages, and whether presence can survive the attention economy. It's a philosophy episode disguised as something...

We're recording this one from the Maidstone in East Hampton, which means we're relaxed, slightly sleep-deprived, and ready to get into it. The topic: scorekeeping in relationships — what it actually looks like, why it's so easy to fall into, and how defensiveness is basically its evil twin. We get into the detail-oriented partner debate (Erin has thoughts, Abe has counterpoints, neither fully wins...

It's just Erin today, and I've got a lot to say. You sent in your marriage questions and I'm answering all of them — unfiltered, no notes, no Abe to interrupt me. We get into the biggest lesson marriage has actually taught me, how to know when a relationship is worth fighting for versus when to walk away, and whether love is enough. (The answer is complicated.) Also: why I don't think happy couple...

We get into the husband habits that need to be addressed (loud chewing is a crime, dental hygiene is private), why Erin didn't change her name for 11 years and what finally made her do it, and the sorority hazing story that has genuinely never come up before. It involves rotten eggs, a basement, and something we're not going to explain further. You'll have to listen. We also revisit the chase — wh...

We've been wanting to have Dr. Shefali on for a while, and this conversation did not disappoint. She's a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and one of the most clear-eyed people we've heard talk about what's actually happening to this generation of kids — and what parents can do about it. We get into the crisis of masculinity and why boys are being pathologized for being boys, the war on g...

We've been getting real estate questions forever, so here it is — the full story, from the 670K railroad-adjacent apartment in Hell's Kitchen to the Bushwick two-family we bought off a construction frame, to the Hamptons house nobody wanted because grandma had wallpapered every single room. We walk through every flip, every 1031 exchange, every moment we almost overcomplicated it, and what we actu...

Special Edition: We're recording this one from Baha Mar, which sounds glamorous until you factor in four kids, an early flight, a sleepover the night before, and a baby who definitely didn't nap enough. We talk about the wellness industrial complex and why all the cold plunges and sleep scores might actually be making you more stressed, not less. Then we get into what's actually worked — cooking a...

We've been thinking a lot about what it actually means to raise a daughter — and this week we go there. Erin gets into how her relationship with her dad shaped everything: her confidence, her career, the reason no man has ever made her feel small. Abe gets into the pressure of getting it right with Layla, and why making her feel safe being herself is the whole job. We also get into the patriarchy,...

Gabriella Pomari is a divorce lawyer from Australia who got so tired of watching families break from the process that she built an entire platform to help couples before they ever need her. We loved her. We get into the patterns she sees over and over — silent quitting, the invisible load, what it actually means when you stop wanting to share your news with your partner first. She breaks down her...

You asked, I answered — and nothing was off limits. We get into why you haven't seen the new house yet (it's coming, I promise), the insecurities I actually have even if I seem confident, and yes, the full breakdown on the breast surgery — what I got, who I'd recommend researching, and the things nobody tells you until after. We also talk postpartum timelines, intuitive eating, the workout routine...

This week we chat with Amy Chan, a relationship expert and author of the new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts." We get into the highs and lows of modern dating, how to differentiate between chemistry and an activated nervous system, and why people are preferring IRL experiences over dating apps. Amy also explains the phenomenon of "over-icking" and how women will ref...

We get a lot of questions about parenting, and honestly, it makes sense. Raising kids in 2026 is totally different from how it was for our parents!  We talk all things kids and tech, including when we do--and don't--allow screens in our kids' lives. We also talk about internet safety, and how Abe accidentally freaked our kids out about posting anything about themselves online. (Honestly? It's...

As you get older and "life starts life-ing," you might notice your friendships starting to change. And that's what we dive into this week: times when we've grown in a different direction than our friends, how we started getting more selective about our inner circle, and how we've let go of the guilt that can come with changing friendships in adulthood. We also talk about clingy friends Abe had whe...

Everyone wants to know how to keep things spicy... and pretending there one at all might actually be the problem. This week we get into what's worked for us — the '1-10 Rule' that that has genuinely saved us from so many stupid fights, why a little distance and independent interests can do more for attraction than any date night, and the story of how Erin told Abe to quit corporate law. (Spoiler:...

We thought Levi was doing face yoga. Actually? He was looks-maxing. And turns out he's not the only one. We found out there's a whole subculture here — soft maxing, hard maxing, bone smashing, clip farms, and a guy named Clavicular who ODed on a live stream. We had to look up half of these words in real time. Abe knew more than he should... like usual. We get into the bigger generational conversat...

We have loooooots to catch up on. Being married in public is its own thing entirely, and this week we're getting into all of it. We go there on the Summer House drama and the Taylor Frankie Paul situation, and we have thoughts. A lot of them. What happens when you do something very high school while the whole internet is watching, why people feel entitled to your everything once you're a public pe...

Lindsey Metselaar has been in our lives since before she had a following, a husband, or a sleep schedule. Now she has all three, plus a 2.5-month-old. We reminisce about our extremely unproductive work era together, and then somehow spend the next hour covering postpartum bodies, C-sections, cosmetic work, the filler rabbit hole, sobriety, and why today's weed is genuinely not the same conversatio...

We’re officially making sex a recurring topic because clearly, no one’s saying what’s actually happening. We get into the so-called “sex recession,” why Gen Z might be having less sex than anyone expected, and how phones, gaming, and living at home are quietly changing the whole dynamic. Then it turns into a very real debate about one-night stands, sleepover etiquette (or lack thereof), and what a...

We get into Love Story , the JFK Jr. casting (including the lisp debate), and why the whole thing feels like peak ’90s New York. From there, it turns into a bigger convo about dating before phones, why relationships feel harder now, and the myth of the forever honeymoon phase. We also talk about how social media has completely warped expectations — and why reality TV might actually be the most hon...

This week we sit down with Vienna Pharon – couples therapist, boundary queen, and someone who will lovingly call you out (spoiler: she definitely did for us). We talk about how the stories we tell ourselves about childhood (“it didn’t affect me”) usually… did, and how those early dynamics show up in our marriages, our nervous systems, and the way we fight. Vienna breaks down her five “origin wound...